Introductions

Sin

Markus First I start with some Asana like Sport, then I go deeper into this topic

Any particular style of Asana? I had a daily ashtanga practice for about 10 years, now I'm time-poor so it's mostly vinyasa or yin if I've got the time. Have you ever been to India?

Markus

Sin Any particular style of Asana?

Hatha yoga since more than 15 years. Also doing meditation and mantra singing

Sin Have you ever been to India?

Long time ago.
May should go again and meet some yogi - with CB 😆
You were ever there?

Sin

Markus No, never :-(
The only Hindu place I've spent lots of time in is Bali.

Angelina

Carlos

welcome to the forum 🙂
after reading some of your posts, most of the questions have been answered, but I still have one question.
when your parents had the key, were you in the cage/belt 24/7 or was it just to prevent sex? how often does your girlfriend let you out today?

Carlos

Angelina Hi Angelina

It started off to prevent sex. I was allowed breaks but i had to ask to be let out but they would make sure it was back on before i went to sleep. After a few months i was asking to get out every evening so they became concerned on how much i was playing with myself so it changed to 24/7 and only out for cleaning. A few months were like that when i then discovered how to pull my penis out of the cage and defeat it. Once they discovered that i could escape and put myself back in they got me the full belt.

It all depends on my partner. Some times it is once a week some times it is once a month. Then other times i could be out 3 days in a row. It is all her decision.

Jonas

Carlos It all depends on my partner. Some times it is once a week some times it is once a month. Then other times i could be out 3 days in a row. It is all her decision.

Hi Carlos, can I ask how your situation changed from parental supervision to your partner holding your keys? That's a big change. Over the years how were you convinced that chastity was right for you?

Oh, and hello!

Angelina

Carlos

you are not the first person i read this from (but the first man) so another question. Do you think that being under your parents' control has influenced your sex life today? so whether the chastity in your youth led to the fact that you let your girlfriend sexually control you today? (sorry I don't know how to phrase that)

Tjc

Bryan "we" is myself and the accountability partners. They are more friends than romantic.

pestulens

Tjc out of curiosity, do you do something similar for them?

Tjc

pestulens that is an interesting question. They have never asked or expressed an interest in wanted such an arrangement. I do other things, like tech support for them.

Tjc

pestulens It would be interesting but probably complicated to be part of a group of people mutually supervising each other.

pestulens

Tjc I can see that, though it could work as long as everyone helping the others pursue their goals. Kins of like a 12 step program but less of a cult.

Carlos

Jonas Hi there. It was a pretty big change once my partner took over control of my keys. I was allowed to change back to wearing a cage most of the time. I was never really convinced that chastity was right. It was and still is something that keeps other people happy.

Carlos

Angelina Yes it had a massive impact on my life. For about a year i barley left the house. It took a lot of time to get my confidence back and when it did come back it massively influenced the type of people i associated with.

The reason i am still in chastity today is that my partner is afraid that i will sleep with other people. She was cheated on in a previous relationship and has a fear of that happening again. When i met her and started relations with her she came to learn about my belt and she wanted that to continue once we formed a more serious relationship.

Sasha

Carlos it massively influenced the type of people i associated with.

My chastity belt had the same effect on me as well, began valuing friendships and loyalty much more, these things had never been important in my life before that. So a very positive effect.
Would you say that this change in who you associate with was positive in your life? Or is it a change you resent in a way?

Carlos

Sasha Hi Sasha i would struggle to say this was a positive change. I know i was having more fun before the change.

At first i very much resented it and i still do to a lesser extent now. If this relationship was to end i am never going to wear a belt / cage again.

Sasha

Carlos I can understand that, seems like you’ve never really accepted or wanted it.
Is there a possibility if your relationship progressed to marriage you wouldn’t need to wear it anymore? Or maybe only at certain times, like a business trip?

MissBlossom

Carlos At first i very much resented it and i still do to a lesser extent now. If this relationship was to end i am never going to wear a belt / cage again.

If you really feel this way, why do you wear it now?

It sounds like you might be building a relationship on resentment and distrust. Maybe you should talk with her about what you each want, and whether you can both get what you want out of this relationship.

Carlos

Sasha Yea i never wanted this to happen. I have accepted it a little but i am still not overly happy about it.

Yea getting married is a possibility but i would like not to wear all the time. Yea i would be understanding if i was on a night out with my friends or away somewhere.

Sasha

Carlos I mean I’m the least qualified to give relationship advice, being the kind of girl that hurt her. But I don’t get the feeling you are in a good situation. Seems like you were forced into this, then the rules became overbearing without your input.
Now your current partner is forcing you into this.
My belt was the best thing that ever happened to me in so many ways. But seems like you’re the opposite. It’s never helped you, it’s changed your mental state in various negative ways, as well as negatively affecting your social life. Please give careful consideration to this relationship continuing, it doesn’t sound healthy verging on abusive.
She can be as mad as she wants at girls like me, I earned that. You don’t deserve it, and deserve to be in control unless giving that up brings you happiness, which it doesn’t seem like it is.

Carlos

MissBlossom Well i am guessing you know why am still wearing it now. I have my reasons, i do not like them but there are other factors in play.

I have had long and in depth conversations with bot my parents and my current partner on my position. If i am honest i do not want this but the people in my life want this.

MissBlossom

Carlos Well i am guessing you know why am still wearing it now.

I don't know for sure. My guess is that you love your partner very much, you want to make her happy, and you don't want to risk losing her.

However, resentment usually grows over time, and if this makes you miserable now there's a good chance that it will make you more miserable next year and even more miserable the year after that. And that will eat away at what's good about your relationship.

I've seen it many times in my life, though not with chastity. If you can make your peace with being in chastity forever, great. If you can't, then you should consider stopping. It's your body. She should also want to make you happy, and hopefully she wants that enough to respect your right to consent or not to having a restraint locked on your body.

She should also understand that your parents made you miserable by forcing it on you against your will and it's not fun or kinky for you.

Joh

Carlos I agree fuly with @MissBlossom . It is your life and your decision to wear it or not and If your partner loves you she will ovecome her worry. Talk with her to find a solution which fits both of you. If she still insist at the current Status she is the wrong one.
Sorry to say it but better an end with Horror than a Horror without end.

Jonas

Carlos If i am honest i do not want this but the people in my life want this.

Hey Carlos,

Phew! I am so sorry to read this!! I've come to realise, over years, that a chastity belt is right for me, it's a good fit, it makes me happier and healthier and the people in my life can see this and help me to live the way I want/need to live.

Wearing a belt for others? Yeah, okay, if you really want, but if chastity is not a good fit for you, (and you're certainly writing along these lines) then every moment you're locked is time-lost, time at an age you're never going to get back to.

In your situation I would put my foot down and say a firm "No" to wearing a chastity device and take control of my body. But I would do this in order to give myself a genuinely free choice. Only when I were free to accept or reject chastity without force or emotional blackmail would I be free to give that gift to my partner if I wanted to, and if I thought it was a good idea.

Carlos I have had long and in depth conversations with bot my parents and my current partner on my position.

The conversation required here is with yourself imo.

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