Parents and pocket money

Angelina

Sara2001

I hope you had fun 😉

when sara finishes her education, she has enough money to live alone or with Daniel. but that only works when she finally has access to her money.

@Sara2001

you say it yourself, it's your money. it's at your father's disposal and not at Daniel's. sorry but I don't understand 🙁 🙁 🙁

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think that's a good idea. I think Daniel would be open to such a system. Maybe with some limits what I am allowed to buy.

Unpleasant to have to justify what I buy,but,in your case,it would be better than your situation.I hope he would accept it.

Sara2001 My father would never spend if for himself or the family. It is my money. I think I will ask him if Daniel can have some access to my account, so we can do something with it together. Of course I expect Daniel to only spend it for me.

Do you think your father would allow it?It wouldn't be bad for you,sure.

Angelina I hope you had fun 😉

I would like to know how it went,too!😉

Angelina when sara finishes her education, she has enough money to live alone or with Daniel. but that only works when she finally has access to her money.

Not sure she can does it without damaging her relationship with her parents...

Angelina

i honestly don't understand how some here can think so positively about it. sara has worked hard for the money and she (and only she) should be allowed to spend and use the money

Daniel is certainly a nice and caring man, but he has as little access to sara's money as sara's father.

Ines

Angelina
I can not understand it and of course I do not share it, Angelina, but if she wants this way, or she agree and see advantages, it is her business.
Even I agree with you absolutely.

Renita

Angelina As @Sara2001 says it should not be. Who makes money, she disposes of them.

Vanessa

Angelina

I don't think especially positively about it,but I can understand the idea;even if I think it is a very uncommon rule.

Sara2001 I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

Sure.And it seems he would be less strict than your father.

Sara2001 Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

Same for several of us.

Angelina

Ines

I know that she has to decide for herself, and if she is happy with it, it is also ok for me 😉

but I personally have no understanding for it 🙁

Ines

Angelina
Me, either. Not understable for me.

Sara2001

Angelina I know that she has to decide for herself, and if she is happy with it, it is also ok for me 😉

It's not that I have a choice anyway. So it doesn't matter if I like it or not. It's not to question in our family and I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

Angelina

Sara2001

Did you talk to your father, can Daniel get access?

of course you have a choice you are 18 and it is your money 😉

but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

Sara2001

Angelina but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

Angelina

Sara2001

Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

Renita

Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves.

Sara2001

Angelina Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.

Renita Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves

No, Christians but no strong.

Sara2001

Vanessa if I think it is a very uncommon rule

I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.

Laura

Sara2001 Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow.

It works only if woman doesn't make money.

Vanessa

Sara2001 Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.

Is it your boyfriend's opinion too,or would you be more free on some aspects when married(not about chastity,nor,totally,money,but maybe on other parts)?

Sara2001 I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.

Yes,for things expensive,I've to ask before.

BikelockFugitive Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays 🤭

Generally,as long as it is done calmly and with respect,I dont' think it would be the case.Except if they insist too much after a clear "No.",maybe...

Angelina there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong 🙁

We can disagree,but try to undertsand his idea!😉

Angelina this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason 🙁

It could be interesting;but let's hope it doesn't give him ideas!

BikelockFugitive

Sara2001 Yeah thats cause if the girls think its unfair and speak up, they get an extra hour of cornertime and a spanking with a hairbrush on Sundays 🤭

Angelina

BikelockFugitive

@Renita

i don't think any muslima has the name sara 😉

@Vanessa

there is in my opinion nothing to understand it is simply wrong, very wrong 🙁

@Sara2001

yes i have to ask before i want to buy bigger things, but it's not my money, it's my father's money. you have your own money, that's something completely different

this is an absolutely wrong and stupid reason, i will ask my father what he thinks of such a reason . sorry but your father could have at least come up with a reasonable reason 🙁

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