Joh Ultimately, it's in the eye of the beholder what it is for him.

right and that's exactly why i disagree and say that there are these differences and the forum used to have clear positions that we are talking about serious use here

    I want to state, that I totally appreciate @Ines and @Laura efforts to remove underage topics. Those topics are why am not around here as much as I would like. I think there are valuable discussions here; however, the underage topics definately hold me back. Plus those topics have gained this fourm a rather bad reputation in many on-line communities.

      JonesMacGyver

      Thanks Jones. However those conversations do not exist here since a long time ago, and everyday I try to find old inadequate posts and erase them.
      I have to say that part of bad fame comes for lies that even currently are spread in some servers, (I joined some of them to be aware), when this forum does not have bad content.
      A problem for that people , however we had not proper topics, is that they are pervs and this community is about other belt usage, and it seems annoy them.

          now that i have been able to read the original post, i would like to give some advice. @Tabletop.
          you can certainly tell your friend what's going on with you, but be careful and make them promise to keep it between you and only do it if you have a high level of trust

            Milord what if the friend, to help of course, will tell a teacher?

            My best friend could have done it too, but she didn't do it because friends normally don't do things behind the back of the person concerned, at least they shouldn't do it

                Angelina you have been lucky, but can you be sure? Want to risk? And maybe he just tell his parent and they go to the authority
                Meaning well of course

                    Ines You are going a great job. I have to say, I don't see any of those conversions... that are not handled like this one was.

                    THANKS for your efforts!!

                      Milord you have been lucky, but can you be sure? Want to risk?

                      Of course you can't be sure, you never can when you tell someone about a chastity device, you have to consider whether the trust is great enough for the other person to remain silent. Friends shouldn't do actions behind someone else's back, they want to talk honestly about it if they think something is completely wrong

                          Angelina I know that our opinion differs, but if discover that a friend of mine is trapped, I will not just acknowledge it, I will have acted. I would have gone to authorities or to my parents (that will end with authorities.). Maybe this makes me a bad person, but still this is what would have happened. And since I'm sure I will not be the only one, its a big risk

                              Milord You would probably be upfront with that friend that you would speak up though, if he asked you to keep a secret of such nature before revealing it to you.

                                  youdontknowme you are right, but me, at 15, was a kid. Not sure I would have thought about commitment, trust and so on. I would have just tried to do the right thing. As I do today, but with much more tools

                                    Milord Maybe this makes me a bad person,

                                    no, it doesn't, but i also wrote that he should make his friend promise to keep it a secret. it wouldn't make you a bad person if you went to the authorities, but i expect a friend to keep his/her promises