BD1791 Covid triggered an my ex to have an outbreak of shingles on his face. It was pretty awful. Apparently that's a thing covid can do?
You can get a shingles when your immune system is week or busy. To get it on the face sound horrible.
Nice you are back and I hope you can stay.
From the reports of other cable-CB wearers, it appears that they have to make some adjustments to maintain comfort over a longer period of time. Be patience if you need some iteration.
a few adjustments are certainly necessary with every belt, but the fewer, the better the manufacturer has done. I'm curious if you get the neosteel, which you like better. keep us informed 
BD1791 Apparently that's a thing covid can do?
I've never heard of that, as far as I know it's a herpes virus with which he will have been infected, in the context of covid that would be new to me
Angelina I've never heard of that, as far as I know it's a herpes virus with which he will have been infected, in the context of covid that would be new to me
If you had the herpes virus already and it was sleeping the stress on your immune system can trigger it to get active. That was I wanted to point out earlier.
Angelina Joh my understanding is that shingles is actually a dormant chicken pox virus. I'm pretty sure you can only get shingles if you have had the chicken poxs.
I have been talking with Daniel with neosteel and I'll hopefully have my measurements to him tomorrow. I'm waiting for info on thigh band pricing. I'll definitely keep everyone updated on the differences and which I like better.
HI, IS FS really secure? We still prefer "classic" neosteel or my-steel models which looks more secure...
Joh If you had the herpes virus already and it was sleeping the stress on your immune system can trigger it to get active. That was I wanted to point out earlier.
of course, i got infected with it myself as a child, but only in a mild form (small blisters on my mouth). it usually happens when i have a cold/sickness and my immune system is not good.
I just wanted to say that it is a different virus and not sarscov2.
Thanks for the update. I was indeed a bit worried.
BD1791 I got the fancy steel yesterday. I was able to wear for about 4 hours. I'm reasonable happy with it
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Nice to hear. Since you have already absorbed a lot of info, I'm presume, you already have a plan how to go the next step on your road and make the transition a maybe challenging but ultimately worthy time.
BTW: How does your partner take the time? I hope he is also learning how to become a loving, thorough, reliable, caring ... (whatever attributes you require, you name it...) keyholder? I think doing this consistently is a pretty big job as well and a responsibility that might need some accommodation time as well.
BD1791 I got nervous about the neosteel because it is much more expensive than the fancy steel but now that I have the fancy steel I am going to get the neosteel. I have been in contact with [...]
I'll outsource my reply concerning the neosteel to another thread.
UPDATE: Added a continuation focused on Neosteel in the Neosteel-general-Thread. Deeplink: https://unwedchastity.org/d/738-neosteel-general-discussions/21
BD1791 I'll try not to disappear again and proof read before I post. Sorry about that.
Well now you are back, and I found your reasons understandable. Hope you are in good hands - at your place (where it really counts), in matters of love and chastity. And hopefully with more bits of support from here, as well.
Keep sharing your experiences (hopefully good ones). I'm sure it will help others. And maybe you'll eventually reach others that can benefit from a device-assisted chastity regime in a similar way, as you do.
As you might know, among many other things, I want to help to create a more chastity friendly culture, as well. I still feel it's a rough start and a pretty far way to go. But the more real people - not counting trolls and fakes - using chastity to improve their lives, the more acceptance will grow, and the easier it will become.
Owl Hi Owl. I'm sorry I made you worry. It was not intentional I was just overwhelmed and honestly it didn't occur to me to check here when all of that stuff was going on. Hopefully my life stays more manageable now that everyone is healthy.
I don't really have a plan. I just thought I would wear until I couldn't and slowly increase. I've run into somethings that I didn't really consider but should have. For example, I have to walk through metal detectors at work and while I set them off all of the time and I'm not searched I have an irrational fear that maybe on that day I will be searched and the belt will be found. It's highly unlikely but for now I'm afraid of that. I have started wearing in public though and that's gone really well. I just can't bring myself to wear to work yet.
My partner doesn't have the key yet, though we have been talking about it. He's very in tune to my emotional state and comfort level with the belt. He also understands my fear at work but points out I have been there for 7 years and have never been searched. I know my fear is irrational but it doesn't make it less real. Do you have any tips or advice for him? I guess neither of us really considered it would be an adjustment for him too. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for the link. I will check it out!
BD1791 I have started wearing in public though and that's gone really well.
I think you are making well, first you are using it in public situations where you are more comfortable.
I think fortunately your partner is a sensitive man, and he is not rushing you.
Regarding your work, which is perhaps the most complicated step for you, I would leave it last, and I would take small steps to later have more confidence. It is reasonable to think that your partner will not want you to spend so many hours without a belt. But it is commendable that he has patience and supports you.
Another important jump is to give him the keys, and to prepare yourself mentally to receive a "no" many times. A keyholder must guarantee all the breaks that the girl NEEDS but not the ones that we want. It took me a while not to get frustrated and angry with those "no's", nobody likes to be denied things, but we have to accept that one of their functions in the relationship is to tell us no.
Regarding the metal detector, it has never happened to me, but, if it happened to me, I have always said that before the search I would discreetly tell the female security guard about the situation, calmly.
As @Megan says, if people see you act cool, they will act cool too. I am sure she will find it strange, but she will not say anything.
Good to have you back. Due to time constraints, shorter than usual. ;-) Ines already wrote an answer concerning the partner commitment aspect.
ATM, just one question regarding the work / metal detector aspect:
BD1791 I have to walk through metal detectors at work and while I set them off all of the time and I'm not searched I have an irrational fear that maybe on that day I will be searched and the belt will be found. It's highly unlikely but for now I'm afraid of that. I have started wearing in public though and that's gone really well. I just can't bring myself to wear to work yet.
EDIT: I opened a separate thread and branch daily security check / metal detector stuff accordingly: https://unwedchastity.org/d/772-chastity-devices-and-daily-security-checks-w-metal-detectors
Could be of general interest.
You'll find my question there.
BD1791 My partner doesn't have the key yet, though we have been talking about it
apart from your emotions, i agree with @Ines, i would be interested to know how your partner feels about his role as keyholder. is he aware of the responsibility? can he handle this power sensibly? you should talk about this.
once these points have been clarified, it is up to you to say at what point you have the confidence to give him the keys, you have to be sure, you are giving up control over your sexuality. Your partner should then also be able to appreciate this
Ines yes, he is very reasonable and not rushing me. He wants to make sure that I'm not only physically ok but also emotionally.
The idea of giving him the key actually makes me feel a little panicky. Is that normal? I wasn't expecting that.
Work is the most complicated and it does eat up a lot of time with me not in the belt. I think I'm going to try and start sleeping in it too make sure my body is getting enough time to get use to it. I don't know if that's a good plan or not. I'll keep everyone updated 
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Owl thanks for setting up that other thread. I'll go check it out.
Angelina I'll sit down and talk to him. In general he just tells me that he likes the idea and is ready for the key. What kinds of things should I be asking. I think I'm a little overwhelmed by my emotions and getting use to the belt. I'm not really sure what questions I should be asking him or what we should be discussing.
Laura I didn't want to be redundant. I think it's on the other thread. I'll wear on days that I'm strictly in the office and on days that I'm only at court houses without metal detectors. The courthouses with metal detectors will only be added after I'm more comfortable wearing in the work setting.
i think you have already asked the right questions, you should just try to play through all the situations that could arise emotionally for you and him and see how you would react to certain situations. 
that sounds like a good plan, also to give you the necessary self-confidence in case someone does "cought" you.
