A Fundamental question

Renita Before mom didn't object if I quitted, now she does.

Because you are single, it would be strange if she let you quit easily.

Renita That's correct. Before mom didn't object if I quitted, now she does.

but if there are no consequences, they are just empty words (my opinion).

Vanessa I agree,but how we dress participate on the first impression.

that's true, although i find it more important in the professional field

Renita As a belted girl

Renita Of course, not. I'm an adult independent woman.

That's exactly why I don't quite understand it

Renita As a belted girl

A emoji... hmm... So, you're happy about this change? Congratulations then.

Vanessa I think she would have it put on before the start of the date

I think, she doesn't want to.

gwen So, you're happy about this change?

Actually, not a big difference, excepting she always checks if the belt is locked properly.

Renita Actually, not a big difference, excepting she always checks if the belt is locked properly.

this should actually always be done, even with voluntary wearers. everyone has a "difficult phase" sometimes.

Angelina I have to check Goody’s lock every time! She’s already made it clear that she’ll take advantage of any opening she gets. It’s quite the little challenge game between us. So far, I’m winning .

I asked her to check mine frequently as well, because I don’t think I’d have had the willpower to secure it if it was left undone.

Renita not a big difference,

I'd disagree in those circumstances!

Are there conditions in which you will be allowed to stop again if you want?

gwen yeah, it feels to me like Renita is now an unwilling long-term beltmaiden (I’m gonna make that word happen, dammit!) who’s just trying to make the best of being locked whether she likes it or not.

Saintprudence beltmaiden (I’m gonna make that word happen, dammit!)

I'll do my part to help it catch on!

Saintprudence it feels to me like Renita is now an unwilling long-term beltmaiden ... who’s just trying to make the best of being locked whether she likes it or not.

You think? I suspect she's quite happy that the choice has been taken away.

gwen haha, true! She does seem oddly enthused to be permanently locked. I suspect she was grateful the first time her mom confiscated the keys!

Renita Actually, not a big difference, excepting she always checks if the belt is locked properly.

That's fine, do you still visit her house for long showers?

This got me thinking. Some of you are in your late 20s or 30s and say you're belted by your parents. I can't even wrap my mind around that. I have a hard enough time just imagining being belted through college. There was a time in my 20s I was vaguely annoyed my mother even had my current address, let along any real authority over me. @Laura, @Renita, @Vanessa -- at least, that who I think I'm thinking of, anyway -- my only question to you is, how do you do it? How do you put up with being that far into independence and then just allowing yourselves to be locked up like that? Of all the things on this forum, that's the thing that just does not compute.

GoodyProctor How do you put up with being that far into independence and then just allowing yourselves to be locked up like that?

Are you asking why I didn't stop wearing yet?

Laura Sort of? I'm not even sure what I'm asking. I guess I just can't even fathom it. Most of what I hear on this forum makes sense on some level or another, even if it seems bizarre. I know firsthand what controlling parents are like. I know what it's like to have your mom dangle tuition over your head when you're a college junior trying to find your own way. But being 31 and locked by parents just breaks my brain when I think about it. It's not that I don't believe it; far from it. If anything, it's so odd that it almost has to be real. I just can't believe how you DO it.

GoodyProctor But being 31 and locked by parents just breaks my brain when I think about it

Mine too But then I have found that topic on the misterpoll

GoodyProctor I just can't believe how you DO it.

Tell me how I can stop it

Saintprudence

i actually find this very important even though i have mixed feelings when my father does it. on the one hand it shows me that he still doesn't trust me 100%, but on the other hand it also shows me how important the whole thing is and therefore how important i am to him. my feelings are very mixed.

Saintprudence haha, true! She does seem oddly enthused to be permanently locked. I suspect she was grateful the first time her mom confiscated the keys

i agree with you, it seems to me that she is happy with not having the choice anymore

GoodyProctor

i have to admit that although i am also in the belt involuntarily, it also kind of amazes me when women who are over 30/40 years old write the same thing.