Male keyholder

markules

Max9 I only have the knock offs of Holy Trainer V4 nub and small. In my opinion the shape is quite comfortable, but it's very easy to pull out

Nate

Max9

True. I also liked the original shape. But not the elasticity though.

markules

That may be true, but it's the best cage given comfort with this length.
Or at least, I didn't find a better one.

markules

Nate Hello Nate, I'd have a bunch of further questions if I may:

When you were first locked in your chastity cage, how long did it take you to adjust to the cage?
Do you think being released once a month is enough? Why once a month and not less/more regular?
Why do you not release your brother more often?
Was there a moment when you were glad you were in chastity?
Would you recommend that I gave my keys to my parents?

Nate

markules Sure 😉

I was first locked when I was 15. Don't remember the exact date though.
My parents took a guess about sizing the first time and unsurprisingly it was too big. We ordered a smaller one the next day. I've eventually grown back to the bigger one, which still I wear today.
I don't know why it became about once a month in the first place. My parents said that, and I accepted since I wasn't released at all the first few months. Now that my bf has the keys and I know about "milking", it has become about once per two months.
My parents gave me Jake's key for hygiene reasons because we live far away and only go home once a month. I was told it's for cleaning and that I can give him one more release each month (but I don't really do that), so he gets his release once a month at home.
It wasn't a single moment, but it's rather continual. I'm glad that I ended up being locked. I stopped focusing on masturbation and being horny made the sports better.
I don't know your parents and your relationship with them, so it's hard to say. If they are okay with these things, then sure, why not? Regardless, I would definitely recommend you to give the keys to someone, whether it's a trusted friend or parents.

Also, Jake and I finally ordered the HolyTrainers v4 (same sizes), and we decided to try the metal version.

Jonas

Yeah, I absolutely died of embarrassment (but luckily got resurrected 🤣). It might seem weird to say, but I'm actually glad it happened. The other guys were cool with it (although they did sometimes tease me), and I didn't have to hide the cage and shower at home. Second, by not asking my parents to unlock me, I got used to sporting in the cage, which is not only great, but it also doesn't give me the opportunity to cheat.

Of course, being caught masturbating was a bit embarrassing, but I didn't think of it as a big deal ... until I got locked. Well, I still got mixed feelings about the cage (guess nobody loves the cage completely), but they are mostly positive; I also wish my parents locked me a year or two earlier.

Jonas

Nate It was on a first floorball practice

I'd die of embarrassment in such a situation, but yeah, the idea of never having to hide my belt is very appealing. I wish chastity was more mainstream just so going to the doctor, or though scanners etc just wouldn't be a big deal.

Nate They caught me several times

Again, this must have been really embarrassing, but in the end, if I'd got a chastity device out of it, I'd have been happy.

Knowing what I know about myself now, I wish I'd had a belt much earlier.

markules

Nate Hey Nate, thank you so much for your reply in such detail.
You wrote that there is another boy in your team who is locked. What do you know about him?

How did your boyfriend react when he learned that you were locked in chastity?
How did your parents catch you when you tried to pull out of the cage?
How often do you milk your prostate?

Jonas

Nate I'm glad that I ended up being locked. I stopped focusing on masturbation and being horny made the sports better.

I think this is very true.

Orgasm is such a huge payoff but masturbation short-circuits the whole reward system.

We seem to be meant to work on ourselves, get out there, attract and hold on to a partner. All of this requires effort but also gives us life.

Self-pleasuring requires none of this, so leads to a much smaller existence.

youdontknowme

Nate My parents gave me Jake's key for hygiene reasons because we live far away and only go home once a month. I was told it's for cleaning and that I can give him one more release each month (but I don't really do that), so he gets his release once a month at home.

I hope you are communicating openly about that, it would probably suck for Jake if your parents are thinking he gets his monthly release with you and does not need that opportunity when he comes home.

Nate Yeah, I absolutely died of embarrassment (but luckily got resurrected 🤣). It might seem weird to say, but I'm actually glad it happened.

Did they learn about the reasons behind it quickly? I would think the questions it raises would be one of the most awkward parts of getting outed.

Nate

markules

Yeah, his name is Robin. He was locked when he was 13, but for excessive masturbation too. We never asked each other for specific details of why we were locked. At first, he was wearing HolyTrainer too, but his parents then switched him to metal CB6000s and unlike me, he was released way less often.

At first, he was surprised that someone actually wears it; he asked me a lot about the cage and being locked. After a while, we managed to convince my parents to give him my keys. Now, it's normal for us that I'm locked and he makes me orgasm just once in a while.
They caught me right while I was doing it (2-3x), and once they asked Jake. I only managed to pull out once, and it wasn't an easy thing to do. That said, it's near-impossible to put it back in. I always got spanked and I spent the first months (about 5 or 6) with no release at all because of it.
Once or twice a week. It helps me to get rid of full balls while giving no satisfaction and keeping me horny.

markules

Nate

When did you start masturbating?
Why did you say you wish you were locked earlier?
What is your sexual orientation, if I may ask?
Do you sometimes watch porn?
What do you do when you're so horny that you think you can't take it anymore?

Nate

markules

I tried it a few times when I was 11 ... and I started doing it regularly about a year after.
Getting locked a year or two earlier would have been great since I wasn't masturbating that much back then.
I'm bi, more on the gay side.
Well, I try not to, because the cage suddenly becomes smaller 😂.
Either I try to do some work (if I can actually concentrate), or workout until I'm completely exhausted. By that time, I may be horny as hell, but I don't feel that. If I can't do any of these, then I can try at least milking or humping a pillow ... though it doesn't really work.

markules

Nate

What amount of masturbation would be ok with your parents?
Where you ever caught masturbating in school?
Have your parents ever made an exception or a "gift" of cage free time?

Nate

markules

That's a thing I don't really know. That always said that masturbation is normal, as long as it's not too much.
No. Good that I was locked before I could start doing it there and somebody caught me.
Not a single time; releases were never a reward. Either they let me out just for cleaning or for a regular release. After that, I always went straight back to the cage, without exceptions. However, they did punish me by cancelling a planned release.

markules

Nate

Do you use lubricant to put on the cage?
How does it feel to be locked for half a year?
Do you drip a lot (leak precum)?
Which tips would you give a chastity beginner?

Again, thank you very much for giving me so much information!!!::

Jonas

Nate However, they did punish me by cancelling a planned release.

Harsh. Was this spoken about openly or was it framed as missing a cleaning break?

Jonas

markules Again, thank you very much for giving me so much information!!!::

Yeah, it's very enlightening and Nate seems to have such a positive attitude about it all. Very inspirational. Thank you for your questions too!

Nate

markules No problem 😉, I somewhat like talking about the cage, but it's not so easy, as you can't casually tell this to a friend IRL ...

Yeah, just a little bit and only when putting it on; I'm already used to the cage. When I was newly caged, I needed to lubricate it much more.
You get absolutely crazy horny, especially as a fifteen-year-old teenager. Some say that you become used to it after a few months, but that wasn't my case. I thought about it several times a day and I would do anything for an orgasm. My parents didn't want to hear about releases, since it was also my punishment for trying to get out. The last month, I even begged Jake (who always made fun of me for being caged) to help me somehow, but the best we did was heavy leaking.
I leaked a lot, but it became a lot better now that I milk myself weekly. I still leak though, but mostly just when I get "hard" or overnight.
Always start slow and check it often. Most cages are designed well, but still, humans were not originally designed for this. There is a lot that can go wrong. Also, a urethra that is not one-piece (e.g. plastic tube, but with some metal cap) is a big no-no as it can somehow apparently get loose and remain inside your penis (disclaimer: this told me my uncle, who works at emergency).

Nate

Jonas

That's also why we decided with my boyfriend to reduce the frequency of my orgasms from once a month to once per two months. It may initially seem like a bad thing for me, but I'm glad I actually have a "me" who knows chastity is good.

There was no clear distinction between "just a cleaning" and a "release" beforehand and they never talked about it this way.

When they wanted to give me a release, they would take my cage off and go, I would go shower, do the job, then wash the cage and call them to put it back on.
When they didn't, they took my cage off, washed it while I would shower my privates, then they would lock me again and go, and I would finish the shower.

Jonas

Nate The original point of me being locked wasn't a reward/punishment system, but to prevent me from masturbating. That's why it's not designed as such.

To me, masturbation is giving myself a massive reward for essentially doing nothing. So, yeah, I would agree that putting a stop to this is a worthy aim (for me) in of itself... like Max9 says...

Max9 is being chaste empowering enough

However, I think the next level (for me personally) could be using the body's reward system to help achieve my life goals. It's like we said about sports - chastity can drive you to achieve:

Nate I would do anything for an orgasm.

I wouldn't view such a system as punishment for rule breaking or failure to make the grade, I'd see it as only allowing myself a reward when I've actually done something that merits it. ....and even then I wouldn't personally go as far as to actually orgasm, ...at this point in my life of chastity any sexual stimulation at all lights up the whole console!!

Also, what would be quite a problem in your suggestion is setting goals that would actually be meaningful for me and somehow trackable.

I dunno. At my age weight and steps are simple measurable goals. As they say, if you can measure it, you can manage it!

Jonas

Nate we decided with my boyfriend to reduce the frequency of my orgasms from once a month to once per two months.

Thinking of oragasm as part of the body's reward system again, would it be better to have releases dependent on achieving goals rather than regularly once every 2 months?

Again it could be a powerful motivator.

Max9

Jonas that's true, it would definitely be... but do you need even mlre motivation, or is being chaste empowering enough?

Nate

Jonas

The original point of me being locked wasn't a reward/punishment system, but to prevent me from masturbating. That's why it's not designed as such.

Of course, since I was already wearing the cage, it
became a convinient system for my parents (my bf obviously doesn't use that) to punish me (and now Jake).

Also, what would be quite a problem in your suggestion is setting goals that would actually be meaningful for me and somehow trackable.

« Previous Page Next Page »