Should only females get belted?

Angelina

Sara2001 I think maybe this could be the case. I think other punishments are not that connecting.

hmm.... you should meet my father. no seriously what i want to say is that discipline and also obedience can be achieved without physical punishment/discipline if the parents make sure that they are seen as authority figures by the children.

Vanessa A long time ago,we used flint to make fire.It worked well,but,now,a match is better,don't you think?😉

🤣

Vanessa To not associate it with her birthday,which should be a day she likes,and have good memories of it,not the day she lose some freedom.

right especially not on the 18th birthday it should be the second most beautiful day in a woman's life after the wedding 😉

Sara2001

Angelina hmm.... you should meet my father. no seriously what i want to say is that discipline and also obedience can be achieved without physical punishment/discipline if the parents make sure that they are seen as authority figures by the children.

I think this is only one aspect. Especially with Daniel, the feeling of a strong connection is as important as the discipline.

Vanessa A long time ago,we used flint to make fire.It worked well,but,now,a match is better,don't you think?😉

I still think this can't be compared, but our new technology doesn't make the function of flints less useful.

Vanessa

Sara2001 I think this is not comparable. 🙂

It only shows that,even if something was working before,it may not be the best choice nowadays.

Angelina right especially not on the 18th birthday it should be the second most beautiful day in a woman's life after the wedding 😉

You have experienced it,maybe you could share your feelings when it happened with @HHelen,it would help her to understand why it is a bad idea.

Sara2001 Especially with Daniel, the feeling of a strong connection is as important as the discipline.

So why still use such discipline?

Sara2001 I still think this can't be compared, but our new technology doesn't make the function of flints less useful.

Yes,and,if we not use it anymore,a spanking would still hurt,but no one would experience it,as no one use flints to make fire,even if it still works.😉

Angelina

Sara2001 I think this is only one aspect. Especially with Daniel, the feeling of a strong connection is as important as the discipline.

i agree with you, but as i said before, i just don't find the connection. but ok i guess we won't agree on this point 😉

Sara2001

Vanessa It only shows that,even if something was working before,it may not be the best choice nowadays.

It's not necessary to always choose the best choice, a good size is good enough.

Vanessa So why still use such discipline?

To remind both of us about the places both of us have chosen in oir dynamic. It shows us that the other one cares about our relationship and this kind of relationship, and of course because it keeps me in line 🙂

Vanessa a spanking would still hurt,but no one would experience it

Yes, but I think the pain is only the most obvious aspect. Beside the pain it has more benefits for both, compared with any other way of discipline.

Angelina

Vanessa You have experienced it,maybe you could share your feelings when it happened with @HHelen,it would help her to understand why it is a bad idea.

I can but @HHelen's daughter has already passed her 18th birthday if I remember correctly. 🙂

Daphne

Sara2001

If I'm honest I'm envious of the dynamic you two have

Vanessa

Sara2001 It's not necessary to always choose the best choice

But it is logical.

Sara2001 To remind both of us about the places both of us have chosen in oir dynamic. It shows us that the other one cares about our relationship and this kind of relationship

However,it seems it would be the case even without it.

Sara2001 it keeps me in line 🙂

Would you misbehave,otherwise?

Sara2001 Beside the pain

There is shame.

But I understand what you mean,in your case.

Angelina

I doubt @HHelen could not add some devices/rules on her 19th or 20th or 21st,etc...birthday,however.

Sara2001

Daphne If I'm honest I'm envious of the dynamic you two have

Thank you, yes it feels really great overall. Of course the limitations are not always easy to handle, but overall it's so fulfilling? I am not sure this is the best word to describe it.

HHelen

Angelina I can but @HHelen's daughter has already passed her 18th birthday if I remember correctly.

Yes, more than an year ago.

Angelina

HHelen Yes, more than an year ago.

then happy belated 19th birthday (hopefully without chastity devices as a gift) 😃

Daphne

Sara2001

I wish i could have those restrictions too

HHelen

Angelina then happy belated 19th birthday (hopefully without chastity devices as a gift)

No more chastity devices in additional to what she has now.

Saintprudence

Daphne It may take time, but I have confidence you can find someone to impose the restrictions you yearn for. Certainly there are those who would find you to be an ideal partner!

Daphne

Saintprudence

Hopefully, for now I'll have to self impose them

Saintprudence

Daphne that was my next thought. You said you wanted to be required to dress feminine — and I totally sympathize — and there are many ways to enforce that on yourself. Starting with boxing up any masculine clothes and burying them in whatever storage you have available 🙂.

Daphne

Saintprudence

I totally could, and force myself to wear those formal school uniforms or gingham dresses perhaps

Saintprudence

Daphne Excellent options! It is also useful to test yourself to discover if you feel you can be truly committed to handing this authority over to another.

Daphne

Saintprudence

Say maybe we could make some rules then? For me to test out and try out for a few months or so. Or until i have a keyholder

Saintprudence

Daphne The rules are whatever you think best for yourself! Establish a chastity schedule and stick to it. Decide how you want to present yourself and how you want to define your feminity. You already have an aesthetic style, and I assume you’re publicly dressing femme. (If not, that’s a challenge you might want to apply to yourself.)

How good are your makeup skills? (It took me YEARS to learn and I’m still not that good, haha.) Making a point of applying the best possible makeup when you go out is both a useful feminine skill and a rule you could apply to yourself.

Daphne

Saintprudence

I could use something to base things of as much of a "you should do it" thing it is

My makeup skills are uh. Pretty okay

Saintprudence

Daphne My makeup skills are uh. Pretty okay

Then you have a goal to reach while you seek your keyholder! If it motivates you, don’t think of it as doing it for yourself, but to please your future partner.

(it’s not really the healthiest way to think of makeup as a woman, but if you’re envious of Sara’s life, then we’re well past that point 🙂.)

Daphne

Saintprudence

I mean makeup helps me pass

Well my goal is to be feminine, chaste, and a good student. Like i said a uniform would with that maybe

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