Free from CB

Jen

James yeah the whole world's depressing now - but like more reason distraction would be nice

James

Jen yeah the whole world's depressing now - but like more reason distraction would be nice

Totally get that feeling, trust me. More collapse everywhere you look.

Angelina

frankly i assume you lack the reason, maybe you would see it differently if you were in a relationship. keep the belt, maybe not for now but if you find a partner the tensions can re-emerge 😉

Jen yeah the whole world's depressing now - but like more reason distraction would be nice

could it be that your aversion to the belt comes from a depressive phase of your own? if so, better times will come again, try to be positive. 😃

Jen For me now - I promised myself so I'm continuing. And it's not stuffing up my life - if it was really becoming a negative I'd stop

so are you going on? sorry i thought you were stopping

Avery

Jen So topic - Free from CB - yeah I'm thinking of quitting. And I'm writing this now because I'm not annoyed or anxious or anything now.

I'm in the same situation you are, part time wearer, chaste since last August. That's the real chaste, not being made a prisoner to do it.

Jen

Avery do you struggle with a reason to stick with it?

For me now - I promised myself so I'm continuing. And it's not stuffing up my life - if it was really becoming a negative I'd stop

Avery

Jen do you struggle with a reason to stick with it?

For me now - I promised myself so I'm continuing. And it's not stuffing up my life - if it was really becoming a negative I'd stop

Indeed I do struggle with it, fairly often the urge comes near to overpowering the desire to maintain a chaste lifestyle. I have to make it past those times and have devised a few strategies. In a pinch I put the belt on for a while, like lying in bed late at night. If I meet the right person though I'm going back to getting myself laid, married or now, so I needn't wait so long as some. Don't know how folks wait 'til the wedding.

Jen

Avery for me I think the point will be when we're ready to marry each other. But not wait until the actual wedding

Megan

Avery Don't know how folks wait 'til the wedding.

Yes you in fact do know how. I didn't have the keys LOL. 🤣
Also I didn't know how to masturbate so some slight feminine arousal didn't feel like it needed to be shut off.

Avery

Jen for me I think the point will be when we're ready to marry each other. But not wait until the actual wedding

A fine idea. No sense in torturing yourself. Or your partner.

Avery

Megan Also I didn't know how to masturbate so some slight feminine arousal didn't feel like it needed to be shut off.

Not masturbating is the toughest part. I did have a fail when I played touch and smile with my girl friend in the shower at the gym. That one I couldn't "shut off". Moral, don't touch anybody or let them touch you.

Raquel

Megan Also I didn't know how to masturbate so some slight feminine arousal didn't feel like it needed to be shut off.

It is exactly what my cousin says.
I can not say the same.... It is a bit harder for me.

Jen So topic - Free from CB - yeah I'm thinking of quitting. And I'm writing this now because I'm not annoyed or anxious or anything now. It's just like boring - like the belt doesn't excite me now - like nothing does it seems. So everything has been a bit crap the last week and schools cancelled again tomorrow cause they're worried about more rain. so yeah I'll stick with it a bit more just to see but it's not being like what I thought

You should do what makes you happiest in that regard.
I feel a little identified with you since I think that in those cases a mother who knows what it's like to go through that could help us, but neither you nor I have it, and, even, in that sense you are more alone.

Jen

Angelina so are you going on? sorry i thought you were stopping

Still chaste since 2021😁
Yeah I've had thoughts but still going for now

Sin

Jen Still chaste since 2021

OMG you go girl! Three months is huge.

Joh

Jen
Great! Have you found a way to deal with it for yourself that is uplifting?

Angelina

Jen Still chaste since 2021😁
Yeah I've had thoughts but still going for now

i'm glad to read that. there will always be bad phases, but i think you can overcome them if you think about your general goal. good luck furthermore. 😃

Raquel

glad you are back in the forum i hope you and Ines are well 🙂

Jen

Sin OMG you go girl! Three months is huge.

🤗
Close to 3 months - but time isn't really changing it - doesn't get harder - I think the not excited just annoyed time was my hormones for a bit. But scary to think like what am I actually doing - but that was just as scary in December as now.

Raquel I can not say the same.... It is a bit harder for me.

I've said before - I'm glad I know my body!

Raquel I feel a little identified with you since I think that in those cases a mother who knows what it's like to go through that could help us

Yeah there's stuff we don't really talk about but I know mum knows what's going on with me and it's kind of comforting. But I'm glad to have space and control myself which I don't know if you have.

Angelina

Jen I think the not excited just annoyed time was my hormones for a bit. But scary to think like what am I actually doing

it will happen again and again, but through this experience you now know how to manage it without giving up 😃

Laura

Lana you must really have a short term break from it

My parents would never agree with it

Saintprudence

Laura breaks are a nice thought 🙂. But not possible depending on the theory of chastity being employed!

Saintprudence

Laura after all, if one was free from the belt, you might masturbate, and we can’t have THAT, can we?

Angelina

Saintprudence breaks are a nice thought 🙂. But not possible depending on the theory of chastity being employed!

You have realised that, chastity with breaks is not real chastity. 😉

Laura

Saintprudence if one was free from the belt, you might masturbate

And not only masturbate. That's the point.

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