Telling others about your belt

Sara2001

Vanessa However,@Sara2001 was always very clear that if her boyfriend doesn't make her happy,and doesn't want to change,she would not hesitate to break-up.So it seems she can be able to decide by herself what she accepts or not

Yes, at least the option to quit the relationship is always their. If I see the relationship is at risk because things turning in a direction that I don't like, I will also talk about it as soon as I realize it. Beside this, I don't decide most of the things on my own, but Daniel is in charge for almost everything

Tim I'm saying it's irresponsible parenting to assume things will turn out this well when you start.

I don't think that my father is irresponsible, as I said he allows the equal rights relationships for my brother and my sister.

Vanessa I guess @Sara2001's father took care to be sure of her boyfriend before suggesting her to meet him.

Even more important is that it was just a suggestion, I was by no means forced to start a relationship with him and I was absolutely not forced to start a man led relationship with him. We both wanted to try it and we tried a lot of things before we decided what we want and we never stopped reflecting that what we have is what we want. We talk about this every week on Sunday during my maintenance session to make sure everything is as it should be.

Angelina

Joh But it create a precondition.

of course, but @Sara2001's sister seems to have a rebellious character, so you can also disregard these prerequisites

Tim but how they were raised will change what choices they consider making.

that's true and Sara herself has a boyfriend who fills this role after she was brought up, but her sister's example shows that it can also be different within the same family.

Sara2001 We talk about this every week on Sunday during my maintenance session to make sure everything is as it should be.

very good, that is right and responsible 🙂

Joh

Sara2001 Yes, at least the option to quit the relationship is always their. If I see the relationship is at risk because things turning in a direction that I don't like, I will also talk about it as soon as I realize it. Beside this, I don't decide most of the things on my own, but Daniel is in charge for almost everything

I don't get it. Does it mean Daniel also decide if you break up? Or is it an misunderstanding?

Vanessa

Sara2001 Yes, at least the option to quit the relationship is always their. If I see the relationship is at risk because things turning in a direction that I don't like, I will also talk about it as soon as I realize it.

Good point.

Sara2001 Even more important is that it was just a suggestion, I was by no means forced to start a relationship with him and I was absolutely not forced to start a man led relationship with him.

Weren't you punished when you refused it when he suggested it?Or was it due to the way you answered?

Sara2001 We talk about this every week on Sunday during my maintenance session to make sure everything is as it should be.

However it seems to become stricter than what you planned before.

Joh

Angelina of course, but @Sara2001's sister seems to have a rebellious character, so you can also disregard these prerequisites

You have to see it over a large number of children. If you compare it you will see the precondition is there. Look at children they have been beaten and when they are parents by themselves it is more likely they will beat their children as well. This doesn't imply it will be every time.

Sara2001

Joh I don't get it. Does it mean Daniel also decide if you break up? Or is it an misunderstanding?

If I decide to break up with him, he definitely has no saying in it 🙂

Angelina

Joh

of course i know that it is often the case that these things are taken over when the children themselves have children later. i notice in myself that the compulsion to control has passed over to me.

on the other hand, i would never use a chastity belt without my daughter's consent, and as you said, it doesn't have to be the case. everyone can break away from their parents' habits.

Sara2001 he definitely has no saying in it 🙂

that would also be very strange 😂 😂 😂

Sara2001

Vanessa Weren't you punished when you refused it when he suggested it?Or was it due to the way you answered?

I was forced to meet him once. I was forced to listen to what he says and how he thinks things should be. But I was not forced to start a relationship with him or to agree with it.

Vanessa However it seems to become stricter than what you planned before.

Definitely. Much stricter 🙂 But since day one we are open to new things and one of the things that gives me the most security is that we try things as soon as possible to see how it feels and to know if this would be some permanent thing for our life. So we tried a lot, a lot of it stayed in place and both of us learned what we want and what to expect.

Angelina

Vanessa However it seems to become stricter than what you planned before.

i don't think that's the crucial point, i think it has to work out best for both of them regardless of how strict it gets.

Joh

Sara2001 So we tried a lot, a lot of it stayed in place and both of us learned what we want and what to expect.

What didn't work out of all your trials?

Vanessa

Sara2001 I was forced to meet him once. I was forced to listen to what he says and how he thinks things should be. But I was not forced to start a relationship with him or to agree with it.

Good you were not forced to date him,but being forced to meet him,and punished while not wanting at first,is a bit more than a suggestion,in my opinion...

Sara2001 Definitely. Much stricter 🙂 But since day one we are open to new things and one of the things that gives me the most security is that we try things as soon as possible to see how it feels and to know if this would be some permanent thing for our life. So we tried a lot, a lot of it stayed in place and both of us learned what we want and what to expect.

As long as it makes you happy(and feel secure,it seems),it is the most important.

Sara2001

Everything you tried about chastity was ok?

Sara2001 That's the easy and always applying rule.

Easy to understand,but not much easy to accept and apply,I guess...

Sara2001

Joh What didn't work out of all your trials?

Several things, nothing related to chastity.

Sara2001

Angelina i don't think that's the crucial point, i think it has to work out best for both of them regardless of how strict it gets.

We had our disagreements, but we have always found a solution and because of our system there was never anger between us. But as a woman you have to be very open to anything to make it work. His part is definitely more responsible but my part is emotionally more difficult.

Joh

Sara2001 but my part is emotionally more difficult.

Why is it more emotionally?

Angelina

Sara2001 We had our disagreements, but we have always found a solution and because of our system there was never anger between us.

that's the most important thing, even if i don't agree with certain things, i see that you are happy with it, but yes i understand your different roles, i just could never give up control that much

Sara2001

Joh Why is it more emotionally?

It can be difficult to accept something that you don't think is right at this moment. It can be difficult to wait until the next maintenance session. Especially when it has a big impact on my or my plans. Image I had planned a meeting with a friend and he orders me to cancel the meeting because he wants me to clean his car instead. This is an extreme example and nothing this extreme ever happened, but even in such a situation I am expected to stay calm and do how I am told. And yes, I would cancel the meeting and clean his car instead and if he wants me to use only a toothbrush to do it, I would only use a toothbrush. He is in charge of everything. That's the easy and always applying rule.

Angelina i just could never give up control that much

If you cannot give up control this is definitely not made for you.

Joh

Sara2001 Image I had planned a meeting with a friend and he orders me to cancel the meeting because he wants me to clean his car instead. This is an extreme example and nothing this extreme ever happened, but even in such a situation I am expected to stay calm and do how I am told.

It is nice to read he is not so extreme. Now I understand what you mean. Maybe he will test it one time 😉

Angelina

Sara2001 and if he wants me to use only a toothbrush to do it, I would only use a toothbrush.

I hope that was only meant theoretically 😂

Sara2001

Angelina I hope that was only meant theoretically

It is an extreme example, it never happened.

Vanessa As long as it makes you happy(and feel secure,it seems),it is the most important

It's better to learn what you want and what you can expect for your marriage as soon as possible. Then you don't get bad surprises after wedding or it is at least much less likely.

Vanessa Everything you tried about chastity was ok?

We don't have much possibilities to try anything except the chastity bra and anything related to my breasts. It was always out of question that even if I am physically able to reach orgasm from breasts play, it stays strictly forbidden.

Vanessa Easy to understand,but not much easy to accept and apply,I guess...

Only in the beginning. I feel that you can get used to it in a short time. It's most important that you learn that following will bring you no harm.

Angelina

Sara2001 It's better to learn what you want and what you can expect for your marriage as soon as possible. Then you don't get bad surprises after wedding or it is at least much less likely.

that's right, i also find it a very important point 🙂

Sara2001 It was always out of question that even if I am physically able to reach orgasm from breasts play, it stays strictly forbidden.

i find it impressive that daniel adheres to this rule himself, i think he would also be very curious to see what an orgasm is like for you. 🙂

Vanessa

Sara2001 It's better to learn what you want and what you can expect for your marriage as soon as possible. Then you don't get bad surprises after wedding or it is at least much less likely.

In your case,you take care to know about a lot of possible situations,it seems,yes.

Sara2001 We don't have much possibilities to try anything

Especially as your boyfriend have not much input on these rules,for now,I guess.

Sara2001 Only in the beginning. I feel that you can get used to it in a short time. It's most important that you learn that following will bring you no harm.

I think I would have troubles to follow it...

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