Introductions

carg

Samantha Thanks for the extra info. Did you start wearing full-time as soon as you could (= after the fitting and training period)? Your parents must have liked the idea on some level, since there would be no chance for you to get pregnant unplanned. Perhaps that was on their mind when the added the condition that your boyfriend couldn't get the key. (Well, at least not directly from them; I guess they would have no say in the matter if Anna would hand it over to him now.)

Samantha I would probably stop wearing it if I had a real chance

In what way do you not have the chance now? Do you have agreed on certain conditions with Anna before she will release you? Or has she decided on her own not to let you out? Or wouldn't Mark want you to? Doesn't he want out? 4 years seems quite a long time for a relationship without intercourse, and I don't read anything to suggest it is going to change any time soon.

Did you at any time consider also getting thighbands or chastity bra? (Probably at least not recently, given how challenging you consider the belt nowadays.)

Samantha

carg The belt arrived about a month before my birthday, with two locks, I was given the belt and one lock, and I could get used to it and make sure it fits, so I was taking it off anytime I wanted to, but on my birthday the lock was changed and since then I wear it full time. You're mostly right about why they didn't want a boyfriend to have the keys - my mom told me she was worried that kind of power over me would lead to some abuse especially at such a young age and that I could not even notice it in a way... It made sense and I was ok with it.

The deal I made with Anna is that since the moment she received the key she would have full power over it and make all the decisions and that she alone would ever decide when (or if) to hand the key over to me. Plus, now that she has also Mark's keys it would be a bit risky to try anything 😉

I considered the chastity bra (tight bands would be a bit unpractical for me), even though I knew that was a bad idea. Luckily Mark talked some sense into me 😛

carg

Samantha Thanks again. It's an interesting story. I like the idea with the 2 padlocks, although I wouldn't really advise having a deadline on when you needed to be ready for full-time: sometimes the body or mind just need a bit longer to get used to it. But obviously you managed.

That is a lot of power to hand over to a friend, at such a young age.
I'm sure that if both of you really want to quit, you could, either by sitting down and having a serious talk with Anna; if she is a responsible keyholder she should understand that the situation has changed and it is time to reevaluate the agreement, or just by picking or breaking the locks.
But it sounds more like you are not sure at the moment what you want. Is that why you joined the forum at this time?

Renita

Samantha sometimes (rarely) lets us out of the belts, but not both at the same time

And let him out without letting you know? 😃

Samantha with two locks

A separate lock for the secondary shield?

Samantha she alone would ever decide when (or if) to hand the key over to me

What if she refuses being jealous?

Laura

Samantha why they didn't want a boyfriend to have the keys - my mom told me she was worried that kind of power over me would lead to some abuse

I'm pretty confident that only blood relatives should do it

Samantha he says it would be easier if he could have real sex with me from time to time

It breaks the whole idea of a chastity belt. Also Anna is wrong when lets him pleasure you

Samantha

carg True, it's becoming more and more of a challenge, but, I love the dynamic of wearing the belt and not having control over my sexuality, the constant frustration is wonderfully awful 😉 and I believe Anna would give us the keys if we had a serious talk, but... This would destroy the concept of not having control and the certainty of being belted no matter if I want to or not, so I don't want to test it because even if this is just an illusion, I would lose it forever and wouldn't be able to fully enjoy being belted again. The same goes for picking the locks or destroying them.

I honestly don't know why I joined the forum now, if I were to guess, maybe I hope to get some encouragement from not being the only one in a belt 🙂

Renita I would see a difference in Mark's behavior 😉 (I know how he is after being satisfied 😛 ). The second lock was the main one type, they ordered two so when they locked the second one they would know I had no chance of making a copy of the key (as I could do with the lock I had during the getting used to the belt time).

What if Anna refuses, well... Two options, first would be going along with it as I should according to our deal, or I could pick the lock or destroy it, but as I wrote this would forever destroy my enjoyment of being belted, plus I wanted to give full control to someone and I should suffer the consequences.

Vanessa

Samantha

Welcome!

It is a good proof of love your boyfriend accepted it.

Until when do you plan to wear it and having your friend hold the keys?

Until your marriage?

Samantha

Interesting use of chastity belts.

Why oral sex only?

Samantha

Interesting,but unusual,story.

The one year wearing and giving the key to someone else than your boyfriend seems fair,as you were a willingly wearer.

So,if your friend accept to always keep the keys,you would never have sex with your boyfriend(except oral)?

If I may ask,are you still virgin?

Samantha

Why do you not want them to be your keyholder?

carg I'm sure that if both of you really want to quit, you could, either by sitting down and having a serious talk with Anna; if she is a responsible keyholder she should understand that the situation has changed and it is time to reevaluate the agreement, or just by picking or breaking the locks.

I think so,too.

Samantha True, it's becoming more and more of a challenge, but, I love the dynamic of wearing the belt and not having control over my sexuality, the constant frustration is wonderfully awful 😉 and I believe Anna would give us the keys if we had a serious talk, but... This would destroy the concept of not having control and the certainty of being belted no matter if I want to or not, so I don't want to test it because even if this is just an illusion, I would lose it forever and wouldn't be able to fully enjoy being belted again. The same goes for picking the locks or destroying them.

As long as you enjoy it,it is good!🙂

Even if I think you should have the opportunity to have intercourse with your boyfriend,sometimes.

Samantha Mark was never a fan of the idea. But he agreed because he knew how much it means for me. He doesn't like it much, it's way worse for him than it is for me... He enjoys it when we get his key though 😉

As I said a good proof of love,even more if he doesn't like it much.

Samantha after we had to wait a lot longer than usual I got the message

Understandable!

Laura It breaks the whole idea of a chastity belt.

Depends on the reasons to use it.

As it is more a game for them,it would be a good idea,to accept it,I think(but not often).

youdontknowme Though personally, I think it would be a bit more romantic if they were only released at the same time.

I agree.

carg I can imagine something like at least once per month a simultaneous release

I think it would be better.

Jonas

@Samantha

Hello there!! What an interesting life and relationship you've made for yourself!

Samantha the constant frustration is wonderfully awful 😉

Yup. This is about as good as chastity gets!!

Samantha Mark was never a fan of the idea. But he agreed because he knew how much it means for me. He doesn't like it much, it's way worse for him...

Wow. Amazing and wonderful then that he's sharing this with you. That's a remarkable commitment.

Can I ask, what make of belts do you each wear? And how did you go about asking your bf to get locked into one?!

Angelina

Samantha Hi 🙂 I wanted to introduce myself. I'm Samantha (23), I wear the belt since my 18th birthday, and it was my stupid idea. I have a boyfriend (Mark, 24) since 4 years, and he also wears a belt (I asked him to wear it), we have a friend, Anna, my age, who watches over our keys 🙂

welcome to the forum 😃

i don't quite understand why a third person has the keys for both of you?

Samantha I was always fascinated by the belts, ever since I first heard about them and researched the topic and found out they are real... So I asked my parents to buy me one. There was some awkward talking, but they agreed, on condition that I won't toss away such an expensive gift after 5 minutes 😛 So I was to wear it for a year, after which I could decide if I wanted to get the key or have them give it to someone I trusted, but not my boyfriend if I would have one.

so your parents were the key holders in the beginning? did that change because of your boyfriend and how did you come across anna and why did you give her the keys?

Samantha I honestly don't know why I joined the forum now, if I were to guess, maybe I hope to get some encouragement from not being the only one in a belt 🙂

You've come to the right place for that 😉

one more question: i may have missed this, but do you plan to change anything after a certain point? what about after the wedding? i think at some point you will want to have normal sex and i hope you talk about it often. it seems to me that mark is only doing this only for you and you have to make sure he stays happy.

Renita

Samantha first would be going along with it as I should according to our deal

What's the deal exactly?

youdontknowme

Honestly, I am mostly curious about your boyfriend. Since the whole thing was your idea, I wonder how he feels about the situation. As far as he is telling you, of course.

Samantha

youdontknowme Mark was never a fan of the idea. But he agreed because he knew how much it means for me. He doesn't like it much, it's way worse for him than it is for me... He enjoys it when we get his key though 😉

Honestly, it took a lot of convincing to get him to wear the belt. Even I think Anna doesn't give us his key frequently enough (she very rarely does) and he says it would be easier if he could have real sex with me from time to time - I think this is the biggest issue for him with that, he doesn't mind waiting and being denied so much as he hates that we can't have sex.

Jen

Samantha hi Samantha, wow your crazy 😆🤪 hope you don't mind more questions. How do you even ask your friend to control the key?
Has it affected your friendship like are you still good friends or is t all about the key now?
How do you think Anna sees it, it sounds like she likes the power trip

Samantha

Jen She knew about me wanting to wear the belt even before I asked my parents for it and she knew once I got it, we were always very close friends and shared a lot about ourselves. Over the year when my parents had the keys, I talked with her a lot about it and the topic gradually became more and more focused on someone holding the keys for me, and at some point, I just asked her if she could do it. I trusted her, she knew why I wanted it and what I wanted out of it. She told me her view on it and how it would work if it was up to her. And after a few more talks we agreed she would hold my keys 🙂

It affected our friendship a bit, but I think it's stronger now and she learned a few things too. One bad thing is I sometimes get a bit too obsessed with asking her for my or Mark's key but she managed to stop me from pestering her too much (after we had to wait a lot longer than usual I got the message). She does like the situation, though we keep it in check - she's not our dominating partner, we have no "fun" with her, she keeps only to controlling the keys 🙂 Also, she likes to talk about sex, her experiences, tease me and Mark about how we miss out.

carg

Samantha So, I guess in general you are content to keep the situation as it is, but there are some points, and especially for Mark, that you find too strict. What you could do is see if you could come up with a scenario that will keep you in a state of exquisite torture most of the time, but still relieves some of the worst effects. Perhaps on your own first, perhaps together with Mark. If you can come up with a set of rules that you feel would be a definite improvement (I can imagine something like at least once per month a simultaneous release), you could take that up with Anna, and hope she's open to the proposed changes. I'd think she has to realize that she can't keep you from intercourse indefinitely.

Joh

Samantha
Hi Samantha and welcome.
What I hear from you the important part is someone else has control over you. Have you consider that Mark gets the key and has control over you?
@Sara2001 is in this kind of relation. Daniel has also in mind that @Sara2001 will get only few releases during a year after he got the key handed over. To keep her happy he would bring her to the edge regularly. Would this fit in you idea what you desire?

youdontknowme

Laura Also Anna is wrong when lets him pleasure you

That is for the three of them to decide. She has not brought up anything about staying pure. As long as both are never released at the same time, the belts make sure they are not making any babies before they are ready to raise them, and if your goal is mainly the feeling of denial, there is nothing wrong about being reminded what you are missing out on.

Though personally, I think it would be a bit more romantic if they were only released at the same time. They are certainly old enough to be responsible for their own birth control as well

Sin

Laura I'm pretty confident that only blood relatives should do it

Hell no!

A friend often held my keys when I was in chastity. (My best friend still has my emergency backup key).

I think it makes much more sense because I'm able to talk with them about anything and everything... There are some things parents just don't need to know, and my libido level is one of them!

Laura

youdontknowme She has not brought up anything about staying pure

For me, a chastity belt on a girl implies it

Vanessa As it is more a game for them,it would be a good idea

I meant serious use

Angelina

Sin There are some things parents just don't need to know

But the same can also apply to friends, I don't think you can say that in general. 🙂

Jen You should change it for him if you love him like do you think there is some reason he shouldn't get more fun?

@Samantha I agree with @Jen you should be careful. no one is stopping you from continuing to spend most of your life in a chastity belt, but in a relationship you have responsibilities, including sexual responsibilities. if mark is not happy with it in the long run, you should change something.

Megan

Samantha Hi 🙂 I wanted to introduce myself. I'm Samantha (23), I wear the belt since my 18th birthday, and it was my stupid idea. I have a boyfriend (Mark, 24) since 4 years, and he also wears a belt (I asked him to wear it), we have a friend, Anna, my age, who watches over our keys 🙂

Well if that is true thanks for sharing some of your life.
I'm a little confused? Why has your boyfriend a man been wearing for 4 years if this is something you wanted to start in your relationship? What does a heterosexual man wear?
Do you have that belt with the 2 gold locks a left lock and a right lock? If so how do you split those up or do you switch them out? I don't quite understand but other than that welcome...

Jen

Samantha He doesn't like it much, it's way worse for him than it is for me.

You should change it for him if you love him like do you think there is some reason he shouldn't get more fun?

Samantha he hates that we can't have sex.

But this is your choice too this he can wait if he loves you

Samantha Even I think Anna doesn't give us his key frequently enough (she very rarely does)

Yeah you don't need to complain to Anna - you need to tell her seriously it isn't working and Mark needs out more. Twisting Mark's love for you into this thing he doesn't like is kind of like abuse. Like I know that sounds harsh but I remember the pressure I had at the beginning

Joh

Jen Yeah you don't need to complain to Anna - you need to tell her seriously it isn't working and Mark needs out more. Twisting Mark's love for you into this thing he doesn't like is kind of like abuse.

@Samantha
I Agree with @Jen Mark tested it and found out he doesn't like it. You should re-evaluate your situation and find a solution which fits both of you. Than tell Anna how it will go on.

Vanessa

Jen Yeah you don't need to complain to Anna - you need to tell her seriously it isn't working and Mark needs out more.

I agree.

Laura I meant serious use

But it doesn't apply to these.

Joh

I agree.

Avery

It could be a good proof of love,and pretty romantic.

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