Thighbands

youdontknowme

Kaja Over here we still have a fair share of those "old money" folks who would easily be able to tell insiders from outsiders based on behavioral subtleties. Luckily, in the environment and professions I live in, their favor is not that valuable.

Andrew

Ines Liberate? There is not anyone to be liberated

That's why I put it in quotation marks to indicate irony.

youdontknowme Fräulein is mostly the equivalent of Miss - and I do not think the primary reason it is considered sexist is the diminuitive form, but that it defines women by their marriage status while unmarried and married men are given the same honorific.

For the same reason, the word "panna" (the equivalent of the German "Fraulein") has disappeared from everyday use in Polish. Today, both married and unmarried women are addressed in Polish as "pani" (Frau).

youdontknowme The days of "Mrs. [Husband's name]" may be long gone

Is it the husband's last name or some construction derived from his first name?

curious But to fit in, I am expected to dress appropriately, just as women are expected to - in order to get back to the original context - sit with their legs closed.

Basically yes, but sitting by a woman (who wears trousers) with her legs spread apart is sometimes perceived as a position of power and self-confidence.

youdontknowme

Andrew Is it the husband's last name or some construction derived from his first name?

It is still common for a woman to take her husband's last name upon marriage, but I was talking about the ancient "Mrs. John Doe" construct that has luckily fallen out of use. Even the equivalent of "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" is considered rather impolite in modern German.

Avery

Kaja I cant recognize by first look who is my university teacher, who is doctor, who shop assistant and who ... And it is good. All people are equal, nobody is more than others.

That's great, I'm sure you're ahead of my country. A better test than appearance, I think, is the extent of intermingling. Would you date the son of the man who cuts your father's lawn. Would you have the same interests. Could you bring the boy home, what would parents say. Could you marry him and each of you be accepted by the other's family.

Andrew

youdontknowme I was talking about the ancient "Mrs. John Doe" construct that has luckily fallen out of use.

I assumed it was about so called andronyms. In Poland, they are sometimes found in rural environments, when especially women talk about their neighbors and refer to them in a way derived from their husbands' names (e.g. my name is "Andrzej" in Polish, so my wife would be referred to as "Andrzejowa", literally means "belonging to Andrew"). This way of referring to women is still common in Hungary today.

Ines

curious

Agree.
However, I would not identify it with an upper class social norm.
The truth is that I ca not complain about my sociocultural environment, but I do not belong to the aristocracy or to the pinnacle of the social pyramid either.
However, seeing a woman badly seated already gives me a certain aversion, it is like seeing someone erupting sitting at the table, it is unpleasant and typical of someone who does not have a minimum of civilization.
As @curious rightly says, the higher you go in the social hierarchy, the stricter the protocol, and I do not move in those circles, but sit with your knees together, or at least with your legs tightly crossed for girls who do not wear a belt, It is a very basic minimum.

youdontknowme

Ines seeing someone erupting sitting at the table

"Erupting"? My first thought was emesis, but I feel like you probably mean some kind of gaseous emissions?

Ines

youdontknowme

Yes, Google translator gave me that word.
I do no use it for writing, but I ask for some words.

hanna_anders

youdontknowme like exploding with anger?

Angelina

Mr-TM No, unfortunately not.

angelina0703@t-online.de 😉

Andrew

wow, one of the best posts i have ever seen here respect. i have absolutely nothing to do with communist values, but i think a girl's appearance and behaviour can have conservative aspects even from a liberal perspective, because values and norms (conservative) are a prerequisite for freedom. 🙂

Andrew Part of freedom is being able to choose own lifestyle.

correct, this also applies if the lifestyle is not liberal

PS: I think in general clothing, sitting position and appearance are important if you want to achieve something. my father is meeting with a CEO in a few days about a new assigment (and a lot of money for us), i think he would have a bad chance in a trainigsuit and with a beer bottle in his hand, although that depends on the quality of the work wouldn't change anything 😂

Mr-TM

Angelina i think he would have a bad chance in a trainigsuit and with a beer bottle in his hand

🤣 🤣 🤣

I'm glad that I work in IT. You don't have to wear a suit there, but can wear the clothes you normally wear.

But, on special occasions, I have suits that I like to wear. It just makes a difference.
I was in some musicals and wonder how you can go there with the everyday clothes? It's like the theater or a banquet. There it must already be a suit.

Angelina

Mr-TM I'm glad that I work in IT. You don't have to wear a suit there, but can wear the clothes you normally wear.

my father works most of the time at home in the office, where he also wears comfortable clothes. but business appointments are also part of the job, which is so common in the B to B sector, then of course a suit has to be worn.

Avery

CharInChastity Mostly because I got in trouble with a boy the other day but also because daddy likes the idea of me being a more proper woman.

How does what you did translate into thigh bands? You could still do what you described in your post in thigh bands.

Laura

CharInChastity I’m in leather ones

What's this?

Mr-TM

Laura What's this?

She means bands of leather that sit on the thighs and are connected to each other.

Laura

Mr-TM She means bands of leather that sit on the thighs and are connected to each other.

And what's a point if they are not locked?

Angelina

CharInChastity

May I ask where your father bought the leather thigh bands so quickly? if they are from some sex shop then you can easily cheat them. which one did he order? so from which company?

CharInChastity

Angelina I’m not sure where he bought them locally. Probably from a sex shop. They do have locks on them and are chained to belt and to each other. I could probaly cut them with a knife. But there is no way to escape them without my father knowing.

Mr-TM

Laura And what's a point if they are not locked?

Such tapes have a closure likea belt. This can be easily secured with a small lock

CharInChastity

Laura they are locked.

Angelina

CharInChastity

do you know which metal thighbands your father ordered? should you wear them 24/7 or only in "risky situations"?

Abby82 Just in a closet.

then you could take the padlocks and have a spare key made or? 😉

Abby82 Not decided yet but i hope to get rid of them.

as i see it there are three options. the best is you get free of the thighbands, the second best would be your mother gets some too and the worst is that it stays the same. good luck. 🙂

Laura

CharInChastity Do they require D-rings?

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