Our families

Angelina

i am not a mother yet (is not possible with cb either) but i take over the education from my father who told me i had the same rules as when i was a boy 😉

Ines

Angelina

Angelina i am not a mother yet (is not possible with cb either) but i take over the education from my father who told me i had the same rules as when i was a boy 😉

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Good response!! 😂
But, think in ALL the families we know. Do not they care more of their girls than their boys?
I am pretty sure that your father, even he says it, he would not treat exactly same if you would have a brother.

Angelina

Ines

I understand what you're saying, but I can't prove it 😉

i must believe my father that. i think he means it theoretically also so, whether he would act also so if he had a son is again another question

Vanessa

Sara2001

Same rules for us,except we have the same amount of tasks(but not all the same),and he can't tell me to do his,or give me tasks.

Good he(almost?)never does it,however.

In my house,if one of us is punished,a part of the punishment can be to do some of the tasks the other one usually do.

Ines n my home too, but most of times I prefer, and even we changed chores, I do not like at all the bees (I now... and you are right, but I do not like them), and my brother hates the ironing (thankfully se now has a girlfriend for ironing uniforms band clothes 😅), so if I had garden chores and he had to do something into home, we had a deal!

We can do it too,but must ask our parents if they allow us to swap tasks.Generally,they're ok with it.

Ines Not in my home, but in your lifestyle I think it was expected.

Yes,not illogical in her case.

Angelina i understand why your parents treat you and your brother differently, this is the case in many families

but I would definitely treat my children the same later on, at least in terms of penalties and rules, but also in terms of tasks and permission 😉

Not sure in my case.I can adapt some rules depending on the gender.But I think the punishment would be the same for both.

Angelina Is your brother older than you and your sister?
if so, i can understand it (even if i would never support it)
if no, it's an absurd thing for me.

Not that much in her house.It seems her parents think that men should be "higher" than women,no matter the age...

Ines I think that you say that because you are not, fortunately, still a mom. Every family I met, in more or less way, protect more the girls. Even the brothers take care and worry for the is sisters.
It is natural, and I think that, In general we should let be caressed.

I think too we tend to protect more the daughters,and I think too it is natural.

Angelina i must believe my father that. i think he means it theoretically also so, whether he would act also so if he had a son is again another question

I think too he can be sincere when telling it to you,but would have acted differently if he had a son too.

Sara2001

Angelina it's an absurd thing for me.

Because it is completely unthinkable that man and woman are threatend differently. The opposite is the case in my family.

Vanessa Not that much in her house.It seems her parents think that men should be "higher" than women,no matter the age...

Yes, they think man have to be descision makers and woman have to learn to follow. That's why my brother is allowed to assign tasks to us. Because he should learn that he has to take our needs into consideration and so he can learn that he has still take care that an assigned task is done properly after we finished it.

It sounds more convenient for him, but it is also a big responsibility. Like I said, he almost never used this power to us.

Ines

Vanessa I think too he can be sincere when telling it to you,but would have acted differently if he had a son too.

I think so too. Education has to be different, in general, always there are exceptions that must be respected, girls do not want ad to the society same things than boys, and society does not expect same of we than of the boys.

Same in a relationship, I expect of a man that complement my personality. I do not want a mirror!

Sara2001

Angelina Is your brother older than you and your sister?

No, he is between me and my sister.

Angelina

Sara2001

i consider it morally questionable that your brother can decide about you even though he is younger 🙁

luckily he is so respectful that he almost never uses it 🙂

@Ines

I accept your opinion but mine still exists 😉

Vanessa

Sara2001 Yes, they think man have to be descision makers and woman have to learn to follow. That's why my brother is allowed to assign tasks to us. Because he should learn that he has to take our needs into consideration and so he can learn that he has still take care that an assigned task is done properly after we finished it.

It sounds more convenient for him, but it is also a big responsibility. Like I said, he almost never used this power to us.

Does he didn't use it because he feels it is unfair for you,or because he does not like these responsabilities?

Has he a girlfriend?Does he wants her future wife to be submissive,or does he don't care about it,as long as he loves her?

Ines I think so too. Education has to be different, in general, always there are exceptions that must be respected, girls do not want ad to the society same things than boys, and society does not expect same of we than of the boys.

Yes,and I think it may be difficult to understand if we haven't a brother(or a sister for a man),or if we haven't daughters and sons.

Ines Same in a relationship, I expect of a man that complement my personality. I do not want a mirror!

Logical,sure.

Angelina

Right.

Ines

Angelina I accept your opinion but mine still exists

Of course, Angelina. If everyone agree in all, I guess we will stop writing here.

Angelina

Ines

exactly that would be very boring. the sense of a forum is to exchange our opinions 😉

Ines

Vanessa Yes,and I think it may be difficult to understand if we haven't a brother(or a sister for a man),or if we haven't daughters and sons.

I think mainly is the case. Even there are differences between daughters because we are different, more if there are boys and girls.
But I do not doubt that they think about same treat, but I do not doubt either, that if they have boys and girls they would think differently. 😂

Sara2001

Vanessa Does he didn't use it because he feels it is unfair for you,or because he does not like these responsabilities?

I think a mix of both. I think it feels a bit strange for him. Sometimes he gives us tasks but it is extremely rare. Mostly if he is in a hurry.

Vanessa Has he a girlfriend?Does he wants her future wife to be submissive,or does he don't care about it,as long as he loves her?

He doesn't and I think love is more important to him.

Vanessa

Ines

Right.It is easy to say it,but acting this way if it becomes the case is rarer.

Sara2001 I think a mix of both. I think it feels a bit strange for him. Sometimes he gives us tasks but it is extremely rare. Mostly if he is in a hurry.

He's nice with you!🙂

Sara2001 He doesn't and I think love is more important to him.

Totally understandable.Does your father accept well he doesn't necessary want to be the "dominant" partner in his future relationships?

Angelina

Sara2001

your brother seems to be a nice and fair man 😉 good that he doesn't use his position to your disadvantage 🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa Totally understandable.Does your father accept well he doesn't necessary want to be the "dominant" partner in his future relationships?

Absolutely. The most important thing for him is that we are happy in our relationship. For us girls he just wants us to be a bit more open to a male led relationship but he would never force us if it would make us unhappy.

Angelina

Sara2001

Do you think he'd be open to it if you were the dominant part of the relationship? (only theoretical)

Vanessa

Sara2001

Good your hapiness is more important for him than your type of relationship.

Sara2001

I think he would be surprised and a bit disturbed by it,however,at least at fisrt.

Angelina

I totally agree.

Sara2001

Angelina Do you think he'd be open to it if you were the dominant part of the relationship? (only theoretical)

Mostly probably he would understand it after a not so long while, even if he thinks it should be the opposite. In addition he knows that this would be a fight he could only loose.

Angelina

Sara2001

that i think too, love knows no borders and everything is possible 🙂

and our parents have to accept that when they love us 🙂

Sara2001

Vanessa I think he would be surprised and a bit disturbed by it,however,at least at fisrt.

Definitely 🙂

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