Ines I agree with you, I think that boys like girls a bit submissive, but not brainless.
What do you mean with brainless submissive?
I think I'm far away from brainless and that's one an important aspect for Daniel to have a relationship with me.
I think beeing fully submissive and excepting rules that many others feel are way to strict doesn't mean you are becoming a boring robot. I feel it spices up a relationship a lot.
Daniel can never setup random rules just for fun and then expect that I willingly follow them. I think this is a major misunderstanding of a submissive relationship.
There are rules for both of us and it is only working when both of as follow these rules perfectly. The rules are an additional band between us that makes our relationship deeper and stronger. His rules are that he MUST always take care of my long term wishes, dreams and needs to make me happy. He can deny me to do something now and he doesn't even need to explain it to me in the first place and I will follow, but this is not the end of the story. He has to explain the reason later in a suitable situation and when I ask in a calm voice. He has to take my point of view into consideration. He has to take care that whatever I need to be happy and whatever is needed to reach my goals will happen.
We often say he is responsible for long time goals and wishes, I'm responsibility for current goals and wishes but at the end both of us putting our goals and wishes after our partners.
I don't see how deep submissiveness in such a setup can be brainless. I think it should not be mixed with SM sex games where one "plays" the submissive role for a session and cruelty is part of the game.