A Fundamental question

Megan

Joh The whole chastity is of sexual nature and, from my point of view, you can not separate it. If we talk about wearing a belt or chastity we should also address the sexual part. Only when a clear view of the whole topic is present a valid decision can be make.

No my chastity belt isn't sexual it was clothing to me

Joh

Megan No my chastity belt isn't sexual it was clothing to me

Of course, it may be that in your case it has no sexual aspect for you. But that is no proof that it is like that in every case. As I already wrote, it's in the eye of the observer.
Apart from that. If someone is forced to wear one and their sexuality develops, but is massively restricted from developing freely, it definitely has a sexual component.

Megan

Avery Minors are by definition not able to make decisions for themselves, especially when adult men are involved and the topic involves intimate discussions.

Absolutely don't feed the trolls.
Some people like women who were from countries with FGM should be shown better options for cbs. Maybe it isn't perfect but it is a big lifestyle improvement @Laura

Vanessa

Angelina there are good reasons, definitely, but i ask you to leave it up to each person what he/she wants to write about him/herself.

I agree.

Avery

But there is off-topic thread on different subject,not related to chastity.

Avery it was @Vanessa not @Laura who said it might attract trolls

I was the first to answer,but you can be sure @Laura don't want trolls invading our forum either.

Angelina

Avery

i think i understand what you mean, but the question is what countermeasures you would take. the topic of the forum is a rather discreet one, we don't write about the weather here and of course one can slip into difficult s'discussions. so what would you do differently?

Joh

Thank you, you have described it very well and I can join you in most points. 🙂

Avery Thanks for responding. It's dangerous because those involved cannot know the intentions of the other parties.

But then we should rather talk about media competence, but not forbid people what they want to write.

Avery

Angelina the topic of the forum is a rather discreet one, we don't write about the weather here and of course one can slip into difficult s'discussions. so what would you do differently?

I would only make the three points as I made before. 1) Don't collect detailed information about young women just to collect it. It doesn't feed good intentions. 2) Don't give out your email, it establishes a bad precedent. This is not a place to groom young women. If you want that go to reddit. 3) Don't respond positively to approaches like "so what are your fetishes?" Again, go to reddit.

As I said before in another discussion we had if you want the last word please take it. I am done with this. Further discussion is harmful to the group and, believe it or not, I'm trying to help the group.

Joh

Angelina But then we should rather talk about media competence, but not forbid people what they want to write.

I agree.
Educate instead of restriction with every aspect.

Angelina

Avery 1) Don't collect detailed information about young women just to collect it. It doesn't feed good intentions

i don't do that, but to help others we need some information

Avery 2) Don't give out your email, it establishes a bad precedent.

first of all only the admins/mods have the email, i let them pass it on to others if i want to write with these users about topics that have no place here in the forum. i only use this email for the forum and for nothing else and i wouldn't give it to everyone.

Avery As I said before in another discussion we had if you want the last word please take it. I am done with this. Further discussion is harmful to the group and, believe it or not, I'm trying to help the group.

I believe you want to help, but I think it's wrong that you want to tell the users what to write when and how

Megan

Avery As I said before in another discussion we had if you want the last word please take it. I am done with this. Further discussion is harmful to the group and, believe it or not, I'm trying to help the group.

Your last advice is helpful and I appreciate it...
I think @Laura asks questions either because she is curious or she wants to tell if the person has been banned before and made a new username with the same IP address...

Avery

youdontknowme the inspiration behind that was Ines's proposition that her sister, or was it her cousin, should stay away from her own apartment while her flatmates have boys over.

I imagine that was so the sister or cousin would not be witness to any immoral activities. It's rather divorced from your point but in most American university on campus housing situations it's necessary to leave the premises because in order to provide the large numbers of accommodations required, schools build huge structures consisting of single rooms housing two students each with no interior walls. Thus the line in the song Walk Of Shame where the girl trips over her lover's roommate sleeping in the hall the morning after her tryst. Vacating the premises is necessary just to give the prospective lovers any privacy at all.

Vanessa

Avery most American university on campus housing

I never lived on campus(it is different in France,mainly there is only "Cité U",consisting on a few buildings with studios for students),but it is mainly a studio for each student,not 2 students in the same studio.

Angelina

Vanessa

we have small dormitories where students can usually live with 3-4 people per flat, but many continue to live with their parents (this was different in the past).

Vanessa

Angelina

Enough privacy?

Angelina

Vanessa Enough privacy?

in a student dormitory? definitely not, but that doesn't matter for most people because they are happy to live somewhere at all. 😂

Vanessa

Angelina

Understandable.

But having an own apartment is better,if possible,so.

Angelina

Vanessa But having an own apartment is better,if possible,so.

of course, or even your own flat with your wife 😉

Vanessa

Angelina even your own flat with your wife 😉

Of course!😉

Ines

Avery You are correct. In fact I posted a number of things of a sexual nature deliberately in an attempt to tweak Ines who seems to disdain anything remotely sexual and who of course is now long gone. This was a mistake.

No, I was only reading and thinking.
One is slave of her comments and owner of her silence.

Ines

Megan That was definitely a mistake, @Ines is worth millions of trolls and she is very patient to just joke about people with weird fantasies by telling animal facts. She should be allowed to ban anyone with negative sexual attitudes. Wanting to hurt another person is a legitimate reason not to listen to someone.

Thanks, @Megan , I await your answer in moderation.

shinydiamond77

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