Sara2001 I have to disagree. An abusive relationship can start in relationships that are "branded" as equal rights relationships, too. I don't think that the risk is higher, because there is much more talk about expectations and the relationship itself in our kind of relationship.
I'm not talking about how a relationship is "branded", and I think responsible parents should always talk to their children about expectations.
I'm talking about encouraging children to take an unequal role in a relationship. I don't think it's good parenting to encourage your brother to take a dominant role either.
Your brother might not be as likely to stay with an abusive partner, but raising a man with those expectations in the 21st century will make it more difficult for him to find a partner who will stay with him. It's a parent's job to prepare their children for the world they will have to live in as adults.
If the child wants an unequal relationship like you do, I don't have a problem with parents being supportive. It's encouraging them, like your father seems to be doing with your sister, that bothers me.
Joh Under the assumption @Sara2001 bf is abusive it is correct. But this isn't happen, because they discuss everything in detail and open which you not often find in a relation.
I didn't say that her boyfriend is abusive. I said I think it's bad parenting to raise your child assuming they won't need as much assertiveness as possible to resist a manipulative partner.
Someone said in one of the chats with HHelen that, if your daughter doesn't respect your authority in her teen years, that means there was a problem in how you raised her, and it's very hard to fix that now. It's also very hard to fix the problem if you don't properly balance encouraging your daughter to submit to her partner and teaching her to know when things have gone too far.
Angelina i'm sorry but i also have to disagree here, getting into a relationship with whoever is a personal choice and i think the example of @Sara2001 and her sister proves that upbringing doesn't always have an impact on the choice of partner
That's why I don't blame @Sara2001. She and her sister are free to make their own choices... but how they were raised will change what choices they consider making.
There will always be limits to how far a person's upbringing can change them, but I think it's irresponsible to give someone an upbringing that encourages them to be submissive.
