Sex on the first date

Angelina

Ines So, carefully with it, and always under medical supervision.

there are gynecologists for that 😉

honestly, there are of course always driven, but it is a contraceptive which has been used by women all over the world for several decades

Vanessa

Laura But you are going to marry to Emilie, not to a guy. Maybe you should take this into account.
Same for @Angelina

Not a problem,I think.

Laura That's the best option if she agrees

I think too.

Laura She can always put it on without asking you

But if she would keep the key,it wouldn't be useful.And I can put the chastity belt in a locked closet.

Angelina i would do the same, but only with her consent 🙂 if my daughter asked me for a complete closure, i would have a conversation with her about whether she knows what she is doing and is aware of the consequences. my daughter would then also remain locked

Yes,she would have to be sure to understand very well what it means,and accept she couldn't take it off as soon as she would want it(we could decide for a safeword,but using it would mean not using her chastity belt this way again before a long time).

Sara2001

Good plan.

But condoms and side effects should be explained even if she wouldn't plan to have sex on first date,but later,while still not married.😉

Angelina if she asked me, i would talk to her about it and then make a decision, but i find it very hard to imagine my daughter coming to me and saying: mom i want to be completely closed off so i can't have sex and can't masturbate

It can happen.Can't have sex:if she wants to remain virgin until marriage;can't masturbate:if she thinks she does it too much.Or if she feels masturbating and having sex should both be kept for her sexual activity with her husband after marriage,like @Ines.If she fears she won't be able to do it,a chastity belt can help her.

Angelina she can do that without cb 😉

Yes,but it can be harder.

Angelina interesting, i thought Daniel would definitely want your daughter to wear a cb

Me too.Good he shares her opinion.

Angelina

Ines' informations are a bit worrying,but I think gynecologists and even general doctors can advise us to use safer ones.

Sara2001

Angelina honestly, there are of course always driven, but it is a contraceptive which has been used by women all over the world for several decades

I think the psychological side effects of a chastity belt, especially when it is forced, are MUCH higher.

Christine

Mom thinks he is not supposed to know about the belt on the first date.

Angelina

Christine

not on the first date, but if it goes well, you will have to explain it soon 😉

Vanessa

Christine

Sure,in our parents' opinion,it should not go farer than a kiss on the first date(or even less).

But they're not totally wrong;if he/she knows it,it won't lead to sex(as we're prevented to do it),but it is risked.There is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people(except,maybe,if you were friends before dating,meaning you can know each other pretty well).

Angelina

I agree.

Angelina

Vanessa

i think it is generally very difficult, even if it goes well, he might expect too much and would be very disappointed if it would not be possible 🙁

Laura

Vanessa Sure,in our parents' opinion,it should not go farer than a kiss on the first date(or even less).

I agree with it, a girl shouldn't let him go below waist on the first date regardless if she wears a belt or not

Vanessa here is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

Another reason for right behavior to not be ashamed later

Angelina he might expect too much and would be very disappointed

She shouldn't create such expectations

Renita

Vanessa re is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

However it could be good for her reputation in the long run.

Christine

Vanessa There is not much chance to be sure he/she won't talk about it with other people

That's her goal.

Vanessa

Angelina

It's why we should be clear not too long after we started to date,but it is not easy.We could tell we don't want to do it soon,while waiting to tell about our chastity belt.

Laura I agree with it, a girl shouldn't let him go below waist on the first date regardless if she wears a belt or not

Without belt,it depends! 😉

Laura Another reason for right behavior to not be ashamed later

Even with right behavior,we can be ashamed if someone talk about our chastity belt...

Laura She shouldn't create such expectations

I agree with @Angelina,he could expect it even if we don't hint it....

And I think it was you who thought too it is difficult to make a relationship lasts without sex,and I agree.So there should be a bit,even if limited by our chastity belt.

Renita

I don't think most of us would like to have everyone knowing about their chastity belt,and I'm not sure it would be good for our reputation.

A virginity ring,as they do sometimes in the US,yes...A chastity belt,I don't think so.

Angelina

Laura

but then it could also be too little 🙁 in addition, he can have these expectations even if she does nothing in this direction

Laura

Vanessa we can be ashamed if someone talk about our chastity belt...

That's why you shouldn't demonstrate it to "someone" 🙂

Vanessa A virginity ring,as they do sometimes in the US,yes..

What is it?

Laura

Vanessa And I think it was you who thought too it is difficult to make a relationship lasts without sex,and I agree

Yes, but not on the first date 🙂

Vanessa A ring,a bit like a wedding ring,for women,which means they are virgin and want to stay virgin until married.

It's called purity ring, while "virginity ring" is chastity belt in my opinion 😂

Renita

Vanessa A virginity ring,as they do sometimes in the US,yes...

It actually means nothing

Vanessa

Laura That's why you shouldn't demonstrate it to "someone" 🙂

But it's difficult to date for long while hiding it...

Laura What is it?

A ring,a bit like a wedding ring,for women,which means they are virgin and want to stay virgin until married.

Laura

Christine I like your mom more and more 😀
You hide your belt well, but have to play a prude with random guys, otherwise your secret will be disclosed quickly

Vanessa

Laura Yes, but not on the first date 🙂

Even if I'm not against it,I agree,it is not necessary to have sex on the first date to make a relationship lasts.

Laura It's called purity ring, while "virginity ring" is chastity belt in my opinion 😂

Probably,I knew the idea about it,but was unsure of the name.

Angelina

Well,it is not a bad name for it for women who had sex,but decide to not do it again until married.

Renita

It is like a promise,as a wedding ring is a promise to be faithful to the wife/husband,too.

Christine

But let's hope you'll find someone soon who you trust enough to tell him about it,while being sure he would keep it secret.

Laura You hide your belt well, but have to play a prude with random guys, otherwise your secret will be disclosed quickly

Same when we start to date a new boyfriend/girlfriend.

Angelina

Vanessa Well,it is not a bad name for it for women who had sex,but decide to not do it again until married.

i mean rather that a ring does not prevent from masturbating, and not masturbating belongs to chastity

Renita

Vanessa It is like a promise,as a wedding ring is a promise to be faithful to the wife/husband,too.

But not enforceable. Unlike wedding ring where you will have trouble with your spouse.

Angelina

Vanessa

I agree with you, but the rules for mastubation should be clarified at the beginning of wearing and this should be the same as for cb 😉

sorry but that's one point i can't discuss. decisions have consequences and who decides to wear this ring has to take the consequences

small example: whoever wears a wedding ring must expect a divorce even if he/she cheats on the partner

Vanessa

Angelina I agree with you, but the rules for mastubation should be clarified at the beginning of wearing and this should be the same as for cb 😉

Sure,it must be decided at the start.

Angelina sorry but that's one point i can't discuss. decisions have consequences and who decides to wear this ring has to take the consequences

small example: whoever wears a wedding ring must expect a divorce even if he/she cheats on the partner

What should be the consequences for breaking the promise done when putting on the purity ring,in your opinion?

Laura That's how it usually happens.

I think too.

Renita

Angelina small example: whoever wears a wedding ring must expect a divorce even if he/she cheats on the partner

Divorce also means legal consequences unlike losing virginity.

Laura

Vanessa But,then,meet someone,fall in love,think he/she is the right one,and want to go "more far",even if not married...

That's how it usually happens.

Angelina

Vanessa What should be the consequences for breaking the promise done when putting on the purity ring,in your opinion?

in any case it should be severely punished. i know this sounds hard but whoever makes a promise to keep it and if it is broken should be severely punished. this is my moral standpoint and therefore i am also against a purity ring

Renita Divorce also means legal consequences unlike losing virginity.

it's not about laws, it's about morality, that's something completely different

Vanessa

Renita Divorce also means legal consequences unlike losing virginity.

Yes.

Angelina in any case it should be severely punished. i know this sounds hard but whoever makes a promise to keep it and if it is broken should be severely punished. this is my moral standpoint and therefore i am also against a purity ring

I understand you,but,as no one else is involved(except in some cases,when she waits with her boyfriend and cheat(while having sex)with someone else,for example),I wonder what could be a consequence for it(except guilty feelings)...And who would punish her.

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