Introductions

Joh

Laura I meant serious use

How do you define "serious use"?

Laura

Joh How do you define "serious use"?

Complete abstinence

Joh

Laura Complete abstinence

Than call it in this way.
A serious use is also if you do it with another goal and fulfil the goal.

Angelina

Laura Complete abstinence

abstinence or chastity?

Joh A serious use is also if you do it with another goal and fulfil the goal.

I agree

Laura

Joh A serious use is also if you do it with another goal and fulfil the goal.

What other goal of a chastity belt can be?

Joh

Laura What other goal of a chastity belt can be?

Look around at the forum. Many have posted their goals with an serious background and not as a game.

Vanessa

Jen Yeah you don't need to complain to Anna - you need to tell her seriously it isn't working and Mark needs out more.

I agree.

Laura I meant serious use

But it doesn't apply to these.

Joh

I agree.

Avery

It could be a good proof of love,and pretty romantic.

youdontknowme

Chastity just means to abstain from indulging in fleeting desire in immoral ways. While many communities, especially religious ones, interpret that as any form of sexual pleasure outside of a married couple, personal meanings can vary a lot more wildly - from breaking out of the habit of masturbating whenever you are bored to denying yourself any form of sexual relief even within a marriage, everything is possible. If your partner accepts sexual denial to be with you, there is more to the relationship than fleeting desire, and thus playing with him during his releases is not necessarily unchaste, especially when you are not getting off at the same time.

Avery

A very interesting application of the belt I think is where one or both partners in a marriage, or otherwise committed relationship, willingly accept wearing a belt, when not engaged in mutual sex, as a sign of love and/or fidelity or obedience or some other reason toward their partner. Might be worth a try especially if one feels they have led a somewhat wayward lifestyle before commitment.

Joh

Avery I see it the same. Good point.

Laura

Angelina abstinence or chastity?

It depends on her belt

Angelina

Laura It depends on her belt

why? the belt always does the same thing, it depends on how it is used.

Renita Virgin until 18 when you started wearing your belt? Strange.

why? not everyone starts turning boys' heads at the age of 14.

Avery

Vanessa It could be a good proof of love,and pretty romantic.

It's something I want to think about. First I have to find a guy though.

Samantha

To answer some of the questions, yes I'm a virgin (he's not, he knows what he's missing out on).

I talked with Mark a lot about our situation and he's still willing to endure it, we first had a "trial run" for 6 months where Anna had his keys but after those 6 months he would decide if he wants to continue or not, and he agreed to wear the belt in the same way as I do, so it's also all up to Anna now. He knew he was going to suffer the consequences of this decision but still agreed. I wanted him in chastity so Anna would fully control my sexuality, not only when I can have fun but also when I can give pleasure to my partner.

Going into this relationship I was very upfront with Mark about my situation and that he might never have sex with me, he found the belt rather sexy and he loves what it does to my "enthusiasm" 😉

Wearing the belt is a lot harder on him and what I wrote about him hating that he can't have sex with me is true, but as I wrote he knew that this might be the case. He likes how the belt makes him even more affectionate for me and how it boosted his, how he calls it, erotic awareness 🙂 Plus, as much as it's torture to wait, he loves he can have please only from me, and when he gets it it's incredible. Also, we both think that both of us wearing the belts gives us another kind of bond 🙂

I trust Anna and know her, I'm positive that as much as she's going to drive us mad, at some point we will be allowed to have sex (for example, I can't imagine her not allowing that on the wedding night 😃 that would be way too much and we all know it). And I know that if it came to that, I could talk with her, especially about Mark's situation and she would be reasonable. Well, I didn't test it yet, but I know her, so I'm feeling quite safe about it, while still enjoying being helpless about it 🙂

One thing that might not be fully apparent, Mark is in the same situation as I am now, he gave away his keys in the same way as I did and it's not connected to my situation in any way other than we are a couple. Even if we break up (Hope not!) Anna would remain his keyholder.

Our situation might change one day, I "probed" Anna about it, and someday she might give us the keys, but when and if is up to her. If it came to that, I would love Mark to be free and be my keyholder (he is very dominant and I know he would be awesome as a keyholder, he knows exactly what I want out of this) or if we could manage some kind of dynamic where we would both wear the belts, but the control would be in a different way (like a time safes and randomizing the times?).

There was a question about the belts we are wearing, I wear a My-Steel ergonomic hip belt with a rear opening. Mark has a steel cage with added steel wire (rubber-coated, he made it) that is attached to the pins between the cage and the ring and that keep the belt very close to the body. This isn't really needed as the belt fits him extremely well, but he wanted it for comfort and added security. Also, we glued 2 small dull spikes at the end, inside, normally they cause no discomfort at all (only small pressure during erection attempts) but make jerking the cage unbearable 😉

Oh, one more thing, thank you for the warm welcome! 🙂

carg

Samantha Thanks for the extensive report, Samantha. I'm very glad to hear the situation is as you both want it, and that you have faith in Anna that she would adapt if change would be required.

youdontknowme

Samantha One thing that might not be fully apparent, Mark is in the same situation as I am now, he gave away his keys in the same way as I did and it's not connected to my situation in any way other than we are a couple. Even if we break up (Hope not!) Anna would remain his keyholder.

Only as long as he plays along. You cannot (legally, and without bargaining power also practically) force someone into chastity against their will. What keeps him locked so far is more is love for you than the fact that Anna has the key.

Samantha If it came to that, I would love Mark to be free and be my keyholder (he is very dominant and I know he would be awesome as a keyholder, he knows exactly what I want out of this) or if we could manage some kind of dynamic where we would both wear the belts, but the control would be in a different way (like a time safes and randomizing the times?).

No reason it cannot be both - he gets control over your key while his is secured in some other way. Just far enough out of your control that you cannot use it to bargain for an early release. The possibilities are huge, and if sex with you is the only thing he is missing, still allowing him to experience the device's positive effects seems like the obvious choice.

If you do use that "different way" though, be sure to plan for emergency removal options. Time lock safes cannot distinguish want from need, so unless you have a means to destroy the safe or the belt, you should have an emergency key somewhere where it is not temptingly available, but also sufficiently easy to get to when you really need it.

Kaja

Samantha OMG. This sounds illegal

Renita

Samantha yes I'm a virgin

Virgin until 18 when you started wearing your belt? Strange.

Samantha

Renita Yes, it might be strange, but I wanted this to happen with the person I love and I'm in a serious relationship, as it happened, I never found someone like that before, and now that I found Mark, I have to wait.

youdontknowme

Renita Virgin until 18 when you started wearing your belt? Strange.

No stranger than voluntary getting your belt and getting locked by someone who is not your partner.

Jonas

Samantha fully control my sexuality, not only when I can have fun but also when I can give pleasure to my partner.

I am pleased to read that you are happily living your chastity-dream!! As it's all consensual, I think its so cool.

Going into this relationship I was very upfront with Mark about my situation and that he might never have sex with me, he found the belt rather sexy and he loves what it does to my "enthusiasm" 😉

I'm sure it's a wonderful and highly charged relationship! And I think your bf is very good to support you with this for as well as giving up sex it appears he is now prevented from pleasing himself too. Can I ask how secure is his device is? Eg: Does he have a piercing to prevent pull-out? How rarely does Anna release him?

One thing that might not be fully apparent, Mark is in the same situation as I am now, he gave away his keys in the same way as I did and it's not connected to my situation in any way other than we are a couple. Even if we break up (Hope not!) Anna would remain his keyholder.

Of course it won't happen, but in the event of some major bust-up Anna would remain your friend, but his keyholder!! Awkward! But back in reality, how on earth did you convince Mark to give up control of his body to Anna...? I understand (and probably share) many of your motivations for full chastity, but he doesn't know her as well as you do.

Also, when Anna gives either of you your keys, how long do you get them for, and how does she ensure that she gets them back?! Is your agreement written down, is something held as security, how does it work?

Our situation might change one day, I "probed" Anna about it, and someday she might give us the keys, but when and if is up to her

I think your bf would be a good keyholder because a) he knows to be very firm and b) he's gone through it so has earned huge trust. However, the use of an external referee remains the most sensible I think. Otherwise you can always just weaken and "treat" yourselves whenever you want. ("I'll let you out, if you let me out!").

Thanks for sharing your story on the forum. It's fascinating.

« Previous Page Next Page »