very kind of you to say and i admire you for your way of expressing yourself. i try a lot to help here but unfortunately i can't express myself like you but i am working on it 
Vanessa There is a lot of such examples in history.
of course, there were also people who believed that the earth was a disc and some of them were scientists and not just crazy catholics. 
Foxies While the stories are tragic (and make me angry that others do this to them) unless you walk in their shoes it and understand the issues and choices they are presented with, it could well be counterproductive to criticise their situation or handling of their choices.
Agreed, but at the same time we can't normalize what's happening.
If you are being forced or coerced into wearing a belt, you are a victim of sexual abuse. I am very sorry for the circumstances that you are in. Most importantly, it is NOT your fault.
Angelina The courts (and society) would see this very differently. A prosecutor would achieve a conviction with two very simple questions...
"Is the victim under 18, yes or no?"
"Was there interference in the child's genitalia, yes or no?"
"Thankyou Your Honour, there will be no further questions."
Angelina I'm sorry, but it is. 
I dearly hope that abuse or not, that this experience fades into your past without having left any harm. However, even if that's the case, it's still abuse.
It took me a long time to recognize many events in my past as abuse, but that did not make them any less wrong.
gwen I'm sure @Angelina will find out in the future, that it was abuse. I hope someone here contacts the authorities and the abuse is found. That would be a warning to all parents who abuse their children in this way. It would say to them: 'Look, the father / the mother who is now in jail could be me.' And don't forget, the statute of limitations for sexual abuse is very long, so that adult children can report their parents even if they have long been independent. That is exactly the point of this long limitation period.
Sin "Was there interference in the child's genitalia, yes or no?"
and that is exactly the point that one has to look at in a much more differentiated way, but that is not usual in germany and many other countries.
as i said, it's just my personal feeling. i know that legally it's abuse, but what are the alternatives? i can go to the police or the authorities, but what they do is clearly more abuse to me than what my father does.
Oh the ethics of this! It could even be a medical school topic to discuss!
a_father is correct that there might be societal benefits to prosecuting Angelina father for confining her against her will in a chastity belt, which is in fact real and physical bondage. A prosecution might save other young ladies from a similar fate by scaring other parents/guardians from doing the same.
But does anyone really think the Angelina wouldn't suffer too at his persecution? It is clear from her posts that she loves him and probably (reluctantly) supports him. Prosecuting him would cause him emotional pain, yes, but it would no doubt bring severe emotional pain to Angelina herself!
In the cold light of day there is no easy resolution to Angelina's predicament.
While I could never condone her father's actions, and don't really agree with her current viewpoint, I am heartened that she gives every indication that she is growing up to be a strong and intelligent woman who will no doubt be capable of making her own decisions regarding her own happiness as she gains adulthood. Many other girls should be so lucky! In the long view perhaps her father hasn't done a bad job of raising her as a single parent. He certainly did a better job that my own father!
If this sounds like I am defending his actions in regard to her chastity belt (and thigh bands), I am certainly not. His only defense that he can offer is that he did it out of love and not malice. Even so, I like most of society, condemn him for what we consider a misguided belief system and physical abuse of her body.
Angelina what are the alternatives?
Document it extensively on video.
Say to your father "Dad, I love you very much, but I'm not doing this anymore. You're removing the belt and I'm moving out. Oh, and you will be paying for my new apartment, and giving me an allowance of $x for the rest of your life."
If he disagrees... well, I'm sure you can be persuasive. ;-)
That's one alternative.
you have described it very well (once again). thank you for your differentiated view and yes, that is exactly the crucial point. in short: i hate the belt, but i don't hate my father.
Sin Oh, and you will be paying for my new apartment, and giving me an allowance of $x for the rest of your life."
well, i am assured of that if i continue to wear the belt. i understand what you mean, but there is also another point. my father knows exactly that he is putting a big burden on me by wearing the belt. even though he enforces it very energetically, i know how much he values it and somehow i also want to make him proud. i know this all sounds very strange to outsiders, but some feelings are hard to describe in words.
Foxies His only defense that he can offer is that he did it out of love and not malice.
Well, I don't believe he does it out of love. In my point of view he, directly spoken, likes girls in chastity belts. If you want to know, what makes me think this, feel free to ask... I have no evidence. Anyway, I don't know @Angelina personally. But I have clues that give a neutral observer a certain suspicion (and I told her).
And if you take love out of the equation, a different picture emerges. And that's exactly why it's good that the statute of limitations in the event of abuse is so long. Imagine @Angelina found a hidden camera in her room at some point ... Do you think, this would change the whole situation? Whatever is happening right now, @Angelina only endures it because she thinks it happens as love. That's why I am of the opinion that parents should never reach for a chastity belt. As a result, children are abused by those who should actually be the safest people to trust in life.
I know @Angelina and I will never come to a consensus here. And I really hope I'm wrong.
a_father And I really hope I'm wrong
I hope so too. The truth is I do not know whether it is misguided love, or something much more perverse. I doubt we shall ever know the truth.
My feeling from reading Angelina posts is that she is a strong and intelligent woman who will soon be an adult who can make her own decisions in life. Like most of us, her decisions will made within circumscribed conditions which themselves differ for all of us. (Some are lucky, some aren't - that's the way the universe crumbles.) Hopefully she will make decisions that bring all the happiness she can ever hope for.
I do think it is likely that idle speculation by us, could bring more emotional pain for her and I certainly do not want to contribute more to that. And I refuse to judge and condemn others until I walk in their shoes. To do so might cause more harm than good. Ethics is a tricky subject at the best of times and during my life I too have made choices based on the best information to hand, only to find later that there was much more I didn't know and that in the cold light of day, I regretted those very decisions.
In the end, there is a lot of useful and practical information on this forum. We can't make anyone read it, but it is there to make their own decisions. Perhaps that is the best we can hope for?
a_father statute of limitations for sexual abuse is very long
To my knowledge in my country such abuse falls under Indictable Offence and has no statute of limitation. Even if statute of limitation exists in @Angelina ‘s country, it would be very long time since severity of such offence is high.
a_father I am of the opinion that parents should never reach for a chastity belt.
I strongly agree to your opinion, too.
Foxies I do think it is likely that idle speculation by us, could bring more emotional pain for her and I certainly do not want to contribute more to that.
i don't have a problem with it, i know that this topic causes a lot of emotional explosiveness. to this day i am not 100% sure whether what i am doing is right or wrong. considering all the circumstances, it currently seems right to me and if i didn't have this feeling anymore, i would try much harder to change something
Angelina
This is the reason why I see you as a voluntary wearer and not as a forced one.
As I wrote to @Maija you have the leverage on you side. You could use it against you faster if you let him believe you would go the authority if no major change happen at your 18th birthday. He must only believe you would do it.
It could be that he did not change much because he believe you would not do it.
hmm... i doubt if he would believe me, but i think i will definitely apply more pressure after my birthday when we discuss the rules again. he won't believe me that i go to the authorities (he knows my distrust in the authorities too well for that), but i think i can definitely find ways 
Angelina
I hope you can do it.
Like you said. Your father is a dominant person. In order to get him to give in, you have to put something in front of him that makes him think and/or that he is afraid of.
Worst case scenario could be he goes to jail and you take over his business. You can do it because you will be of age.
Joh Worst case scenario could be he goes to jail and you take over his business. You can do it because you will be of age.
i don't think it's realistic, especially since i'm not trained well enough to take over his job.
but i could say something like, if you don't give me relief, i'll move out and move in with my girlfriend. losing me completely would hurt him more than prison.
Jen when I read the dad requiring the girlfriend wear a belt.
that's not entirely true, he never demanded that my girlfriend wear a belt. he forbade me to give her an orgasm and the belt was the easiest solution to ensure that. whether that is better now you can judge for yourself, but they are two different things.
Angelina i don't think it's realistic, especially since i'm not trained well enough to take over his job.
but i could say something like, if you don't give me relief, i'll move out and move in with my girlfriend. losing me completely would hurt him more than prison.
It doesn't mater. You could get help from some profesional to get going. The point is you would have everthing in your hand and he would lose you as well. Especially if you say you will never visit him.
