Talk to parents about sex and masturbation

Ines

Angelina have said it many times before and i will say it again, if the parents want the daughter to wear a cb (with secondary shield) they should be able to talk about mastubation

Angelina, I think it is much more general than this.
I think, and I reinforced this thinking after read to many of you (in fact I think there is only a exception to this), that when parents decide that the best is make their girl wear a belt, it is to protect us. To take care of us. That this includes the impossibility of touch ourself, yes but, I think it is far more deep and general, even than impossibility of have sex.

Angelina

Ines

i understand your thinking and can also understand why your family thinks this way

but many parents certainly don't think so profoundly and besides, I am more interested in open communication, which is not possible due to the ignorance of many parents

Vanessa

Angelina exactly, i think not many parents would allow their daughter to have a cb but masturbate 🙁

Sadly,I think you're right.

Angelina

Yes.Even if masturbation is less "risked"(no STD,no unwanted pregnancies...),they don't like we do it too.

Ines but I do not like the fact that a girl can masturbate.

Can you explain why a bit more?I think it could be interesting to know more opinion about it,not only the one of our parents.

Ines Of course I think that a chastity belt only can be used willingly, but if I have a daughter, wearing belt or not, of course I will try to transmit her, that is not nice do it. I just hope she take my opinion in consideration, because being realistic, it is a thing you can not impose.

Would you forbid it,or only try to convince her to not do it?

Ines That this includes the impossibility of touch ourself

I don't think it is necessary to protect us...

Renita

Ines but I do not like the fact that a girl can masturbate. It is the same that when I see a girl drunk or a girl smoking.

Nobody likes but it's natural.

Ines

Vanessa

Vanessa don't think it is necessary to protect us...

I know we have different opinion in this matter, because I have a much more traditional wiew of this.

You know that for me, (it means it is valid for me), the family has to caress and protect their girls, and we should to be responsible about this. You know, that my happiness is in feel me protected, not in being rupturist.

Vanessa Can you explain why a bit more?I think it could be interesting to know more opinion about it,not only the one of our parents.

Well, more than explain, Vanessa, I will summarize, because all you know more or less my opinion. At the end, it is that for me, our pleasure has to be tied tightly to love, and in my case, my "blue prince" has to "impose" a bit to me. So, I do not rationalize it very often, but I guess that for me, a girl touching it is "synonymous" of a impatient and a bit selfish and even maybe a bit rebel girl, and they are virtues that I dot like very much in the girls.

Vanessa Would you forbid it,or only try to convince her to not do it?

Since my home experience, it is not something that you can impose. I do not like familiar dramas, and I think only possible chastity belt way is willingly. And best way is making daughters proud of their moms, and see the example. I think that it is barely possible for a girl wear a chastity belt if we do not see a happy woman when we say "mom".

I do not think nothing bad about girls that think or act on different way, but, I do not like some behaviors. It is similar to a smoking girl, I do not like it, but I have friends with that habit. I hope you can understand what I try to say.

Angelina

Ines

at least I understand what you mean even though you always express yourself very poetically 😉

there are different views and even if yours is unusual, i find it very interesting how you approach the topic of sex and mastubation.

but please note that there are many more traits and virtues that form the character of a girl 😉

Vanessa

Ines I know we have different opinion in this matter, because I have a much more traditional wiew of this.

You know that for me, (it means it is valid for me), the family has to caress and protect their girls, and we should to be responsible about this. You know, that my happiness is in feel me protected, not in being rupturist.

I can understand it,but not sure we should be "protected" about masturbation.It does no harm(as long as not excessive).

Ines Well, more than explain, Vanessa, I will summarize, because all you know more or less my opinion. At the end, it is that for me, our pleasure has to be tied tightly to love, and in my case, my "blue prince" has to "impose" a bit to me. So, I do not rationalize it very often, but I guess that for me, a girl touching it is "synonymous" of a impatient and a bit selfish and even maybe a bit rebel girl, and they are virtues that I dot like very much in the girls.

We have very different opinions about masturbation,but I can understand,even if I don't share,the logic about it,in your case.Even if I don't agree with you about it(as my opinion about masturbation,and my feelings about it,are different),I admit your reasoning is not wrong.

Ines Since my home experience, it is not something that you can impose. I do not like familiar dramas, and I think only possible chastity belt way is willingly. And best way is making daughters proud of their moms, and see the example. I think that it is barely possible for a girl wear a chastity belt if we do not see a happy woman when we say "mom".

I think you're right.Even if my experience with it is very different...

Ines I hope you can understand what I try to say.

Yes,it was clear,and interesting,thank you.

Angelina there are different views and even if yours is unusual, i find it very interesting how you approach the topic of sex and mastubation.

I agree,it is an unusual point of view,and interesting to know this one.

Angelina

Vanessa I agree,it is an unusual point of view,and interesting to know this one.

especially because i have never heard such a view before, i think @Ines has an argumentation that is useful for many parents if they want their daughter to wear a cb 🤣

Ines

Vanessa I can understand it,but not sure we should be "protected" about masturbation.It does no harm(as long as not excessive).

This is not exactly protect about masturbation, a chastity belt is a powerful way of make feel us protected. It is obvious that it affects to our sexual life, but for me the most important is the inner feeling of careness. It is a symbol more than a tool, and even it sometimes is a bit uncomfortable and sometimes pinches, I think few things can make me feel more protected than my belt.
I said here, that, even sometimes I fight and specially at starting I had crises, I think my fights are most destination to make me feel overpowered than to bypass or cheating.

Vanessa

Angelina

At least,a very different one than the ones of our parents.It is good to know very different opinions.

Ines

Ok,if I understand well,preventing masturbation is more considered(by you,at least)as a side-effect,the feelings(of being protected,mainly)being the main part?

strictfather

I don't think @Ines have wanted to tell her point of view is the only good one,it is mainly her opinion,and she only want to share it,not impose it.

Of course,we feel different,but I can understand how she feel(and obviously,it is very diffrent than for us,as she wears it voluntarily).

Ines

I agree.You could share your opinion here,and it is interesting for most of us,even if we feel diffently.I never felt you wanted to impose your opinion as the only right one.

Angelina that's right, in your family there is no obligation to wear a cb

Better this way,no doubt!

strictfather

Ines, you always continue to repeat and repeat and repeat... <<a chastity belt is a powerful way of make feel us protected>>

first: this is YOUR idea, not the reality (for all).

second: you can't "feel protected" if parents FORCED you to wear it 24h/24h

third: seldom you tell you can unwear it. so wearing it is a your choice, not a choice by others. so maybe other girls can feel/think to be "imprisoned" more than "protected".

fourth: you continue to talk about "feeling protected". maybe are you trying to convince yourself about it because know your parents wouldn't accept you stop to wear it? psycological world is a deeeEEeep worls.....

sorry if my word are too direct/hard but i have no time to write it better in a more soft way. try to understand my ideas, please don't look at how i wrote them.

Ines

strictfather
Hello... And I repeat, repeat, repeat that is my opinion...
If you want I write your opinion, I would do.... But it would be your opinion not mine.
Here I never never never try to export my opinion!
I do not state as universal true, but you, I do not know if deliberately, miss that part.
I think I have right to my opinion, Right?
Please select a SINGLE MOMENT, of my post where I said that my view has to be a global true.
Please pick up this moment, copy, and paste.
And next, please, pick up, copy and paste Every single time where I say that only way acceptable to wear a belt is willingly.
Please, make effort, and I hope you can finally understand it.
Current is the second time where I have to clarify you the point.

strictfather fourth: you continue to talk about "feeling protected". maybe are you trying to convince yourself about it because know your parents wouldn't accept you stop to wear it? psycological world is a deeeEEeep worls.....

It is very interesting since in my own home, my sister never has been belted.... But... I am starting to think you twist my words or forget some facts.

Laura

strictfather try to understand my ideas, please don't look at how i wrote them.

I can't understand your ideas either. @Ines just tells her view only and nothing more, you can agree or disagree to you. If you disagree we are happy to hear yours. However I don't see it

Renita

strictfather How about me? I wear it by choice.

Angelina

strictfather

i agree with most of the points you get 😉 but @Ines is allowed to write her opinion as often as she wants and sometimes she makes me think about it 😉

Ines I think I have right to my opinion, Right?

you definitely have 😉

Ines It is very interesting since in my own home, my sister never has been belted.... But... I am starting to think you twist my words or forget some facts.

that's right, in your family there is no obligation to wear a cb

Dee

So I talked to my mom and dad, they were always thinking that I don’t know anything about sex, have not ever masturbated... until mom saw me playing with myself. Now I’m told that masturbate is not allowed and sex before marriage is a big no no. I have tried to get behind the belt for the last few days but without any success.... I did manage to get a piece of cloth under the belt when I don’t have the thigh bands on though. I’m just afraid that if I get caught again, they will have me wearing the thigh bands all the time.

Laura

Dee they were always thinking that I don’t know anything about sex

Do they know for sure if you are still virgin or not?

Vanessa

Dee

So,the main reason for your forced wearing of a chastity belt is because she caught you masturbating?It seems it is a pretty common reason...

Do you manage to be stimulated enough with the piece of cloth?

Be careful,if caught,they may make you wear the thigh bands permanently,yes.

Dee

Knowing you masturbate doesn't make them think you've lied about the fact you're still virgin?

So,you knew what would happen if caught masturbating before you were caught?

I don't want to scare you,but,for the 4 of us wearing a chastity bra(and I'm the only one having to wear it part-time only),we didn't have to wear one at first,it was added later...

Dee

Laura I told mom and dad I’ve never had sex. I think they believe me. It felt like they thought I am still their innocent little girl that doesn’t know anything and now they know I’m not, they’re disappointed.

Dad told me if I try to pleasure myself, I will be punished and will have to wear equipment to keep me from doing dirty stuff. I guess the only missing piece now is a chastity bra.

Christine

Dee It felt like they thought I am still their innocent little girl that doesn’t know anything

My mom thought the same, I'm lucky she didn't know about chastity belts by that time.

Laura

Dee Dad told me if I try to pleasure myself

How could you do it if you have your belt always on now?

Ines

Vanessa Be careful,if caught,they may make you wear the thigh bands permanently,yes.

Hello, Dee,
Since your family has the view than a chastity belt includes thigh bands (and I agree), you should be careful if you want avoid wear them more time.
Anyway, and my intention is far of scare you, due your parents have the thinking, and they are right, that a belt includes thigh bands, I am almost secure about they will propose you wear them more time. You should think that probably only reason for you dot wear them in home is that they are newbies.
When they see that with a long chain as you have, you will not any problem, probably they will decide that is better for your safety you wear it in home, that is where is more necessary we are safe, because is when we have more fights.
Only limit, is the activities you can not make wearing bands, to be safe is not excuse to erase activities or hobbies of your life.
If your parents' idea is you are protected, I would not care about bra. I think it is a bit extreme device.

Kisses!

Vanessa

Ines

I agree(except I don't think thigh bands should be worn with a chastity belt);especially,as,often,when there is a stricter rule,it is harder to make them reduce the strictness of it...

Try to have good arguments to tell if your parents want you to wear your thigh bands more often(even if I think it would be hard to make them change their minds,if they want you to wear the thigh bands more often).

Dee

Too much fighting the belt too?

Ines I think that for conservative parents is not bad notice at all that their girls can not achieve a masturbation. And since they decided to buy a chastity belt with bands, it is clear, I think, that the purpose is avoid bad touching.

I think too.They probably decided to stop her to masturbate too,as the belt can easily prevent both sex and masturbation.

Laura So the answer is yes

You're lucky!😉

Renita

They probably don't think it is useful,at least for now.Based on this board,it seems chastity bras are often oredered some time after the chastity belt.

Natescage At least there's that an occasional orgasm would make it more bareable I would think.

I think too.

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