Belt fitting

Jen

Raziel ok maybe I've had some whatif thoughts but it's like imagining all the problems are gone and fits great. Like everyone's saying when or if or should i get locked and I'm just trying to make it comfortable for more than a few hours

Ines Do not hurry, and think well before close that padlock.

👍👍

Raziel

Jen
Are you going to lock it with your parent's padlock or with your own padlock? It's really good that you are taking as much time as you need to fit the belt properly, but I am worried you'll seal your fate by mistake very soon. 😂

In case you wondered, the next sentence of the story said, "She gently fingered the bolt, wondering what it would be like...
SNAP. The lock had suddenly given under her fingers without warning."

Jonas

Jen I'm just trying to make it comfortable for more than a few hours

There's a point where the fit is basically ok and comfort only develops with wear time as the body adapts.

Raziel "SNAP. The lock had suddenly given under her fingers without warning."

"The belt wants to be locked..." 🤣

As much as I approve of the ideal of chastity, I don't want @Jen to be freaked when all this leads her into the situation where she has to ask to be unlocked.

Foxies

This is Foxies partner Angela

Jen

For the life of me I do not understand why you have the lock even near your belt. Surely it is so obvious that you would remove it, put it in a drawer (or the rubbish bin) and hold the belt by wrapping a thick strand of something like copper wire around the locking beg, or through the locking peg. With the malleable copper wire together so it holds in place. Or tape the damned thing together with duct tape of even Scotch tape. Even purchase your own lock and use that. But keeping the lock in place waiting for an accident is just ridiculous.

Or is this just leading up to a story of "Wups"?

Vanessa

Jen I'm a bit bruised under the shield😳

You should take big care of solving it,before wearing it longer.

Jen it's tight on the post holds fine

I'm surprised,but it's good for your tries!

Ines Do not hurry, and think well before close that padlock.

I agree.

Angelina ask your parents for the keys and if they refuse, break open the belt. 😉

It could be a good test.

She put the lock in a way they may think it is closed,don't let them touch it and explain she has locked it accidentally when trying it,and want the keys,to unlock it.

If they give her the keys,she can trust them(even if they say something like "are you sure you don't want to wait a bit,to know how you manage/feel it?" before).

If they don't give her the keys,she can't trust them and should never lock her belt with this lock.

It could be helpful for her use of the chastity belt.

Jen I'm just trying to make it comfortable for more than a few hours

And if you manage to make it comfortable,no matter how long you wear it?

Raziel

If you tell the story one line at a time,it can take a big amount of time! 😛

Foxies duct tape of even Scotch tape

I doubt it would last long...

Foxies mail the keys to herself so she loses control but just for a few days

Could be a good way to test how it feels,but what about the emergency key?

Jonas @Ines seems very content and self-assured with her choice to wear a belt so I think you've chosen a very good role model if this is your aim.

I agree.

But in her case,it is totally willingly and she trust totally her parents.

Saintprudence The only thing that matters now is that you are happy and comfortable with what you do next, even if it’s just random exploration. If there’s any way we can support you on your terms, just let us know.

I agree.

Laura Easier said than done

I agree too.

Laura You can't rely on it completely, but it helps

Right.

Saintprudence

Foxies by this point, she’s well past the “thinking about it” stage. I’m not saying she WANTS the belt, but in between the increases in wearing, the work to get it to fit, and living dangerously with the lock, it’s at least on her mind.

Jen

Hi Angela

Foxies For the life of me I do not understand why you have the lock even near your belt.

Omg everyone is saying be careful but it's all about nothing. Feels like you've read other comments and think it's somehow a problem

Foxies purchase your own lock

People keep saying this - it's not that easy - needs the corner cut off so it will turn.

Foxies copper wire around the locking beg, or through the locking peg.

Actually I like this I checked bunnings has copper picture hanging wire. The peg has a groove for the lock so yeah wire could be good.

Renita

Foxies Surely it is so obvious that you would remove it, put it in a drawer (or the rubbish bin) and hold the belt by wrapping a thick strand of something like copper wire around the locking beg, or through the locking peg

It wouldn't be a chastity belt.

Vanessa If they don't give her the keys,she can't trust them

They could unlock it, rather then give the keys.

Foxies

This is Foxies partner Angela

Saintprudence

It DOES seem like she wants the experience of being locked in by someone to the point where she cannot just asked to be unlocked. But it also seems that the last person(s) she wants to be controlled by is a parent. It does seem strange though that she can't just buy a lock, click it shut and mail the keys to herself so she loses control but just for a few days - which is a common story plot line.

Jen, if you read this, I am sorry if I sound harsh. But there are vulnerable youngsters here that you are influencing. Please be careful.

Jen

Saintprudence by this point, she’s well past the “thinking about it” stage.

Ya think urgh it's all thinking thinking. The parents thing is like a pressure in my head when i think cause it's not fair and like Sin said it's weird but i want like what Ines has - there I said it everyone gonna say don't now. But like it's not guilt or church - but staying virgin is what i want but am i only being half - but yeah I'm trying the belt cause that's easy

Max9

Ines close that padlock.

oh, I love that moment... to hear the clicking

Joh

Jen Actually I like this I checked bunnings has copper picture hanging wire. The peg has a groove for the lock so yeah wire could be good.

A zip tie and a side cutter would also be an option. You get it at Bunnings.

Saintprudence

Jen if you want to stay a virgin, which is quite laudable, you can just not have sex. A belt is a pretty extreme way to approach that, let alone parental control when you’re an adult. (Indeed, if you outsource protection of your virginity to a device rather than willpower, it makes you all the more vulnerable if the device fails.)

I sometimes get the impression you’re feeling guilty about the earlier promise you made, but a promise made under duress is not a real promise. I’d urge you to let go of any concern you have there.

Joh

Jen but staying virgin is what i want

If you want this try it with willpower as Saintprudence sad.
If you think you will not reject every possible opportunity and you like the belt go for it. It is your live and your decision. No one shall judge you for it because you informed yourself, tested the belt, you know of the drawbacks and you decided on a good base.

Jonas

Jen i want like what Ines has - there I said it everyone gonna say don't now. But like it's not guilt or church - but staying virgin is what i want

@Ines seems very content and self-assured with her choice to wear a belt so I think you've chosen a very good role model if this is your aim.

I increasingly see my own belt as the physical expression of the strength of my personal choice to abstain. I know what I'm like so it makes sense to install a few physical as well as mental road blocks. 😀

In regard to parental involvement, others on here manage. Maybe as adults our parents become more akin to highly trusted friends anyway.

Ines

@Vanessa @Jen @Angelina

I believe that the key is convinced wearing, I mean, I believe that the best for me is remain protected for my chastity belt.
If you are not convinced about this, It is very hard to build a trust relationship with our keyholder.

Saintprudence if the device fails

A keystone of trusting in our keyholder is this. Keyholder have to avoid it happens. A good keyholder can not neglect the safety of the belt. I mean, keyholder can not be a tyrant, but if, for example, she/he allows you stay alone in the home without the belt, the keyholder is showing that does not care about the girl.

Jen But like it's not guilt or church - but staying virgin

I think it is right approach, I am Catholic, but I believe that my wish of remaining virgin is not related with it. It is related with my conception about the role that I want play as girl. Truly I feel fulfilled with this.

Laura

Saintprudence if you want to stay a virgin, which is quite laudable, you can just not have sex

Easier said than done

Saintprudence if you outsource protection of your virginity to a device rather than willpower, it makes you all the more vulnerable if the device fails

You can't rely on it completely, but it helps

Jen

This is all more intense more than I want to deal with now

Saintprudence

Jen I’m sorry. I’ll try to dial back a bit myself. We’re all intense opinionated people here, but you’re correct. The only thing that matters now is that you are happy and comfortable with what you do next, even if it’s just random exploration. If there’s any way we can support you on your terms, just let us know.

Foxies

Jen

Don't stress. In fact don't stress on anything. Most everything here is opinion. And the important thing to remember about opinion is that it is only your own opinion you ever act on. 🤣

On a side note, while it no longer applies to me, I do feel that a chastity belt to protect your own vagina is a valid option and I could see that when young, it might stop you from making a rash decision and provide a second chance to think things through. And, there is no doubt that it could provide a sense of security when you are on evening out with unfamiliar faces, in unfamiliar places. I can think of times earlier in my life when I would have appreciated the option.

Saintprudence

Jen I do have one question, and I apologize if it piles on the intensity, but it’s mostly just curiosity and a little guidance so we can best support you: when you say you want what Ines has, what does that mean to you? I know what I think when I hear it but it may not be what you’re thinking.

It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

Saintprudence

It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

Angelina

Vanessa It could be a good test.

She put the lock in a way they may think it is closed,don't let them touch it and explain she has locked it accidentally when trying it,and want the keys,to unlock it.

If they give her the keys,she can trust them(even if they say something like "are you sure you don't want to wait a bit,to know how you manage/feel it?" before).

If they don't give her the keys,she can't trust them and should never lock her belt with this lock.

It could be helpful for her use of the chastity belt.

right, this would be an ideal test to see if the parents are suitable as key holders and if @Jen's interests are higher than her own. i realise that @Jen would at least not dislike wearing the belt, but she does not want to be controlled by her parents, such a test could lead to check if the parents are suitable for voluntary wearing and key holding.

Jen

Saintprudence tried to sleep but I've taken it off. My promise no more toys is well damn the want gets fierce but it's special like I'm proud of it now and waiting until my partner now seems really special for me but it's such a long time away... but not even fingers seems a bit much and well that's when i miss my toy most anyway so would it be better not at all... is it even more special or just dumb

Vanessa

Saintprudence It’s a shame Ines’ mom Teres is no longer around, or else she could provide valuable parental perspective.

It could help @Jen,but the main difference is she doesn't trust her parents as @Ines trust @Tere.

Jen ried to sleep but I've taken it off.

First try at night,so?

Jen it's special like I'm proud of it now and waiting until my partner now seems really special for me

Understandable,as it would be willingly,if you do it

Saintprudence There is a special honor in wanting to preserve yourself until the right person comes along.

But most often,it is "only" no sex before marriage,not including masturbation,I think.

Saintprudence so I’d add that if you choose not to go the way of the belt, there’s nothing wrong with that either. What matters most is your own opinion of what is most fulfilling. You can change your mind at any time and that’s also okay!

I agree.

Renita It wouldn't be a chastity belt.

As long as it is on,it is one.

Renita They could unlock it, rather then give the keys.

It's not the purpose of the test I suggested.It should only look like locked,not being truly locked,to know if she can trust them before it is locked.If they want to unlock it themselves,they would notice it is not locked,so the test would be useless.

Rina

Better than at first,but not totally.

Saintprudence You’d have already had her lock herself up already if you had any say! 🙂

I think so,too!😉

Jen

Not very surprising,but not pleasant for you,sure!

Jen I've been avoiding her questions, haven't said nothing.

Do you think you could continue this way for a long time?

Jen And it's the can I question before do I.

I think if you answer the first one,you would able to find quickly which answer you would use for the second one.

Jen

If you can trust your parents as @Ines,you can do it like her,as it seems it is how you would like to wear it.

Saintprudence

Sure!

Angelina this should not happen. the parents should not interfere and best not talk about it at all. if @Jen has more in mind with the belt, she will approach her parents on her own.

But do you think they would react this way?

Angelina i admit that what you write fascinates me. i don't know anyone (maybe with the exception of @Ines) who deals with the topic of chastity in such a differentiated way. 🙂

I agree.

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