Hi all, I haven't found a post like this, so here I am
This is about knowing the evolution of wearing a chastity belt/cage. This forum is about wearing a chastity belt until marriage. But my perception, and here is the reason for the post, is that marriage, especially the classical one between man and woman, with the key being handed by parents to the husband, is rare. Of course, there are a lot of users that don't write anymore, so it's impossible to know. My question for all of you is: What is the outcome for you (or for someone you know)? The desired one, the real one, the potential one, of wearing the belt?

    I used to masturbate excessively, probably related to ADHD. Wearing a cage helped with that, and helped me get more confident in talking to girls. Now I don't masturbate, I have a long-term girlfriend, and I get to enjoy really good sex at a sensible frequency (except when my girlfriend thinks it's fun to deny me for longer...).

    Milord The goal of my chastity is to remain committed to the positive changes I’ve made in my life and allow me to focus on finding a partner who really cares for me. It may not be till marriage but that is the goal.

      Milord

      the result is that i am happily married and successful in my studies/work. from my point of view it would have been possible without the belt, but well...

        The outcome is that it brings my partner and I closer together, we maintain intimacy even when we're apart, and it helps to create a shared understanding of our individual wants, needs and desires.

        On a personal level I enjoy the challenge. It's like yoga. It allows me to dive deep into my own psyche and push my physical, mental and emotional limits.

        Oh, and the orgasms are explosive.

          Sin
          Thank you for Sharing your view and experiance. It brings a different aspect on it which I find great.

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              Joh What about yourself Joh? How did you end up here?

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                  Sin I already wrote this at the beginning, but I'd like to write it again.
                  I find the idea fascinating if she wears the CB for me. It's a huge gift to me, which makes the relationship more intense. Because it demands far-sighted and responsible behaviour from me. That's why I am just as strongly connected to her.
                  I stayed to contribute my, hopefully, sensible and realistic views as a counterweight to many absurd ideas. It seems to have made a difference here and there.🤔😃

                      Joh

                      I confirm you have made the difference. You have been one of the wisest and most mindful presence here

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                        Sin The outcome is that it brings my partner and I closer together, we maintain intimacy even when we're apart

                        I wish I had written that.

                            Avery for me it is the same as you and @Sin

                            And it worked very well. My wife and I have never been so close. Honestly I'm not sure if it's the cause or the effect, but for sure it works.

                            I also have to say that my interest in preventing wandering fingers is limited. For me is about owning her. I have to say, it is shared by my wife

                                Joh

                                your posts are some of the most sensible on here, but i sometimes forget that your girlfriend wears a belt herself 😉

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                                    Milord And it worked very well. My wife and I have never been so close.

                                    Since I've just started my experiment wearing a belt as a part of a relationship I can only hope we achieve the same result you folks did. I must admit his kind of WTF response to my proposing a contract makes me fear he is not really interested in the nature of our relationship (e.g. like the closeness you mention) beyond the sexual part of it.

                                        Angelina You Mix it with someone else. I would be more than Happy If she would.

                                            Avery

                                            I don't know you and I can only speculate, but let me explain better the closeness we feel. We are married couple, living together. The belt is something I'm deeply involved in. Opening, closing, cleaning, inspecting... A lot of things that made us closer because the belt makes my wife dependent and in need of care, emotional and physical. If you live apart, this can hardly work. Then of course is about finding what works for you. Hope I have been helpful

                                                I have several desired outcomes from wearing a belt. It prevents me from spending a lot of time masturbating which feels good to me and is easy to spend a lot of time doing. A second outcome is the prevention of mistakes resulting from meeting someone attractive (or not) and quickly becoming intimate with them. A side benefit of this is that I don't automatically view women as primarily potential sex partners. This makes me a better person, I think.

                                                Milord Hope I have been helpful

                                                Yes, that is helpful. The things you describe are not a part of my relationship and this is not good, but may come. I don't know.

                                                    Avery It is on you which way you want to go in your relationship. I can only say test it, feel is it right, if not leave it and try something new.
                                                    Important is what make you happy not someone else.

                                                      Joh You Mix it with someone else. I would be more than Happy If she would.

                                                      no sorry, I didn't understand that you only meant it theoretically 😂

                                                        2 months later

                                                        I made the decision to lock myself in a chastity cage because of excessive masturbation which was the cause of many neglects in everyday life and at work. Thinking about this moment of pleasure during the day, it caused lack of focus, delays, neglect of more important things in life and work that I left until the last minute. After the pleasure, I felt a sense of guilt due to lack of willpower and lack of self-denial due to giving in to temptation.

                                                        When I wear a chastity cage and the keys are locked in the box for a certain time, I know that there is no turning back and I have to stay in it, and pleasure is impossible. Then I focus on the things that I neglected through masturbation, I focus on the implementation of my intended goals and duties, which helps to suppress the frustration caused by the lack of pleasure. I am more attentive, productive, focused, which is also visible at work. Chastity also helps me to exercise willpower when the time of locking the keys ends. If I don't feel uncomfortable wearing the cage, which is becoming rarer, I try my best to resist the temptation to leave and extend the time I lock the keys.

                                                        Even though this is the beginning of my journey of being locked in a chastity, I don't regret making this decision because it has brought me many positive changes. And I am sure there will be even more when I give the keys to KH and am locked in 24/7.