Age to begin

Angelina

glad she liked it 🙂 but as others have said she is still very young, you can of course continue to try things out, but more should really only happen in a year or two, if she still wants it then.

Ines But, let her try it, I believe is go a bit far.

why? i once ate beef brain and realised i didn't like it. one try is not a decision. as long as nothing binding is done, everything is ok.

Joh Let her wear it in house as long as she likes but not outside.

If I have understood correctly, there is nothing else up for debate.

youdontknowme

Angelina more should really only happen in a year or two

A year or two would still leave her quite young for more to happen. I still believe that age of consent is the earliest where use of a chastity belt on the wearer's own terms should be wholeheartedly accepted or maybe even encouraged, and not before the age of majority should chastity belt wear become part of any negotiations. I am sure everyone only has her best interests at heart, but everything you can do is something people with less beneficial intentions can also do. As much as being made to wear a chastity belt as a minor is part of the experiences some people report about here, we should not normalize that.

Laura

dvoraks CB didn't sit so badly because I also had it as a teenager and we have similar figures

Anna, what age did you start wearing at?

dvoraks

Laura I was approx 1 yesar older

Angelina She should write here? Itś possible.

Continue .... the next day she begged if she could again and if she could continue. Again, we alerted her to report any issues immediately. On Sundays and then during the following days during the week, she was allowed to wear her CB at home in the afternoon and with gradually increasing time. She always brought CB and asked for a lock. We checked daily for problems. It was ok. This weekend we allowed her (because she already "trained") for a long time in the garden and the like.

Angelina

youdontknowme A year or two would still leave her quite young for more to happen

i even agree with you, the problem is that i am not really sure what this "more" means. i would have to know the exact agreement to be able to say if i think it is ok or not and the girl should write here so that i can assess if she has the maturity to make this decision. so yes i agree with you under some restrictions

Joh

youdontknowme Frankly, even that seems on the high side. Letting her try it out is one thing - it is making an experience that is not inherently harmful. But actively supporting regular wear around the house is beyond where I would draw the line.

To make it clear. I mean she can have the belt and wear it if she like it or not. The parent should not encourage her in any way.

Vanessa

Ines @alison_cd5 , we would be nice a little introduction of you, please, in introduction topic, tell us something about you.

I agree.

Joh I agree with @Ines @carg @youdontknowme

Me too.

carg

dvoraks

Thanks for the update. So you are saying that every day after school, she came to you asking to be locked in 'her' belt again? I have a hard time imaging what drives your daughter to do this. If it was just curiosity, it should have been satisfied by now.
Still, I think the only safe way to proceed, if she still wants to, is to let her hold her own key, so she stays in control. Otherwise you are very quickly reaching a point where it becomes child abuse. (What she wants is secondary to what is good for her in this situation., as defined by the law.)

Angelina

dvoraks

thanks for the update. i am surprised that she shows so much interest. i hope it is for the belt and not just because she wants to be an "adult", because then the interest will quickly decrease. But I dont't understand this

dvoraks She always brought CB and asked for a lock.

what do you mean?

Laura

dvoraks She always brought CB and asked for a lock

She can't lock up herself? Why?

a_father

carg Sure @dvoraks isn't a troll? What is told here doesn't sound realistic to me. Otherwise it is child abuse. A chastity belt and a 13 years old girl don't match.

carg

a_father

Of course not. But I prefer to treat it as true, in case it is, since then the parents need to know they should be very careful. Just proclaiming they are trolls would be slightly better if they are (don't feed the trolls), but much worse if they are not, since we will lose whatever influence we might have.

dvoraks

Angelina she was always bringing CB and asking for locking...

Laura she does not want do it alone, because CB is usually locked by other person

youdontknowme

Even if the impulse comes from the kid herself, I find the idea of the parents supporting a child below the age of consent wearing a locked belt for anything but safety against external threats highly quesstionable.

Avery

youdontknowme Even if the impulse comes from the kid herself, I find the idea of the parents supporting a child below the age of consent wearing a locked belt for anything but safety against external threats highly quesstionable.

Amen to that. There's a number of reasons why you are right but at least I am in university and my fellow students, those who know, are old enough to realize the need for it for safety in the city. Wonder how younger schoolmates would react. Kids suffer enough teasing without adding wearing a belt.

a_father

Angelina Think about you in the age of 13....

youdontknowme

Angelina on the other hand i am not a fan of making it only depend on age

Me neither, but we need objectively assessible criteria of maturity and independence, and so far nobody has come up with anything better. In the world we live in, the law says you need to have a particular age to make informed, willing and reasonable decisions about your sexuality, so that works as a decent rule of thumb, because essentially, wearing a chastity belt is a decision about your sexuality, even if it is a very different one than sleeping with someone is.

Angelina

youdontknowme

yes, but the german sex laws are in large parts big nonsense. example: from 14 on i am allowed to have sex with (almost) everyone, but if i send my girlfriend a video of our sex together, i would be sending pornography to a minor which would be illegal.

youdontknowme

Angelina Pretty much every civilized country has similar issues keeping their legislation up with technological progress. Our laws on what is consensual and what is morally acceptable had over 100 years to mature (and they definitely needed to mature), whereas easy photo/video capture/sharing is how old exactly? 10 years, maybe 20? In some overseas countries it can get even more ridiculous, with teens being tried as adults for disseminating photos of themselves, which would not have been illegal if they actually were adults. Be glad <18-year-olds cannot be tried as adults in Germany.

a_father

Angelina You are putting yourself on very thin ice with what you are saying here.

Angelina

youdontknowme

the problem is that in all our efforts to combat paedophilia, we forget that there are teenage couples. another example. we have an absolute age of consent at 14. it is right that a 40 year old man should not be sexually active with a 13 year old girl, but according to our law it is a punishable offence for a 14 year old boy to be sexually active with a 13 year old girl even if she is his Girlfriend.

a_father

Ines

even if you both (and many others) disagree, the reality of life is not so easy to explain or censor away.

I merely wrote that we have to look at this in a differentiated way, there is no absolute truth in such a sensitive topic.

Edit: I deleted the two posts (respectively the part that is apparently not wanted)

Ines

Angelina

It is not acceptable at all. OBVIOUSLY, 13 years old is far, very far of any activity related to chastity belts.
It is not only a nonsense, but also an absolute abuse toward a totally inmature person.
So, I am going to edit the post, due, even I am not fan of censure, because we can not have posts that, even if I am sure it is not your intention, let a open door to this usage of belts.

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