Chastity belt under wedding dress

Sara2001

I can only say that wearing it forced for your father and wearing it consensual for your partner makes a extremely big difference in my opinion. Even if just the start of wearing it is consensual and you don't have the free choice when you stop wearing it. It's a feeling of deep trust and knowledge that you make your partner very happy.

If the partner is not interested in you wearing it, there is no need to wear it.

Ines

Sara2001
I think that if you accept this lifestyle, you do not have the right to decide when you have to be released.
In my opinion, if the girl refuses to keep wearing the belt, what in my opinion it must be possible, it would imply a major reform in relationship.
It have to be possible, but obviously is a step that have huge consequences, not in a negative aspect.

Vanessa

Sara2001

I agree,it would probably be very different,depending if it is worn permanently due to parents' decision or when married.

But,right,it should be consensual and both partners have to be interested in it,the wearer and the keyholder.

Ines

Mainly right,but there should be a safeword to be used only if the wearer feels bad,which,when used,means an immediate unlocking without any questions(and discussing what happened after).

And,of course,the wearer should not use it except if it is very necessary.

Angelina no, camryn is not interested at least not currently 😉

It is like it is with new food:"don't say you don't like it before you've tasted it"!😉

Angelina there must always be the possibility to rethink the decision

If unsure,it can be a good possibility to try it for a limited time(a few weeks/months),then decide if it should be stopped or be used permanently.

Angelina

@Sara2001

no, camryn is not interested at least not currently 😉
otherwise i agree with you, it makes a very big difference 🙂

@Ines

there must always be the possibility to rethink the decision, but if you have decided how sara has chosen this lifestyle, it is difficult to revise this decision without consequences 🙁

Sara2001

Vanessa Mainly right,but there should be a safeword to be used only if the wearer feels bad,which,when used,means an immediate unlocking without any questions(and discussing what happened after).

And,of course,the wearer should not use it except if it is very necessary.

I don't like the idea of a safeword for this. A safeword means that it is still my final descision. I think a keyholder must see situations of emergency when the belt needs to be removed. I don't have a safeword nowadays, why should I need one after marriage?

Angelina there must always be the possibility to rethink the decision, but if you have decided how sara has chosen this lifestyle, it is difficult to revise this decision without consequences 🙁

I think life changes permanently and any descision can be redone any time. Nobody knows how we feel in 5 or 10 years. I think changes like this with a big impact on your lifestyle should have some kind of waiting period. Like when we decide, that we don't want the belt anymore, there should be a period of one or two months where anything stays at it is, and if we still feel the same after these months, we chould do the change.

Ines I do not agree.

I think the same.

Angelina of course your argumentation is logical, but it doesn't matter how you do it, because if the conversation doesn't give a good reason after the release, the belt will simply be put on again.

I think that's how it should be. As the wearer you often have "short time" wishes and the system must ensure, that you stay happy, not that you can get out of the belt whenever you want. It's the keyholders descision to release you or not. I don't want to have any kind of final saying in it, I think it would work, because I would use my power to easy.

Vanessa I think of cases like distress or panic attack,for example.Mainly useful for new wearers.

For an obvious emergency, no safeword should be needed. I would never give the key to someone that doesn't know me well enough to see an emergency.

Ines

Vanessa Mainly right,but there should be a safeword to be used only if the wearer feels bad,which,when used,means an immediate unlocking without any questions(and discussing what happened after).
And,of course,the wearer should not use it except if it is very necessary.

I do not agree. For me, a immediate and automatic release must be just possible, and mandatory, for an emergency.
For the rest of cases, we must ask for a release, and if the girl wish left the belting, of course we are in our right, but it is obvious that before it, I think it is necessary a conversation because it would have a lot of implications.

Angelina

Vanessa

i like to eat new food but i already know how it is to wear a cb 😉

exactly to agree a trial period would be a good idea

also i like your idea with the safeword 😉

@Ines
a conversation can also take place immediately after release 😉

Vanessa

Ines I do not agree. For me, a immediate and automatic release must be just possible, and mandatory, for an emergency.
For the rest of cases, we must ask for a release, and if the girl wish left the belting, of course we are in our right, but it is obvious that before it, I think it is necessary a conversation because it would have a lot of implications.

I think of cases like distress or panic attack,for example.Mainly useful for new wearers.

Angelina i like to eat new food but i already know how it is to wear a cb 😉

But:
-Camryn doesn't know how it is to wear a chastity belt;
-You don't know how it is to be a keyholder(of Camryn's belt)
-Camryn doesn't know how it is to be a keyholder(of your belt).

Still a lot of tastes to experiment!😉

Angelina

Right.

Ines

Angelina a conversation can also take place immediately after release

Yes and not... I mean, without be intransigent, but if we put over the table an exigence of releasing, of course we can do it and it has to be respected, it is obvious that it implys a change on the lifestyle.
So I think the adequate response is sit down and talking. If we still want our belt out, it has to be done.
But after it, the gravity center have changed and a long talk is preceptive readjust it.

Angelina

Ines

of course your argumentation is logical, but it doesn't matter how you do it, because if the conversation doesn't give a good reason after the release, the belt will simply be put on again.

Ines

Vanessa I think of cases like distress or panic attack,for example.Mainly useful for new wearers.

I thought dame some tome ago, but my Mind has changed.
I believe firmly in that generosity has to be a rule for keyholder, but the mood of the girl can not be a reason for release.
If we are in panic or overwhelmed, it happens specially at first of wearing, keyholder has to pay attention to the girl and increase hugely the amount of love and attention but not accept to open the belt.
I think that there are a lot of reasons to allow a break to the girls, but, mood it is not a good reason.
For these cases the intervention of keyholder has to be different

Vanessa

Ines

I can understand your point of view,but I don't share it.

If the wearer get overwhemeld or similar,it would be easier to take the belt off,let her calm down,and discuss with her after,to know how she felt,and why.Then,trying to solve the problem and put the belt back on when it is solved(or give up the idea of using a chastity belt if she can't manage it after after several tries and trying to solve the problem).If she's panicking due to it and have to keep it on,she would have more troubles to express clearly her feelings and fears.

Angelina but currently

But after some time,who knows... 😛

Angelina

@Ines is right,I don't talk about emergencies.If it is an emergency,the belt have to be taken of immediately,without any questions.It should be a basic rule.

Angelina

@Vanessa

there you're right, but i didn't write about camryn but only about myself, camryns experiences will be added later, because i can't say anything about it yet . she is very negative towards cb but currently

@Ines

a panic attack does not necessarily have to be directly related to the cb, it may be a medical emergency, of course it may not depend on the mood of the girl, but in such cases an immediate release is essential

Ines

Angelina
Angelina, I think real emergencies are out of discussion, for me, for Vanessa and for everyone, I think.
Vanessa is talking about mood of the girl, emotional reasons, I think.

Angelina

Ines

ok that I understand something differently, maybe @Vanessa can clarify what she means, if your thesis is right you are of course right 😉

newbie

And after wedding transfer keys and decision to open whenever he wants to yours husbands? 😃

Ines

newbie
Of course.

Vanessa

Billy

@Ines was right.Even if we felt very bad,we should still be able to ask for release,even without a safeword.

Angelina

Yes,no matter if the wearing is reluctantly or not,emergencies should be noticed and,in such cases,the belt should be taken off immediately.

newbie

If chastity is used in the relationship,yes.

newbie

Ines Great for your future husband. Could you answer on my question in intro/belted wife topic ? You write many good ideas on this forum and your opinion will be valuable for me.
Thnx 🙂

Ines

newbie
Give some times, this night I will stop studying!

Ines

newbie
Hello, as I promised I am here...
Firstly I have to say that you are the one that best know your fiance, so you have to know how many rights she gave you over her.
A chastity belt depends greatly of the approach of the girl about it, due that here there are girls that consider it as humilliating and me, for example that I think that a young girl wearing a chastity belt is a show of caressing.
If she has a negative concept, you have little chance.
In my opinion, that a husband be keyholder of her wife, it is not synonymous of misstrust, in fact if I would have notice of it, I would talk immediately, because I do not deserve a guy that misstrust on me.
For me, to be belted, is a way of be possessed for our men, and give him a big part of responsibility of the couple.
I find very nice that men wish to have us, I think it is natural, and in fact, usually, a lot of girls when there is love and trusting, do not feel bad with a boy in charge, if he makes us happy.
I am not married or in fetish world, but I think you should start to ask if she would like give you more power about her.
A thing can be a while in the night and another very different some days or hours in a belt. It can be very challenging for you and her. And it only can end well if you and she have clear idea that what do you want with a belt.
Good luck.

Megan

Ines A chastity belt depends greatly of the approach of the girl about it, due that here there are girls that consider it as humilliating and me, for example that I think that a young girl wearing a chastity belt is a show of caressing.

How they look and that they get put into bondage bdsm videos is the number one reason they are humiliating . https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/ar-wear-confidence-protection-that-can-be-worn#/
That would be a good project for us one day to get something that is comfortable to urinate through that looks more like regular yoga pants.
I like the buckle lock look more than the padlock that shows through clothes.

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