Chastity belts in colleges and unversities

orca2020

Nate Yeah i can imagine the worry of it being noticed through underpants, back when i was in school, always wondered what it would be like to be in chastity, sports would've been interesting haha. Suppose if a guys got a belt on, then just pants aint gonna cut it hiding it so each has pros and cons i suppose, depending how you look at it lol.

Nate

orca2020

Yeah, the PE was interesting, to say the very least. Guys on floorball discovered it fairly quickly, but they were cool about it. Talk about luck ... my class in school probably wouldn't.

I also realized that loose underwear like boxers hide the cage better, but don't hold the cage firmly enough, leading to scratching etc. On the other hand, tight underwear will provide enough support, but the cage outline will be super-noticeable (especially if you have a bigger cage). I eventually settled for tight briefs under dark-coloured boxer briefs (yeah, two underwear at once), but this unfortunately "cancels out" the great features of Under Armour boxer briefs.

About the belts - this is also the main reason why I would never agree to wear a full belt. I can't imagine how I would be hiding that. The cage definitely makes a bulge, but it's small enough.

Angelina

It's probably less about being patriarchal or not, but more about the purpose of the belt. I and my brother got the cage when we were moving out to study. We haven't got any sister, but if we had, I think she would have to wear something too.

orca2020

Angelina just saw your bio! When you say permanently, what do you mean? When i think of permanent, i think of forever, so are you locked forever or just until marriage or something? Also, what's it like wearing a chastity bra? From the photos i've searched, doesn't look all that comfortable with the 'straps'. Same with thigh-bands, they annoying or?
Also, when you say part time thigh bands, how often do you have to wear them and do they play a big part on what you wear?
And if you don't mind me asking (if you do then no worries, just say) what are the consequences if you refused to wear all your gear? No funding, no home, disowned or something?
I'm very curious how chastity fits in like, a regular lifestyle, not any kink or fetish or anything, so yeah, very intrigued how both men and women deal with it as a regular thing, especially if you have to wear a belt, bra and bands!

Jen

orca2020 I'm very curious how chastity fits in like, a regular lifestyle, not any kink or fetish or anything, so yeah, very intrigued how both men and women deal with it as a regular thing

It doesn't really fit - like chastity doesn't fit a normal lifestyle - more lifestyle has to fit chastity. Or to be a bit more normal take it off lots - I do.

Jen

orca2020 I looked at your history. So yeah reasons...
Being virgin is important- like not hymen just no actual sex. But like guys don't care and what's the point - and yeah these thoughts were getting me anxious - like hard to argue but just felt wrong. But it's what I get that's important like what I want sex to be for me. And I want it only ever with my guy for life and stopping masturbating as well makes it more real

Angelina

Nate No, not really. We're quite patriarchal community, just that some guys are in chastity.

especially in patriarchal circles, i would not have thought that. that surprises me very much.

orca2020 just saw your bio! When you say permanently, what do you mean? When i think of permanent, i think of forever, so are you locked forever or just until marriage or something?

in short permenently locked up until my wedding

orca2020 Also, what's it like wearing a chastity bra? From the photos i've searched, doesn't look all that comfortable with the 'straps'. Same with thigh-bands, they annoying or?

neither is pleasant, the thighbands are a little worse. the bra is mainly just mentally disturbing.

orca2020 Also, when you say part time thigh bands, how often do you have to wear them and do they play a big part on what you wear?

i wear the thighbands 12 hours a day except once a week, then 24 hours but then i don't have to wear the bra.

orca2020 And if you don't mind me asking (if you do then no worries, just say) what are the consequences if you refused to wear all your gear? No funding, no home, disowned or something?

that's about how you described it, let's put it that way, i'm not quite sure but it's certainly better not to find out, it would destroy an essential part of my life

that was the short version, i have written a lot in the forum where everything is written in more detail. 😉

orca2020

Jen Ah yeah i see what you mean! and yeah i understand, everyone has their own preferences with how they want sex and to loose what they define as virginity etc... so if your choosing to wear the belt to stop masturbating and to have it with your "guy for life" then good on you and good luck! 😃

Angelina Ah okay, well, i hope your wedding isn't too far off in the distance and i hope it's a good one too! and i hope you enjoy being out of it after! Are you going to do the same to your future kids if you have any or are you against it? Curious to see 🙂

Ah okay, yeah i would've thought by the looks of it, the bra being rather uncomfortable with like, sizing and the straps (i've seen are like, chains?) and do you wear the thighbands with like a chain between them limiting clothing/walking stride or is it more just like, thigh bracelets?

wow that is a lot! can't even imagine what it would be like if i were in your situation! My sympathies! So if you wear them for 24 hours straight you don't have to wear the bra? Well at least you get some time out of that then!

ah okay yeah i understand, what's your views on this with others/your future kids if you have any? but yes as you say, better not risk finding out if your not prepared for the consequences! Also, do you know if your parents believe if this is a female thing or do they think all kids, male and female should wear them? intrigued to see their point of view, i know my mum is against chastity lol

Angelina

orca2020 Are you going to do the same to your future kids if you have any or are you against it? Curious to see 🙂

no, definitely not, unless it is the wish of my children, but I can't really find any reasons for that.

orca2020 Ah okay, yeah i would've thought by the looks of it, the bra being rather uncomfortable with like, sizing and the straps (i've seen are like, chains?)

yes, but they are not as bad as you might think at first glance.

orca2020 and do you wear the thighbands with like a chain between them limiting clothing/walking stride or is it more just like, thigh bracelets?

sorry i don't understand the question. i wear thighbands with a chain in between and to the crotch 🤨

orca2020 wow that is a lot! can't even imagine what it would be like if i were in your situation! My sympathies! So if you wear them for 24 hours straight you don't have to wear the bra? Well at least you get some time out of that then!

it was a deal, i am allowed to have a break from bra once a week, but because i can stimulate myself in that time i have to wear the thighbands permanently as an extra safety measure

orca2020 ah okay yeah i understand, what's your views on this with others/your future kids if you have any? but yes as you say, better not risk finding out if your not prepared for the consequences! Also, do you know if your parents believe if this is a female thing or do they think all kids, male and female should wear them? intrigued to see their point of view, i know my mum is against chastity lol

sorry, i sometimes have trouble reading your questions. so first of all i only live with my father, he says he would do it the same way if i were a boy (but probably not a bra 😂 ) but i can't prove it.

Nate We haven't got any sister, but if we had, I think she would have to wear something too.

so it's not gender but coincidence because you are all boys

youdontknowme

Nate I and my brother got the cage when we were moving out to study.

I thought you started wearing your cage a while before you moved out to curb an amount of masturbation deemed excessive.

orca2020

Nate floorball? don't know what that is sorry haha. Ah yes, i can imagine that school would've been a lot worse, glad i didn't have to wear one in school! and yes i understand the dilemma, comfort vs secrecy lol
Yeah, i can imagine the belt being a lot more difficult to deal with for numerous reasons.

Angelina Ah okay, interesting you say that!

ah really? is it hard to cover up/hide? and what happens if you want to go swimming etc... do you get let out or do you have to deal with it?

Well when i googled them, i saw some people wear them without any chain in-between the two bands, so just the bands so was wondering if you had to wear the chain. Does the chain make a big difference being on compared to being off? Like do you have to walk differently or dress differently? And what do you mean to the crotch? When i researched thigh bands, i could only see photos of chains connecting the two bands together or chains along the outside of the thighs connecting to the belt, are you saying you have one going to your crotch too or?

Huh, not sure how much that makes sense, if you have 1 day out of the bra you have to wear thigh bands all the time, do thigh bands really make that much of a difference with stimulation? Or is it just more of an inconvenience? But hey, at least you can get out the bra 'regularly'!

No worries haha and yes, although you cannot prove it, it is curious if he would or not! and would be funny if the boy had to wear thigh bands and a bra, would make wearing male clothing quite difficult i would imagine! XD

Does all the gear make life difficult? if so, how? does it change a lot? make you do things differently then before? trying to understand if it's more of a nuisance or if it's actually a positive thing to have locked on you? and even if it is positive, does it cause any problems with daily life? i can imagine if your locked in all that gear, it would make you change what clothes you'd wear maybe? as i asked above, what happens with swimming, or going doctors, hell, what about summer! How do you hide it all, or don't you?

Nate

youdontknowme

Sorry, I originally wanted to write another sentence, but then I backspaced some text and missed that. Of course, I got the cage firstly at home, and my brother got it when he moved out. However, I was trying to make a point there is a purpose why we are wearing the belts, not just because we're boys.

orca2020

Floorball ... it's like ice hockey, but without ice 😃. You don't have to put on a ton of gear to play, but you'll still be in underwear when changing.

Angelina

orca2020

so i hope you are not angry with me, but i can only give short answers to so many questions at once.

orca2020 ah really? is it hard to cover up/hide? and what happens if you want to go swimming etc... do you get let out or do you have to deal with it?

when i go swimming i have a special swimming swim suit and (as always during the day) no thighbands

orca2020 Well when i googled them, i saw some people wear them without any chain in-between the two bands, so just the bands so was wondering if you had to wear the chain. Does the chain make a big difference being on compared to being off? Like do you have to walk differently or dress differently? And what do you mean to the crotch? When i researched thigh bands, i could only see photos of chains connecting the two bands together or chains along the outside of the thighs connecting to the belt, are you saying you have one going to your crotch too or?

thigh bands are usually always locked, otherwise they don't make sense. in my case with a chain but some users only wear it with a padlock. my connecting chain goes through the D-rings of both bands but also through a D-ring in the crotch area. Mysteel explains it well on his website

orca2020 Huh, not sure how much that makes sense, if you have 1 day out of the bra you have to wear thigh bands all the time, do thigh bands really make that much of a difference with stimulation? Or is it just more of an inconvenience? But hey, at least you can get out the bra 'regularly'!

thigh bands make stimulation in the crotch area almost impossible, without thigh bands I can get my fingers under the shield if I spread my legs wide, that's enough for stimulation but not for orgasms. the thighbands should prevent that when i play with my breasts i stimulate myself too much and then fight too hard against my belt

orca2020 No worries haha and yes, although you cannot prove it, it is curious if he would or not! and would be funny if the boy had to wear thigh bands and a bra, would make wearing male clothing quite difficult i would imagine! XD

yes, i assume if i were a boy, then only the belt 😂

orca2020 Does all the gear make life difficult? if so, how? does it change a lot? make you do things differently then before? trying to understand if it's more of a nuisance or if it's actually a positive thing to have locked on you? and even if it is positive, does it cause any problems with daily life? i can imagine if your locked in all that gear, it would make you change what clothes you'd wear maybe? as i asked above, what happens with swimming, or going doctors, hell, what about summer! How do you hide it all, or don't you?

I actually answered a lot of these questions in the forum. yes it has changed a lot, yes i recognize both positive and negative sides, whereby the negative sides outweigh in my opinion, which is why i also say that i wear it involuntarily. hiding is difficult, but we have threads in which I and others describe in detail how we hide it, and yes in summer it is extremely difficult, but doable, but sometimes you sweat a lot and yes it sometimes itches and you can't scratch yourself, this is hell

These were a few short answers, I'd be happy to write more about them, but that doesn't work if you ask 20 questions at once 😂

youdontknowme

Nate Floorball ... it's like ice hockey, but without ice 😃

So like field hockey?

Nate

youdontknowme

Yeah, very similar. This page outlines the differences (didn't want to copy-paste).

orca2020

Nate ohhh i see what you mean, i've seen that before but didn't know it was called floorball! Interesting and yeah i get what you mean, can't hide an outline very well in underwear haha

Maija

Angelina thigh bands make stimulation in the crotch area almost impossible, without thigh bands I can get my fingers under the shield if I spread my legs wide, that's enough for stimulation but not for orgasms. the thighbands should prevent that when i play with my breasts i stimulate myself too much and then fight too hard against my belt

This is the main reason women should wear thighbands

Angelina I actually answered a lot of these questions in the forum. yes it has changed a lot, yes i recognize both positive and negative sides, whereby the negative sides outweigh in my opinion, which is why i also say that i wear it involuntarily. hiding is difficult, but we have threads in which I and others describe in detail how we hide it, and yes in summer it is extremely difficult, but doable, but sometimes you sweat a lot and yes it sometimes itches and you can't scratch yourself, this is hell

It's certainly not easy, but I wouldn't necessarily say that the negatives outweighs the positives. As someone who wears thighbands and a bra every day, I personally can say that I mostly like the restrictions as they make me feel protected (i do however have an exercise break if one hour per day)

Angelina thigh bands are usually always locked, otherwise they don't make sense. in my case with a chain but some users only wear it with a padlock. my connecting chain goes through the D-rings of both bands but also through a D-ring in the crotch area. Mysteel explains it well on his website

Yes, it doesn't make much sense otherwise. As someone who has been locked in all of the described ways, I think they are a tradeoff between

Security
Ease of movement
Hygiene
Noisiness
(Maybe ease-of-locking-and-unlocking)

My parents and I consider my current regime (padlock) be the ideal compromise between these criteria. It's very secure, hygiene is easier than with a crotch chain for example, they aren't very noisy, and not particularly hassly to put on. The only downside is the freedom of movement, which does suck sometimes

orca2020

Angelina Nonono not angry don't worry, we brits like to list it all in one big message to save time lol.

Special swimming suit? could you elaborate or show me what you mean? i'm intrigued at how someone would hide their chastity belt, let alone with a bra when swimming!

Ohh right, never new that, makes sense tho, interesting how big of a part the bands make! Ah sorry, there is many comments and threads on here and i haven't read through all of them lol.

haha yes i can imagine an itch that cannot be scratched being a very bad thing!

Maija Oh so you think all women should wear thighbands? Do you think women should wear chastity all the time? and what about men?

Suppose it depends, you say you want to wear it, whereas angelina says she doesn't so that will definitely have an effect on the different views of what is positive and what is negative i think!

Oh so you connect the bands together by a padlock!? Doesn't that make walking difficult? i would've thought so! and how would that effect your clothing? I would imagine having your legs locked so tight together, you'd only want to wear certain things ?

Angelina

Maija as they make me feel protected (i do however have an exercise break if one hour per day)

exactly, you feel protected, i don't. my father would wish that i felt like you, but unfortunately that's not the case.

Maija My parents and I consider my current regime (padlock) be the ideal compromise between these criteria. It's very secure, hygiene is easier than with a crotch chain for example, they aren't very noisy, and not particularly hassly to put on. The only downside is the freedom of movement, which does suck sometimes

i also had a padlock for a short period of time, both have their advantages and disadvantages. but in normal everyday life i find a chain better because i can move around better with it.

orca2020 Special swimming suit? could you elaborate or show me what you mean? i'm intrigued at how someone would hide their chastity belt, let alone with a bra when swimming!

now a swimsuit with long sleeves and a skirt attachment. it's extremely unsexy but it serves its purpose. 😉

orca2020 Ohh right, never new that, makes sense tho, interesting how big of a part the bands make! Ah sorry, there is many comments and threads on here and i haven't read through all of them lol.

no problem, thighbands play a big role, they increase safety and certainly have small advantages. nevertheless they are the part of my equipment i hate the most because unlike belts and bra they also bother me when i am not aroused.

orca2020

Angelina I think if i were a girl, hell even a guy locked in chastity i would feel a level of protection but that would be very small compared to all the other feelings, personally haha.

ohh i see what you mean, i'm kind of imagining like a wetsuit type get up? I'm constantly seeing adverts for this swimsuit company called rotita (https://www.rotita.com/Swimdresses-c334.html) where they are selling swimsuits like what your describing. I've never seen a girl in a chastity bra before so i don't know how obvious it is or how hard it is to hide it, or how bothered you personally are at hiding it but maybe have a look at these and see if you can find anything that would cover you up enough whilst still looking 'sexy'. Just thought i'd mention it after seeing it so much online and your description of what you've currently got 🙂

Yes i can imagine! If i had to wear the gear you've got on, the belt i'm sure i could get used to, the bra (besides the fact i'm a guy haha) think i'd probably be able to get used to that too but the thigh bands, not sure i could get used to that as i think they are the type of 'equipment' that are constantly like, in the way and from what i hear and see, can't just hide or get used to, like they are always reminding you that they are there?

I think if a male was in a chastity belt or a cage, thighbands would help the same, reducing the leg gap that you'd have to mess around with your junk lol, but obviously guys don't wear skirts and dresses and they've got a lot bigger walking stride so don't think it would really work haha.

I do feel sorry for you though honestly. Like if you were to wear a chastity set up because you like it or its a kink or a religious thing or even just because you think it's right, then fair enough but if you've got to wear it "or else!" then i think in reality, it's really problematic mentally, and i do feel sorry for you and i hope you've got a good group of real life friends that can support you, and i hope your girlfriend is helping too. Does she have to wear a chastity belt/set up too?

And you said you'd be let out of the belt and set up when your married, is that the same rules if you marry a girl? Like if your dating a girl, then you've not got to worry about getting pregnant. But if he's of traditional values, will he still keep to his word if you marry a girl instead of a boy? just curious.

But hey, at least you know it isn't permanently on forever and only temporarily on until marriage, a light at the end of the tunnel 😃

Sara2001

Angelina i also had a padlock for a short period of time, both have their advantages and disadvantages. but in normal everyday life i find a chain better because i can move around better with it.

Definitely. It's way better. As you know I can compare it every day, because I still wear the padlock from dinner to the next morning and a chain for the day until dinner and having the chain definitely gives you way more freedom to move.

Angelina no problem, thighbands play a big role, they increase safety and certainly have small advantages. nevertheless they are the part of my equipment i hate the most because unlike belts and bra they also bother me when i am not aroused.

I have to agree. They definitely have the biggest impact on anything that is not sex related and I hate how they make cleaning after toilet more difficult.

orca2020 But hey, at least you know it isn't permanently on forever and only temporarily on until marriage, a light at the end of the tunnel

Not for me. I agreed with my future husband that I will continue to wear my equipment after marriage and for good. It was and still is my free decision, but sometimes it's very frustrating.

Angelina

orca2020 (https://www.rotita.com/Swimdresses-c334.html)

that would probably not work, the whole swimsuit is too permeable, you would see a lot. it is more comparable to a neoprene suit. also the straps are not good, you would see the chains, it has to be long-sleeved

orca2020 like they are always reminding you that they are there?

more or less yes, the thighbands can be hidden well under skirts and dresses if they are long enough. but you have to be careful with every step, one step too far and you feel the pull, luckily i don't wear them permenently anymore but you notice them all the time

orca2020 i hope you've got a good group of real life friends that can support you, and i hope your girlfriend is helping too. Does she have to wear a chastity belt/set up too?

in my circle of friends only my best friend knows about it. to protect my father it is better that way. my girlfriend had to wear one in the beginning, it was not really a compulsion, but let's say it couldn't be otherwise. but that is in the past and now fortunately not anymore

orca2020 And you said you'd be let out of the belt and set up when your married, is that the same rules if you marry a girl? Like if your dating a girl, then you've not got to worry about getting pregnant. But if he's of traditional values, will he still keep to his word if you marry a girl instead of a boy? just curious.

they are the same rules yes, what should change about that? an unwanted pregnancy is only one of many reasons and not the strongest because that can be prevented in other ways. in short he wants me to go into marriage as a virgin so that i can appreciate the value of sexual pleasure and not let sex or masturbation distract me from more important things.

Sara2001 Definitely. It's way better. As you know I can compare it every day, because I still wear the padlock from dinner to the next morning and a chain for the day until dinner and having the chain definitely gives you way more freedom to move.

definitely, I agree with you

Megan Sweat isn't a issue for me as I just move the belt part around without rubbing my body underneath the belt and the sweat just runs off.

sweat always makes me a little itchy and I can't scratch myself, it's really bad.

orca2020

Sara2001 Oh really? why did you decide to stay wearing it all forever then? and you say it's your free decision, is your future husband okay with it? and does this mean you can take it off whenever you wanted then, IF you wanted? but yes, curious to see why you decided to make it permanent!

Maija

Sara2001 Definitely. It's way better

I have to disagree. Both certainly have their pros and cons, but I really consider the added security worth it. Of course, I might also be the only one advocating for a connecting chain with chastity bras, for example, so take this with a grain of salt xd

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