Introductions

Ines

carg
Today.

Angelina

Sanity I'm aware that I was intruding into a community unbidden.

hello, welcome to the forum 🙂

we are not a closed community, we are happy about everyone who writes here. however, it is of course the case that everyone here brings their own individual story and there are individual reasons for the belt.

Ines Precisely today we had a conversation with the moderation team on the subject and it has been decided that, from now on, it will be more severe with various topics.

do we get an announcement of what exactly is meant by this? so that we can adjust to new rules and circumstances.

youdontknowme Furthermore, I do believe that non-consensual use has a place here, as this is partially a support group to those who find themselves in such a situation

and that's exactly why @Ines' announcement worries me, i once described the forum as a self-help group myself and i still think that it also helps involuntary wearers better than if they ask for help on some fetish/porn site.

Ines Use a belt in little girl is sexualize her in an age that this should not happen.

which brings us back to age, which i think is completely wrong as a criterion for judgement. but anyway, i will wait and see and accept the decisions.

Ines

Angelina

Angelina think is completely wrong as a criterion for judgement.

No, it is not.
Obviously you can disagree, but Moderation will be taxative in this point.

Angelina and that's exactly why @Ines' announcement worries me, i once described the forum as a self-help group myself and i still think that it also helps involuntary wearers better than if they ask for help on some fetish/porn site.

Obviously people is always welcome, but some threads will be closed with a moderator advice.

Angelina

Sanity

a short addendum, since Ines has closed the discussion in age to begin, I only saw your post there because of your hint.

With all due respect, I don't think it's right for you to insult other users like this. we can also have a normal discussion.

to the moderator team: i can understand if you don't want to allow discussions about the involuntary wearing of minors, but i would be happy if they would take just as strong a stance against insults. i don't think a level like on facebook is appropriate.

Ines

Angelina
Really they were not insults but a bitter criticism, however, thread is locked since in some topics the tension can arise.
However, it is true, here we like much more another kind of treatment.

Angelina

Ines Obviously people is always welcome, but some threads will be closed with a moderator advice.

for everyone or only for those under 18 (although a real age check is hardly possible for data protection reasons)?
What topics are you thinking of?

Jane

welcome to the forum, if you have any questions we will try to help you 🙂

Ines Really they were not insults but a bitter criticism, however, thread is locked since in some topics the tension can arise.
However, it is true, here we like much more another kind of treatment.

I think in this case it's better to close threads, I'm always for an open and sometimes direct discussion, but with arguments and not with personal degradation

Joh I got one one time and you see I am still here.

Me Too 😂

Joh The rest would be clean and under-age guest could still read it.

that's true, but there are still the underage users and you can't control that easily. I was 16 when I registered here, I could have just written 18 and nobody would have noticed

Jane

I'm Jane (F) and first I would like to greet everyone and thank you for this nice forum. Some time ago, I was fascinated by historical stories, and I became interested in chastity belts and everything around me. I searched the internet in various ways and I also found this forum. I believe that I will learn a lot of information and possibly advice.

James

Jane Welcome. What advice are you looking for?

Ines

Jane
Hello, welcome.
Please feel free of asking, and feel yourself comfortable.

Jas

Sanity, Jane welcome to forum! We don't bite, at least without asking 😆

Ines you moderators are still humans that aren't paid to be present here 24/7/365 (or to make little joke, you're not locked to the forum). So, if something happens, one of you will handle it as soon as possible. Trolls are part of internet forums since they started. Don't worry about that. ❤️

In my opinion, if you're happy to be locked, when you're adult, be locked. 🔒️ Don't endanger yourself or anyone with it.

Jane

James it will be better to write possibly in another section

Jane

Ines Thanks

Megan

carg somewhat more sexually explicit or BSDM-like descriptions,

@carg I hope you do well in your life and your websites but this is not a BDSM community.
I am certain that people like you can be happy in relationships where one person has more power but I just don't understand why the BDSM is required at all.

For instance over the time I have been married I have naturally become more and more lead by my husband this happened naturally without any words and certainly without any beatings. It may just be a part of nature sometimes that being around a man is very calming...
Some of the BDSM users here hold the belief that beating is required, as if I would admire my husband twice as much if he beat me twice as often.
If a man does not make a woman happy or satisfied no amount of BDSM will increase that. They should break up

Joh

Megan I just don't understand why the BDSM is required at all.

If both like it this way why not. You must not understand it. I just accept it.

Ines

Megan

Megan For instance over the time I have been married I have naturally become more and more lead by my husband this happened naturally without any words and certainly without any beatings. It may just be a part of nature sometimes that being around a man is very calming...
Some of the BDSM users here hold the belief that beating is required, as if I would admire my husband twice as much if he beat me twice as often.

for me it is very similar, I find it very comfortable that a man takes charge of some situations. It gives me security and calms me down. I like to identify the man next to me as better than me in some things, and it comes "naturally" for me to cede the leadership to him.
It has nothing to do with BDSM, and as Megan says, even less with abuse.
The other side of the coin is that, also naturally, I am not at all attracted to men whom I consider, in some way, inferior to me.

carg

Megan this is not a BDSM community.

Exactly. And I am not here to talk about that (even though I have interest in the B, but not the DSM). But with some posts here I have wondered if they are appropriate or not. So it would be nice to know better whether they fall within the guidelines; otherwise I might let the writer know, or stop responding (or adjust my own post if I have slipped myself 😮)

Like with spanking - personally I don't see the harm in talking about that as a punishment or lifestyle, as long as it does not get sexual overtones. (It is just not something that would be part of my life.) But that is just my view.

Sara2001

Ines for me it is very similar, I find it very comfortable that a man takes charge of some situations. It gives me security and calms me down. I like to identify the man next to me as better than me in some things, and it comes "naturally" for me to cede the leadership to him

I agree to all of this and I think it's extremely important that a man doesn't need to spank his partner to be a good leader. I am sure Daniel would be a great leader without physical discipline, too. But I think when his general ability to be a good leader is given, spsnkings (which have nothing to do with BDSM for me), can be a good addition to improve the setup. Not for everyone, not for the majority, but for some couples like us

But I can say it more clear: Nobody can enforce his leadership by spanking, this would be just bearing and abuse and nobody should ever accept this. It can only work as an addition to an already existing dynamic of a good natural leader and a good natural submissive and only in a setup where both agreed to this setup.

Ines

carg
You are a respectful person but lately a lot of fetishist threads were growing around forum.
It is OK an off topic thread, but we have to reduce it to the minimum in order to maintain the nature of the forum.
Mainly we have 1 thread to talk about beatings and another about bdsm, they are enough.

Joh

carg So it would be nice to know better whether they fall within the guidelines; otherwise I might let the writer know, or stop responding (or adjust my own post if I have slipped myself 😮)

Don't worry too much. Your will get a warning before any consequence will happen. @Ines handle it great. I got one one time and you see I am still here.

Ines Mainly we have 1 thread to talk about beatings and another about bdsm, they are enough

Good to know. All posting should be moved there and restricted to members. The rest would be clean and under-age guest could still read it.

youdontknowme I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

I like this. This is a good question to ask yourself. 👍️

youdontknowme

Sara2001 (which have nothing to do with BDSM for me)

Maybe not S&M, but the way you word it suggests that some form of D/S is at work, even if it is more lifestyle than play.

That is the thing with all these power exchange subjects, the border between lifestyle and play can be rather fluid, and many who engage in it primarily for kink reasons do involve it in their lifestyle to a certain extent.

I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

Sara2001

youdontknowme Maybe not S&M, but the way you word it suggests that some form of D/S is at work, even if it is more lifestyle than play.

D/S absolutely. But this has nothing to do with BDSM.

youdontknowme I think the only line you can really draw is "do you still want this in your life when you are not horny at the moment?".

And here the easy answer is yes.

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