I have decided to stay away from the forum. I'm tired and I don't like the many discussions that cause little to no understanding among the participants. I also see a development here since Ines is no longer moderating and no one else is doing it that I don't like.

I wish you all the best for the future and do what you want with the forum. It's no longer mine.

    Joh @Laura is right. It is certainly a pity. The forum has become more about pushing person viewpoints and telling other people what they should do and think. Many of the arguments (especially about legality) are wrong, made up, or only apply to a specific circumstances (but are stated as universal.).
    When the forum was providing help for wearers, potential wearers, and keyholders, it was much more helpful (and friendlier)

        Joh

        it's a pity, i hope you might reconsider in the future

        Laura And it's pity

        maybe we need a new moderator

        Tjc When the forum was providing help for wearers, potential wearers, and keyholders, it was much more helpful (and friendlier)

        i agree, i hope we get back to this point one day. it's sad when sensible users like @Joh leave the forum. i didn't always agree with him, but at least he always tried to help and let everyone have their opinion

              I definitely feel you, that this forum lost a big voice for reason when Ines stepped back. There were many things we disagreed on, but she always encouraged a healthy culture of discourse, mutual respect for people of different views and a consent-first mentality. The forum is not what it was when she was active.

              Personally, I am not a fan of big, dramatic farewells, so while it feels like many respectable people are leaving the forum at the moment, I am not inclined to follow just yet. I would rather fade away quietly, but there are still a few people here that I have no other form of contact with. I am happy that I still know some places you frequent, Joh. Just like with Milord, I will miss your presence here, but it is probably in your best interest to put some distance between you and this place.

                Seems like there are a lot of people against unwed Chasity in the unwed chastity forum lol.

                  PigtailSam lot of people against need Chasity in the unwed chastity forum

                  Because all opinions are welcomed

                    PigtailSam Seems like there are a lot of people against unwed Chasity in the unwed chastity forum lol.

                    A lot of people realise it has very little to do with the wider chastity community, has "information" that is clearly dreamt up by incels who have never even seen a vagina, and that it's a magnet for morally bankrupt people with weird incest fantasies who are probably now on a list somewhere.

                    I'm sad to see you go Joh, albeit not surprised. You were always one of the good ones. You managed to stay civil and be the voice of reason (god knows I can't). Come say hi sometime, I think you know where to find me.

                    /J

                        youdontknowme The forum is not what it was when she was active.

                        i would even put the point a bit earlier, when @Vanessa "left" the forum (nobody really knows what happened to her), but yes, even if i didn't always agree with @Ines she made a great contribution to the forum, i have the feeling that in many topics the division is getting bigger and bigger

                            Joh Farewell. Can't say I'm sad after you accused me of so many things which weren't true.

                              Sin I'm sad to see you go Joh, albeit not surprised. You were always one of the good ones. You managed to stay civil and be the voice of reason (god knows I can't). Come say hi sometime, I think you know where to find me.

                              Thank you and @youdontknowme and @Angelina and all Others for the kind words. It builds me up that you and others feel this way.
                              @Sin Sorry, I am not sure, beside of here, I can find you. My contact is in my Profile.

                              @Marder
                              You are one If the reason I left. You can be proud of yourself for you this success.

                                  Joh You are one If the reason I left

                                  What did he do?

                                    Joh Thank you and @youdontknowme and @Angelina and all Others for the kind words. It builds me up that you and others feel this way.

                                    maybe we should focus more on mutual help and moral support, the users should feel comfortable again and share their thoughts. i feel it is a great loss that you are leaving, you always tried to look at each case individually and help. maybe you will think about it again 🙂

                                      @Angelina is correct. You contributed a lot of reasonableness to the forum. You will be missed. I hope you eventually return.

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