Parents and pocket money

Laura

Angelina Furthermore, you usually have more than one accounts, including investment and business.

Ines

Maybe a thread about asymmetrical relationship can be necessary...
But now I am going out for a while. A good badminton player has received wassaps of a bad tennis player 🤭🤭🤭...

Vanessa

Sara2001 A leader must act responsible with the power he has or I will stop the relationship. It's the same for rules, chastity belt, money, orders I get and any other restriction I can think of.

Very important,sure.

Sara2001

If you want to have more freedom with your money(even if not totally free,for example,you can spend it but have to justify it),after being married,do you think you would be able to convince your husband to accept it?

Ines In my opinion life goes about happiness. If you are happy, it is not the most important, it is only important.

I agree.

Angelina sara must urgently open her own account after the training, I think that is urgently necessary and absolutely essential, otherwise she will continue to be financially blackmailed 🙁

Hard for her as long as she isn't married,or,at least,living on her own.

However,even if I find it very hard and too old fashioned,as long as they don't spend them for themselves,but only for her,and she can ask to get some of it back to buy something,it could be worse.

Ines If it is my money I can assure that.

I'm not sure I would accept it too.I still have troubles to accept I sometimes have to justify how I spend my money to my parents...

Sara2001

Vanessa If you want to have more freedom with your money(even if not totally free,for example,you can spend it but have to justify it),after being married,do you think you would be able to convince your husband to accept it?

I think that's a good idea. I think Daniel would be open to such a system. Maybe with some limits what I am allowed to buy.

Vanessa However,even if I find it very hard and too old fashioned,as long as they don't spend them for themselves,but only for her,and she can ask to get some of it back to buy something,it could be worse.

My father would never spend if for himself or the family. It is my money. I think I will ask him if Daniel can have some access to my account, so we can do something with it together. Of course I expect Daniel to only spend it for me.

Angelina

Sara2001

@Ines

I hope you had fun 😉

@Vanessa

when sara finishes her education, she has enough money to live alone or with Daniel. but that only works when she finally has access to her money.

@Sara2001

you say it yourself, it's your money. it's at your father's disposal and not at Daniel's. sorry but I don't understand 🙁 🙁 🙁

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think that's a good idea. I think Daniel would be open to such a system. Maybe with some limits what I am allowed to buy.

Unpleasant to have to justify what I buy,but,in your case,it would be better than your situation.I hope he would accept it.

Sara2001 My father would never spend if for himself or the family. It is my money. I think I will ask him if Daniel can have some access to my account, so we can do something with it together. Of course I expect Daniel to only spend it for me.

Do you think your father would allow it?It wouldn't be bad for you,sure.

Angelina I hope you had fun 😉

I would like to know how it went,too!😉

Angelina when sara finishes her education, she has enough money to live alone or with Daniel. but that only works when she finally has access to her money.

Not sure she can does it without damaging her relationship with her parents...

Angelina

i honestly don't understand how some here can think so positively about it. sara has worked hard for the money and she (and only she) should be allowed to spend and use the money

Daniel is certainly a nice and caring man, but he has as little access to sara's money as sara's father.

Ines

Angelina
I can not understand it and of course I do not share it, Angelina, but if she wants this way, or she agree and see advantages, it is her business.
Even I agree with you absolutely.

Renita

Angelina As @Sara2001 says it should not be. Who makes money, she disposes of them.

Vanessa

Angelina

I don't think especially positively about it,but I can understand the idea;even if I think it is a very uncommon rule.

Sara2001 I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

Sure.And it seems he would be less strict than your father.

Sara2001 Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

Same for several of us.

Angelina

Ines

I know that she has to decide for herself, and if she is happy with it, it is also ok for me 😉

but I personally have no understanding for it 🙁

Ines

Angelina
Me, either. Not understable for me.

Sara2001

Angelina I know that she has to decide for herself, and if she is happy with it, it is also ok for me 😉

It's not that I have a choice anyway. So it doesn't matter if I like it or not. It's not to question in our family and I am happy that Daniel may get some access. Better then nothing.

Angelina

Sara2001

Did you talk to your father, can Daniel get access?

of course you have a choice you are 18 and it is your money 😉

but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

Sara2001

Angelina but i understand why you don't want that, it's the same as with our belts, we want to keep the family peace 😉

Exactly. Turning 18 is not different if you want your family stays intact.

Angelina

Sara2001

Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

Renita

Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves.

Sara2001

Angelina Did your father ever explain to you why he didn't want you to have access to your money?

Yes, because his experience is that there is more harmony in the family/relationship if the man makes the descisions and the woman follow. That's the basic premise behind everything.

Renita Sara2001 Are you a Muslim by any chance? Women are not allowed to pay there themselves

No, Christians but no strong.

Sara2001

Vanessa if I think it is a very uncommon rule

I thought many of us have to ask before they buy bigger things, it's just more strict in my family.

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