Daniel Long time lurker, but if you care about my understanding why female chastity can be so appealing to (even non-kinky) males.
Yes I think I understand you and I am in the same type of relationship as you describe.
Daniel Regarding the former, it displays a certain amount of self-control and the ability to not immediately indulge in easily available dopamine's rushes. Rather, she shows that she is above primal instincts
That is very true Daniel, and I honestly think many of the women who work with me at the stores in the mall have much less to give to themselves or any future partner because they let it "all hang out" just like something lying in the gutter couldn't be a fine treasure. I love the way I lived my life and while I was always 100% woman I was never miserable
Daniel hope you might see how these things could be attractive to the average non-fetish male when it comes to sex.
My husband has eventually realized the appeal and the romance of this. It took him awhile because at first he thought I was going to scare other women or some policewoman I know into thinking he had kidnapped his own wife. That has made it more desirable to make things less "fetish looking" even if that is not fair to say as modesty has existed a lot longer than fetish porn. It isn't fair that some people think that female modesty is sooo rare it must be a strange fetish.
Daniel . My point being, I would guess that at least on the lighter end of the spectrum, that dynamic is enjoyable for a lot people. Or, to be more precise, people that enjoy these things tend to get interested in stuff that can restrict and control someone else (hopefully their consensual partner)
Yes @Daniel and I think that can also be wonderful. But what worries me to the point of crying is that some of the married women will make the mistake of limiting themselves to much even after this power dynamic has been established. I think that once the man knows how to manage the keys he must enjoy the womans pleasure as much as his own. This is even in the Bible how once you are married you "become one" in the eyes of the Lord (I know that there are many terrible Christians please don't be angry at me for quoting this, I think this verse is very beautiful and true) ((It is okay to be another religion)).
So I had an period where I was feeling conflicted and I pushed my husband to lock me for 3 months much to his annoyance. I realize in a way that was selfish of me as a wife because "we are one" .
There is no law against a keyholder with holding for some time but it is wrong not because the wife can't be modest for that time but because there are those days, weeks, months where the man and woman are not together.
That is the sin of a strict Keyholder and not that the wearer is a slut for wanting release.
Going to long without a release and the strength of the desire goes around the cycle and going longer than the ovulation cycle and the girl will only get depressed trying to count how many times or what fraction of her life will be pleasant, and how much of the time will be waiting or uncomfortable. A woman may not want releases at all because the release is only so that the discomfort can start again.
The keyholder should even go into seasons of giving the wife many many releases, and this is very important for the masculinity of the husband. A man who does not enjoy the way his wife feels while she is orgasming is severely lacking as a man. So I think it best to follow the ovulation cycle as the strictest keyholding. Or at least follow that for time but you can make the pressure more powerful.
I feel bad for wives who are pushed past this and the husbands who do this can be a disappointment on otherwise handsome keyholders. I also feel bad for girls who agitate themselves fighting instead of relaxing.
