Getting out from the belt

Milord

Ines Well, most of you are young adults, and as @youdontknowme every time we read "belted by parents" there are doubts on willingness. Right or not, but the suspicion of pushing on it is very strong. Young people tend to be passionate, and sometimes they can have violent outbursts (verbally violent, I do not intend that they will be physical), and demand to be free.
In the environment where I live this will be the outcome of most situation.

Ines

Milord In the environment where I live this will be the outcome of most situation

For sure such girls would not wear a chastity belt. Not everyone is suitable to wear one.

WriterAlexis

Milord

Young people tend to be passionate

What fun would youth be without it?

Laura

Milord "If you want to get out, you will get out."

Without negative consequences?

Milord

Laura This is something I would like to know from you. In Italy, what kind of negative consequences?
A parent can't stop financially supporting his familiars.
Outside some small and closed communities, I'm not aware of, just threatening to share that a son or daughter has been put in chastity will have catastrophic effects socially.
Every community will stand with the belted one. Everyone. Even relatives will probably attack the KH.
Here there is a lot of attention to violence against women. I checked around well outside my circle, and everyone find the idea of putting a chastity belt on an offspring, even willingly, repugnant.
Believe me, no bad consequences. Probably the parents will have to apologize too.

youdontknowme

Milord having a sexual power relationship (because a chastity belt is sexual in nature)

I mean, obviosly if you are wearing a chastity belt out of a sex dynamic, things get rather simple. The only reason you are wearing the belt is because both partners enjoy it, so if one partner no longer enjoys it, the dynamic is over for now.

Milord About cooldown, for If someone don't want to wait and just tell to remove it. Immediately, no discussion. No space to talk. In your opinion what can happens? How the KH should behave?

Obviously the idea of a cooldown period inherently depends on the ability of the wearer and keyholder to have a conversation. A large part of negotiating a cooldown period is the mental effect. Once you have the idea of a cooldown on your mind, that sort of reduces the association between consent revocation and a "quick way out". The goal is not so much to keep the wearer belted against their will, but to keep their mind on the goal of their chastity arrangement and not on momentary whims.
Which means if they are too deranged to be reasoned into continuing the arrangement, that would be a sign of obvious distress. I would also argue that tje best course of action for the keyholder would be to return the key as quickly as possible - and then try to get an honest talk with the wearer ASAP, ideally before they have had a chance to do something unchaste.

youdontknowme

Milord In Italy, what kind of negative consequences?
A parent can't stop financially supporting his familiars.
Outside some small and closed communities, I'm not aware of, just threatening to share that a son or daughter has been put in chastity will have catastrophic effects socially.

Even just the idea that future family relationships might depend on blackmail might be harder to accept than the belt.

Laura

Milord what kind of negative consequences?

Breaking up with your family. That's not what you want

Milord

youdontknowme

Laura

I will try to explain better. Of course Italy is a large country, so I'm talking about the culture I live in.
If removing the belt means that you break with your family, we are talking about a toxic family
I hope that everyone agrees with this, because its an emotional blackmail

In such a situation a lot of things happen: Relatives network will step out to protect the young one from what is essentially an abuse. In Italy families are often large, not nuclear.
The same will do the friends, parents friends, neighborhood and so on.
The fact is that I'm much more open-minded than most people I talked with, and after asking if I was joking, tell me that it is an abusive behavior and that it should be deferred to police or child abuse.
Since all of you go a great deal to hide the fact that you are belted, I suppose that your community will not support it either, but I will talk only on the specific community.
Breaking up with family is always a bad thing, but if you are fleeing from abusive parents, and getting a lot of help, its an accepted behavior, encouraged too.

Joh

Laura Breaking up with your family. That's not what you want

Do you believe your family will break up with you for good?
If really your family doesn't love you!

Sin

Laura Breaking up with your family.

You break up with an ex-lover, not a family.

Joh

Milord
We recommended it already several time if they really want out they get out.
What consequence can it have if, as they themselves say, their parents love them. Their parents will certainly be annoyed for a while, but in the end they are the parents who love their children. They will get over it and possibly even realise that it was wrong.
But everyone we suggested and explained it to didn't want to take any risks and so agreed to continue wearing. Basically, the statement about being forced to wear it is just a pretence because they didn't want to admit to themselves that they had actually agreed to it.
And I agree with what has been said. Society certainly only provides support and help almost exclusively for the victim and not for the perpetrator.

Milord

Joh And I agree with what has been said. Society certainly only provides support and help almost exclusively for the victim and not for the perpetrator.

As it should be, I want to add.

Joh Do you believe your family will break up with you for good?
If really your family doesn't love you!

But my reasoning here is a sort of paradox. Most argumentations are:
I can get out when I want because I'm willing, but it seems that my parents will get very upset. So I'm not truly willing, but I have to be willing, otherwise, I have to admit my parents are abusing me.
I'm really trying to understand.

Laura

Joh Do you believe your family will break up with you for good?

Not for good, of course

Ines

Milord I hope that everyone agrees with this, because its an emotional blackmail

🙋🏻‍♀️ I agree.

youdontknowme

Milord But my reasoning here is a sort of paradox. Most argumentations are:
I can get out when I want because I'm willing, but it seems that my parents will get very upset. So I'm not truly willing, but I have to be willing, otherwise, I have to admit my parents are abusing me.
I'm really trying to understand.

Not so much paradoxical as complex. Those people have decided that it is easier to accept having to wear the belt than it is to associate your parent's treatment of you with abuse. Just because you love a parent does not mean you agree with them on everything.

Renita

You can always get out, but for good.

Joh

Renita but for good.

Why but?
If you want to wear it again do it on your own terms with another KH. Who can prevent you from doing so?

Renita

Joh If you want to wear it again do it on your own terms with another KH.

But you can't get another parent.

Milord

Laura Sorry Laura, can you explain better? what you mean?

Milord

youdontknowme It is still a paradox. And I would like to know how the young adults belted think about this.
In the last days here I started to think that our prospective (mine, yours, @Joh , etc) is somehow biased. No offence of course, we think the same, so I'm trying to better understand this.

Angelina

Milord it's so easy just to threaten to go to the police saying that the keyholder put him/her there forcefully (and rightly so, if he refuse to remove it) than there is no other possibility to unlock.

of course it's easy, just be aware of the consequences. i never said i couldn't leave the belt if i wanted to, but what could happen afterwards, that was the problem

youdontknowme Just because you love a parent does not mean you agree with them on everything.

good point, that's exactly how it is. I never liked my father's decision that I should wear a belt, but on the one hand I still love him and on the other hand he always took care of me and did a lot of good things for me. Should I just throw it away just because he made a very wrong decision once? I think we shouldn't forget that girls (like me until recently) lead completely normal lives 90% of the time and enjoy the support, i.e. financial and emotional, of our parents

Laura

Milord what you mean?

I meant for me. But it might be different for someone else

Milord

Ines It's hypothetical. without a family encouraging it no young girl will ever ask to be put in chastity. Later maybe, but as you read here, none just read about chastity devices and decide to put themselves in. There can be an exception, I read about a boy, but how much? 95% has been convinced by family, and my hypothesis is tied to this.