Belt fitting

Jen

Vanessa The more they ask you to wear it,the less you wear it?

Nope - think I needed a comma.

They don't prompt at all. I just put it on when it suits. Sometimes they ask about unlocking cause they're going out

Laura

Jen Sometimes they ask about unlocking cause they're going out

So, they don't leave your locked yet

Vanessa

carg

I think it can still be very embarrassing.

Jonas

They may not think about a chastity belt,but the contour of it are very different than panty line(even more for waist style ones).

Jen

Thank you,I understand better this way.

Laura yet

You may scare her!

carg

Laura So, they don't leave your locked yet

I interpreted @Jen's remark more like that her parents would check if she wanted to be unlocked before they left, since otherwise she'd need to wait for that until after they got back.
But of course it is also possible that they choose not to keep her locked up (yet) when they are not around.

Angelina

Vanessa You may scare her!

I almost suspect this is intentional 😉

Vanessa

Angelina

Not sure.

@Laura wants to promote the use of chastity belt,scaring potential users would not help!😉

Angelina

Vanessa @Laura wants to promote the use of chastity belt,scaring potential users would not help!😉

that's why I asked 😉

Jen I'm trying to wear it more.

how much exactly are you planning? and why?

Laura

carg But of course it is also possible that they choose not to keep her locked up (yet) when they are not around.

I think that's the case

Jen And often lock it in the afternoon before they get home

Might be too risky

Jen

Yes it's just a check sometimes I keep it locked. And often lock it in the afternoon before they get home. I'm trying to wear it more.

carg

Jen And often lock it in the afternoon before they get home.

And then you send your mother a picture of the lock immediately, so she knows when you started? Or is she convinced by now that you want the belt yourself as well, and is not so active anymore in checking that you make the 12 hours?

Jen I'm trying to wear it more.

Still no pressure from your mother, just your own initiative?
So there are still times when you are home that you don't wear it?
Are you trying to do it more outside as well? Or was your 'challenge' at the bowling a one-time-thing for now?

Vanessa

Jen

Good luck!

In average,how long are you wearing it each day(including night),presently?

Jen Yes both of them - group chat

Your idea or a lack of trust from her?

Jen like I feel like I need to put it on like I sort of already decided about it and breaks to get used to it are not really an excuse now.

Good.

I think it can help you to manage it well.

Jen about emergencies and stuff but how often does that really happen

I think you should have an emergency key or similar.

Very important.

Joh

I think so,too.

Jen

carg And then you send your mother a picture of the lock immediately

Yes both of them - group chat

carg checking that you make the 12 hours?

I don't think they're checking but still think they should know its locked

Yes yes yes no - the other questions

Angelina how much exactly are you planning? and why?

Enough to force chastity. I've got some self control don't need it at school or sports or anything like that. But nights and alone yeah. I've said why before and wearing it is mostly ok - skin still gets annoyed sometimes but that's all. But like it's sort of haunting me like I feel like I need to put it on like I sort of already decided about it and breaks to get used to it are not really an excuse now.

Laura Might be too risky

I've seen people write about emergencies and stuff but how often does that really happen and like I'm not gonna die because of a belt- seems easy enough to cut. Like worrying about that seems like you need to always worry like car crash seems the most likely thing and how do you even deal with that like if you're hurt and trying to get it off and trying not to let people see no it's all a mess I want to ignore it

Laura

Jen I've seen people write about emergencies and stuff but how often does that really happen and like I'm not gonna die because of a belt- seems easy enough to cut.

My parents leave me belted for a longer time and it's fine. But you are a newbie and might feel yourself stuck

Angelina

Jen Enough to force chastity. I've got some self control don't need it at school or sports or anything like that. But nights and alone yeah. I've said why before and wearing it is mostly ok - skin still gets annoyed sometimes but that's all. But like it's sort of haunting me like I feel like I need to put it on like I sort of already decided about it and breaks to get used to it are not really an excuse now.

it sounds like you are on a way that will eventually lead you to true chastity, as long as it is voluntary i think it is good. i hope you find the way that is right for you. 🙂

carg

Jen I've seen people write about emergencies and stuff but how often does that really happen

Probably on average several times in a lifetime. I remember when I was your age, I also felt very strongly that such bad things would never happen to me, but as you get older and have experienced more setbacks or near-misses, you start realizing you are just as vulnerable as the next person.

Jen Like worrying about that seems like you need to always worry like car crash

Acknowledging risks does not have to (and should not) lead to worrying. It should lead to thinking what measures you can take to minimize the risks with easy precautions, like the spare key @Vanessa mentions. ('Risk mitigation') There will always be some risk left that you can't avoid with acceptable effort, or where the cost of avoidance is worse than the negative consequence (e.g. never leaving your house anymore), and that should be accepted as part of life.

Joh

Angelina i hope you find the way that is right for you.

I am sure she will find the way which is the right one for her.

Jen

Vanessa In average,how long are you wearing it each day(including night),presently?

Its more than half now but my skin gets annoyed when I don't have breaks🤕. I'm doing nights more it seems more important

Vanessa Your idea or a lack of trust from her?

Huh no its just easy I think they should know

carg you start realizing you are just as vulnerable as the next person.

Yeah but what difference does an emergency key make am I supposed to always have it with me or what

Angelina

carg Probably on average several times in a lifetime.

so far i have never had a reason to do so. we have an emergency system, but so far there has never been a situation where i have had to use it. but i also think that there should be one.

Jen Yeah but what difference does an emergency key make am I supposed to always have it with me or what

no but in a place where you can get it yourself. for example, the spare key for me is in our safe or sometimes in a sealed envelope. if i need it, i can contact my father and use it.

Vanessa

carg Acknowledging risks does not have to (and should not) lead to worrying. It should lead to thinking what measures you can take to minimize the risks with easy precautions, like the spare key @Vanessa mentions. ('Risk mitigation') There will always be some risk left that you can't avoid with acceptable effort, or where the cost of avoidance is worse than the negative consequence (e.g. never leaving your house anymore), and that should be accepted as part of life.

I agree.

Jen Its more than half now but my skin gets annoyed when I don't have breaks🤕.

Can it be helped by some more work on the belt?

Jen I'm doing nights more it seems more important

If you want to prevent you more when you risk to not have enough self-control,it seems right.

Jen

Still linked to your wearing of the belt?

carg ) It is in the house somewhere, where you might have to destroy something to get at it, if there is an emergency while the keyholder is not at home.

How it works for me.Boxes with plastic seals with a serial number;when locked,it must be cut,and my parents control the serial numbers often.

carg Or it is in a combination safe, and if there is an emergency and your parents are not home, they give you the combination over the phone.

The case for several users here.

Angelina i also think that there should be one.

Yes;

Better to have an emergency system you would never use,then not have one when you would need it.

Jen

You seems to manage it well,even outside,now!

It is normal to feel it is noticeable by everyone,but you would manage it better with some time.

Jen I'm going to prove to myself I could do it - like not 24x7 but whenever controlling myself is hard - every night and when I'm alone.

Good idea to try it this way.

Good luck!

It would not be easy,but it can help you know if you can manage it in the way you plan to use it.

Jen I've been thinking things like that but it's like the value is what I get at the end like I don't care about being good for a year and if I'm playing to quit what's the point and yeah I hear myself that's why I'm confused

Yes,wearing it one year would not be easy,and if stopping after it,it would have been useless...

Jonas Just don't rush into marriage, be as certain as you possibly can be that you've found Mr Right, no matter how long you've worn the belt.

I agree.

Jen

Jen also the driving practise is going really slow I'm not going to have it for the holidays. It's only the first 10 hours of lessons that get you 3x on the logbook

Jonas

Jen my skin gets annoyed when I don't have breaks

Talc (or safer substitute) sorted this out for me. Can't allow the skin to ever stick to the belt liner - that's when damage occurs.

carg

Jen what difference does an emergency key make am I supposed to always have it with me or what

Well, it was Vanessa's suggestion; I have heard of 2 variants here, and I am not certain which she means.
1) It is in the house somewhere, where you might have to destroy something to get at it, if there is an emergency while the keyholder is not at home. When it is discovered that it is destroyed, you'd better have a good reason... Or it is in a combination safe, and if there is an emergency and your parents are not home, they give you the combination over the phone.
2) There is a key on your person, possibly attached to the belt, that is in a sealed container (e.g. a block of wax), that you again have to destroy to get at the key. And where you again need a good explanation when that is detected. That way it can also be removed if something happens outside the house.

Jen the driving practise is going really slow

Sorry to hear that. I'm glad at least that you are no longer wearing the belt only because you want to get your license, because then any delay would make it extra hard.

I'd be interested in what other activities outside the house you have worn your belt to after the bowling, but your short answer ("yes") suggests to me that you don't feel like expanding on it. So I won't ask.

Jen

carg I'd be interested in what other activities outside the house you have worn your belt

It's just not much interesting - shops and walks with my dog. Getting hot and humid here so don't want it much in the day. I did get some talc like Jonas said that's good for nights. 👀 gotta convince my brain ppl don't notice - it's a bit fun actually - wearing it out - but like also a lot of nerves.

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