Dilly I would love to tell a special friend of mine about my belt and my situation, but I don't know how to start such a talk. Any suggestions?

I think you should do it in small pieces and after every piece you should check her or his reaction. If you feel that there is no understanding for your situation on the other side, you should think about continuing or changing to another topic. Maybe sex before marriage is a good point to start, or how to handle the situation when parents wants you to have no sex before marriage. But most probably I'm not the best source๐Ÿ™‚

Why do you want to invite this special person?

I would be very interested in what you did and how it worked out.

Laura No, but I know what you want to say. And no, I do not regret it

Dilly
Start by asking if they believe in marriage first before having sex?
Would they use protective devices or pills to prevent pregnancies?
Would they use a belt if they had a choice?
Would they be happy if their parents forced a belt?

Either way, you're going to lead the conversations to adult related topics. Tbh, I think it would be better to wait until you're 17 or 18 to start talking about adult related things. These sexual topics are something you should only ask your parents before you reach adulthood. Unless you have a close friend that have talked about puberty before, you might have to start there, but I don't know, it's really up to you to bring it up or not. Everyone might say yes to bring up the belt, but it'll be ultimately up to you to start the conversation. We have no control what you say in person, either, so do your best and do what you feel is right at the right time.

@Dilly I agree with @Raziel, better to not share it to others while you are not 18, especially in the US.

However if you still want to tell, just open your waist area.

    why not especially in the US, Laura?

      Laura

      Laura However if you still want to tell, just open your waist area.

      With this strategy you pass the point of no return from the very beginning. I think you have to be really sure that you know how the other person will react.

        Sara2001 I think you have to be really sure that you know how the other person will react.

        I think @Dilly wants to show it to a person she knows well.

        Dilly why not especially in the US, Laura?

        Short version, if something is not usual, most of US people consider it suspicious. But, if an idiot see my belt and call police nothing would happen because I'm an adult and it's not illegal.

          Laura Short version, if something is not usual, most of US people consider it suspicious. But, if an idiot see my belt and call police nothing would happen because I'm an adult and it's not illegal.

          It's not a big difference here, at least until you are below 18. Many people would call the police or the family department of the city. Than there would be a very good chance that you would be devided from your family, no matter what you want. Maybe you can stay if you "beg" them and tell them it's you descision when you are over 16, but it would not be easy and if they don't believe you, your parents go to jail.

            Sara2001 What is the age of consent in Germany? 16? 14? It's strange that a girl can decide to have sex, but can't decide to wear a belt.

              Laura

              Laura What is the age of consent in Germany? 16? 14? It's strange that a girl can decide to have sex, but can't decide to wear a belt.

              I think as long as both people are more or less the same age and as long as it is consensual you can have sex from the beginning of your puberty.

              Important is the age gap, I think it is not legal to have sex with someone under 16 when you are 18 or older.

              Technically it is ok if a girl decides on her own to wear a belt. At least that's what I think. Important is the probability that they believe that it is your own wish. Most girls don't want to wear a belt and there is absolutely no understanding in the German mainstream society for wearing belts. That's why your parents have a very good chance of getting arrested when they force you to wear a belt and you got caught.

                Sara2001 Most girls don't want to wear a belt and there is absolutely no understanding in the German mainstream society for wearing belts.

                That's one of the missions of this site to make people familiar with it and explain advantages also for girls.

                  Laura That's one of the missions of this site to make people familiar with it and explain advantages also for girls.

                  I strongly believe most girls who are forced to wear a belt (in one or the other way) by their parents don't feel that the benefits are worth the limitations. At least for me this is very true.

                  When younger,only my ex-boyfriends knew it.If they are shocked,it was easier to be sure they won't tell anyone by telling them that,if he speak about it to anyone else,I'll break-up with him and never forgive him.While I generally doesn't explain about my belt before we're in love,it was effective.

                  Since I'm an adult,and in university,only my best friend knows it(in addition to my ex,and,of course,Emilie).I don't want too many people outside family to know it...

                  Sara2001 How important was having sex for your partners?I think I would satisfy their sex drive by hand or maybe mouth????. I think this can make a man very happy.

                  A woman too,I use my hands and mouth to pleasure Emilie too,and I did it some times with ex,when I was punished by having to wear the belt,while in a relationship.

                  But I agree with Raziel,it can be very frustrating...

                  Sara2001 I don't think sex outside of a marriage is something bad in general.

                  Same for me.One night stand,I can understand it is not acceptable(even if it can feel good....),but if in love,sex should be allowed.

                  Laura If Ivana was here, she would say that's one more reason you need a belt.

                  Probably,yes!

                  Laura That's one of the missions of this site to make people familiar with it and explain advantages also for girls.

                  I doubt many women belted against their will will accept it has many advantages.If I can accept there is some,I think the bad parts are much more important than the benefits of it.

                  a year later

                  You know me a bit already, and I am a bit obsessive with somethings, specially when those things annoy me.
                  Well, currently I am tired of "hungry drunk sluts". I am sorry, but I can not carry with them๐Ÿ˜….
                  So, I am decided to have a talk about belts with my " terrible tennis player". I am definitely sure that wear a belt is a far better and respectable option that be a free meat pack.
                  If I have to be grateful to those girls is because now, I have much more reasons to wear a belt.
                  I am not like them.

                    Ines So, I am decided to have a talk about belts with my " terrible tennis player".

                    really? I am surprised ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

                    does this mean that you have developed a relationship?

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                      Angelina
                      Well I think it has good foundations. So, now I think he is good enough to start a relationship.
                      Now, I know him, and I think he could be a boyfriend. So, I think, time to show the cards.

                        Ines I think he could be a boyfriend

                        At least for representation

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                          Ah...
                          Well I do not have more candidates! ๐Ÿ˜