Sorry mods if this is too far off topic! Please feel free to split this off, if it helps.
Joh Then why do you wear a CB?
Honestly, I am still figuring this out. This was my motivation for the sexuality identity thread, but unfortunately it went off the rails.
I suspected some of us might have atypical sexualities, but it seems possible that I'm the only one.
I'll try to explain, but it might not make sense.
I am not sexually attracted to other people. I generally have a low drive to seek orgasm. However, there are other related sensations and emotions that I do enjoy experiencing. I suppose you could call them my sexuality.
For whatever reason, I am extremely submissive. I get great satisfaction from submitting to people that I like, especially my partner. In general this is not sexual at all. Visiting a friend and helping them clean out their garden is satisfying for me, but not sexual.
This is where it gets weird. Being in a D/s dynamic does make it possible for me to start to experience some sexual feelings. If they chose to make sexuality part of our relationship, I become receptive to sexual interaction. This is where the chastity belt comes in.
The chastity belt does a couple of things:
- It's an ongoing reminder of my relationship with my key holder. This reminder makes me feel safe and protected.
- My libido can take days to warm up. It becoming active is enjoyable in itself, even without release. In other words, I enjoy the teasing and denial more than the release.
This forum has taught me the practical skills I need to make the CB tolerable. Just before my recent business trip, I had been locked up continuously for 6 weeks, and it was great. My wife and I are going to experiment with longer and longer runs until we figure out the sweet spot for both of us. Evidence thus far is that I will remain locked up for very long time periods, or even permanently.
