A Fundamental question

Christopher17

My parents put me in a steel chastity cage when I was 13 because I was masturbating too much, they caught me a few times and after being told many times not to I was caught in the pool with my penis in the water jet, it felt so good and I was in serious trouble. I have only been out since to have supervised showers with my dad there or to have the cage adjusted as I grew.

The only times I get to cum are during wet dreams (3-4 times a week) or when I can sneak a shower alone and use a finger in my butt to make me cum, but it doesn't feel as good because I can't get hard or touch my penis and I seriously cry about this all the time, I so desperately want that feeling of tension release in my penis. They keep promising to let me out if my school results improve but I'm constantly at the top of my year and it's never good enough.

markules

Christopher17 Hey Christopher, may I ask you a few questions?

What does a wet dream feel like?
Do you know the model of the device you wear?
How do your parents call your device?
Who knows about it?
Do you find prostate massages relieving?
When did you start masturbating?
Thank you!

Angelina

youdontknowme

i am not completely serious but it would be an idea in this forum for all those who are no longer virgins but would like to be and wear the belt. 😉

Vanessa

Renita I don't think the consequences will be more in your case.

They are.Loss of financial support,and breaking the relationship with my parents.

I explained it several times...

Angelina 😉 the question is whether we should perhaps set a time frame, like a statute of limitations for criminal offences. "you are now....years in the belt and are thus reclassified as a virgin".

It could work!😉

With Emilie,we think about both wearing it permanently during a few days/weeks before getting married.

Angelina whereby I prefer a fixed decision day 😉

I doubt we could agree on it!😉

Angelina you don't seem to have any major consequences, so any harsh consequence would be more than in your situation.

Right.

Angelina

Would the duration depends on how we acted?

For example,someone like me who had several partners,including some one night stand and masturbated would have to stay longer in it before being considered virgin again than someone who only masturbated and had one partner?

Angelina why should male chastity not exist? there are belts for men and men can also have the need to restrain their sexual desires.

I agree.And chastity cages are far more widespread,I think.

Renita

Angelina where do you get this insight from?

From her social profile.

Angelina you don't seem to have any major consequences

Neither she.

Angelina

Renita From her social profile.

Renita Neither she.

i see it completely differently and i don't quite understand what you mean by social profile?

Megan I can't understand 100% but I don't think male chastity exists

why should male chastity not exist? there are belts for men and men can also have the need to restrain their sexual desires.

Megan

markules I can't understand 100% but I don't think male chastity exists

Christopher17

markules Hi...

It feels really good sometimes, if I wake up just as I'm orgasming I get most of the feeling I would get in a real orgasm from masturbation, but not quite. I hope every night I wake up then, but sometimes I wake up too late and I just feel the wet patch in my crotch.
I don't know what the model is, it's like a "Lancelot" that somebody else showed me a picture of but the gaps in the mesh are larger.
My "protector".
Only my parents as far as I know. I wear loose clothes, I swim in large board shorts.
It takes some of the pressure away and when I shoot it feels really good but different, more in my whole lower region than focussed and intense in my penis. Better than nothing I suppose...
When I was about 10, using the pool jet. I used to swim on really cold days just to get that feeling and do it 5 or more times a day. I started using my hand maybe a year later, and I got caught a few times in the shower or in my room, and finally in the pool again and again before they put this on me. I've tried to use the water jet with the cage on but I can't get the right amount of stimulation, and it feels good but just frustrates me more in the end.

I'm really glad I've finally found people I can talk to about this.

youdontknowme

Megan It certainly does, though whether it is the same as female chastity is something that hardly anybody can answer. In principle, it is easier to keep a penis from being stimulated than a vulva, just shove the whole thing into a tube and tie that to the body in some way. Some ways of securing the tube are more effective than others, but a tight belt around the crotch has an easier time keeping a male body under control than a female one, and there are tons of not-quite-as-secure-but-still-better-than-nothing options for people seeking something less invasive. I think most guys here who have their penises secured have their tube held on by a ring around the penis and scrotum. Also, males tend to have a higher sex drive on average, so they will likely feel the effects of sexual denial more quickly.

Now, whether you believe that male sexual abstinence is worth promoting, or whether there are many guardians of males that take an interest in their chastity, that is a very different question. The former one is of course very much up to each person's individual values. As for the latter, I am sure there are many people who wish their sons would masturbate less (rumor has it that this is what led to the spread of routine circumcision in the USA), but how many of them would use chastity devices is a different question. Considering that male chastity devices are often off-the-shelf products (especially the "trapped-ball" cages), whereas full belts (i.e. the most widespread option for female chastity) are custom-made, and that most manufacturers see themselves in the sex toy business and refuse to produce belts if they know the wearer is underage, I find the stories of locked-up boys far more believable than those of locked-up girls, to be honest.

markules

Sorry, I do not really understand what you mean. Would you mind reformulating for me?

markules

Christopher17 Hey Christopher, may I ask you a few additional questions?
I know your cage, it's the lancelot model. It consists of a ring connected to a fine mesh, right? It's very likely this one was made especially for you. I wish I had the same one.

Do you find your cage comfortable?
Do you use any lube?
Have you ever argued with your parents about it? What did they say?
Have you ever tried to pick the lock?
May I ask you further questions?

Thank you and have a nice day

Jen

youdontknowme a search brings up so much stuff for guys but they seem to like it as a game not for staying pure. Like I guess not really expected for girls either but a girl virgin is more positive than guy virgin. So yeah chastity belt not as a game seems more for girls and game more for guys

Renita

Angelina i don't quite understand what you mean by social profile?

She is good enough to be independent from her parents.

Angelina

Renita She is good enough to be independent from her parents.

and what money is she supposed to live on? she has no long-term job

Vanessa With Emilie,we think about both wearing it permanently during a few days/weeks before getting married.

this does not make her a second virgin (my opinion), but it is a romantic gesture 😃

Vanessa I doubt we could agree on it!😉

Yes 😉

Vanessa For example,someone like me who had several partners,including some one night stand and masturbated would have to stay longer in it before being considered virgin again than someone who only masturbated and had one partner?

no, i would set a fixed time like in criminal law. let's say maybe 5 years.

Christopher17

markules Sure.

A lot of the time I forget that it's there, I guess I'm just used to it. But when I start to swell or notice leaking then it's really uncomfortable, especially until the swelling stops which can take ages. I sometimes have to be careful how I sit like on a bike or a bench but mostly it's ok.
No it goes on and off easily when I'm soft.

3.ALL THE TIME. I try not to because arguing with them about anything just makes them stricter but it's really hard. They say that I need to focus on school and not "bad habits". They're very religious (especially mum) and don't think masturbation is every appropriate for anyone. When I try to argue about how good I've been and my results they just say I'm not mature enough to control myself yet.

No I wouldn't dare and I'd be too afraid of hurting myself there.

Sure ask anything I'm just glad to be able to talk about this with people who don't know me IRL!

markules

Christopher17 Hey Christopher, I'd like to ask you a few more questions if I may.

Do you know anyone else who is in chastity?
Would you recommend chastity for me if I really trust my parents?
They would be willing to hold the key for me. I want to reduce my masturbation and orgasms.
What religion does your mother have?
How long did it take you to adjust to the cage?
Is the mesh comfortable, has the mesh ever hurt you?
How were your first days in chastity like?
Have you ever thought about reporting your parents to the authorities?
Do you need to use lube?
Who observes you while showering? How do they observer you?
Have you ever ejaculated while cleaning your penis? If yes, what was the punishment?
When you have a wet dream, how do you parents react?
What else have you ever been punished for by your parents?

Thank you a lot for letting me ask these questions!

Renita

Vanessa Loss of financial support,and breaking the relationship with my parents.

You will have to do it sooner or later anyway.

Angelina and what money is she supposed to live on? she has no long-term job

The same way as others do.

youdontknowme

Vanessa Would the duration depends on how we acted?

For example,someone like me who had several partners,including some one night stand and masturbated would have to stay longer in it before being considered virgin again than someone who only masturbated and had one partner?

That would really be more of a "sentence served" than a "statute of limitations" thing then.

Maybe also some parole terms. Virginity only counts as restored as long as the wearer never has the opportunity to take off the belt in front of a potential sex partner (i.e. a person who matches the wearer's sexual orientation and is not a family member). Removal in private is fine, even for masturbation, but only after the original sentence has been completed.

Vanessa

Angelina and what money is she supposed to live on? she has no long-term job

Exactly.

Angelina this does not make her a second virgin (my opinion), but it is a romantic gesture 😃

Yes,it would be more symbolic.

Angelina maybe 5 years.

Pretty long!

But based on it,I would be a second virgin on my wedding day!😉

Renita You will have to do it sooner or later anyway.

No.I would have financial support until I've a long term job,and,even after getting married,I would still meet/call my parents.

Renita The same way as others do.

Not possible with a short term job,except if we're rich.

youdontknowme Virginity only counts as restored as long as the wearer never has the opportunity to take off the belt in front of a potential sex partner

Even if that don't lead to sex?

youdontknowme Removal in private is fine, even for masturbation, but only after the original sentence has been completed.

No masturbation allowed before?

Renita

It doesn't make me earn much money!😉

Max9

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youdontknowme John Harvey Kellogg (widely known for corn flakes)

And,if I remember well what I've read about it,they thought that eating corn flakes would reduce masturbation.

youdontknowme that most male devices are worn for fetish reasons, and that most devices sold for fetish reasons are worn by men, but that is mostly because the vast majority of devices in general are sex toys and the vast majority are also designed for penises.

Probably right,yes.

youdontknowme cages tend to be easier to get used to living in with minimal unlocks

And way more easy to hide,I think.

Angelina

Renita The same way as others do.

But others also usually have a permanent job 😂

Renita

Angelina But others also usually have a permanent job

Then wearing chastity devices is her permanent job 😃

Angelina

Renita Then wearing chastity devices is her permanent job 😃

maybe in case @Vanessa wants to promote mysteel 😂

Max9 why do you ask everyone the same questions? Do you work for a statistic lab?

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Max9

markules why do you ask everyone the same questions? Do you work for a statistic lab?

Christopher17

markules sure happy to chat...

No, only on this page! I suppose it's possible other people I know are.
NO NEVER EVER it's horrible. Try anything else.
We're Exclusive Brethren
Weeks I think until I didn't notice it all the time.
It's not uncomfortable, I've never been hurt or injured by the mesh and I'm circumcised if that makes a difference.
Terrible, I used to masturbate 3-5 times a day and would do it again now if I could, I get so desperate. Sitting down to pee in public is also a real pain and I'm still not used to that. Not much has changed from the first days - I still try to get hard all the time, I leak all the time, I have wet dreams every other night except when I get enough private time to "masturbate" through my butt, that buys me a few nights uninterrupted sleep.
I've been tempted since I came here but honestly don't know if it would be worth it.
No just some moisturising cream as it goes back on but that's more for my skin than to get it on.
Mostly my dad but sometimes mum, she doesn't like doing it though as it's kind of not cool in our church.
A few times early on (mostly on purpose) but I got in a LOT of trouble so have to be really careful now not to, which is an effort because it's always super hard and sensitive!
Mum gets annoyed but not angry, I'm not in trouble. Sometimes it's all caught in my underpants so it's not so bad, especially if I wake up just as I'm orgasming (which is best because it feels so good) and I can get out of bed right away. If there's a lot and it gets on the sheets its a hassle but I'm not in trouble.
Just the usual stuff I suppose.

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