Thighbands

Angelina

Sara2001 He can take this privilege away.

this is true, but by doing so he would not only punish you but also daniel

Sara2001

Angelina this is true, but by doing so he would not only punish you but also daniel

Yes, and he would do it if I gave him a good reason.

Angelina

Sara2001 Yes, and he would do it if I gave him a good reason.

yes, but that would actually be unfair for daniel to be "co-punished", wouldn't it?

Vanessa

Angelina but it doesn't work, my father is self-employed and has no fixed working hours, he tries to have a rhythm but mostly he works exactly when and as much as he needs to

I thought that he would have trouble to change his rhythm for more than a few days/weeks.

Angelina i think i have never enjoyed wearing pants so much in my life 😂

🤣

Angelina @Sara2001 boyfriend now lives at her home, very difficult to take this as punishment 😉

He could be told to come back to his /his parents' home until @Sara2001 punishment is ended.

Sara2001 remove the door to my room

It would be very unpleasant too.

Sara2001

Your boyfriend's opinion would not be taken into account?

Sara2001

Angelina yes, but that would actually be unfair for daniel to be "co-punished", wouldn't it?

He wants to take care of me, so it's not that unfair. He can make sure that I act as I should.

Angelina

Sara2001

uhhh who do you mean by He in this post . Daniel or your father?

Sara2001

Angelina Daniel

Yes 🤣

Sara2001

Vanessa Your boyfriend's opinion would not be taken into account?

I think it would depend on the incident. Normally he and my father speak with "one voice" to me. I don't know exactly how a discussion prior to informing me went. But at the end, my father has the final saying before marriage.

Angelina

Vanessa I thought that he would have trouble to change his rhythm for more than a few days/weeks.

well, let me try to be a bit clearer. he tries to keep a work rhythm, but the situation often doesn't allow it. he hates this, but can't change it, because as a self-employed person you always have to work when there is something to do. this can be at 6 a.m. or 10 p.m., it can be that you only work 4 hours a day or 12 hours

Sara2001 Normally he and my father speak with "one voice" to me.

does this mean that they won't talk to you until they have finished the discussion and made a decision?

Vanessa

Sara2001

Do you think your boyfriend would try to lessen the punishment,or would agree to make it hard,even if meaning you would be less often allowed to spend time with him?

Angelina well, let me try to be a bit clearer. he tries to keep a work rhythm, but the situation often doesn't allow it. he hates this, but can't change it, because as a self-employed person you always have to work when there is something to do. this can be at 6 a.m. or 10 p.m., it can be that you only work 4 hours a day or 12 hours

In this case,yes,it would not be a good idea to suggest him to watch you more often,as he could do it easily,sometimes.

Sara2001

And for cheating your devices(or trying more than only fighting it),I doubt they would allow you much input...

Sara2001

Not too frustrating to not be allowed to discuss too?And don't you think you would succeed to have permission more often if allowed to take part of all the discussion?

Sara2001

Angelina does this mean that they won't talk to you until they have finished the discussion and made a decision?

It depends. At least I am not part of decisions. But if I can explain something that wasn't taken into account, they may change their decision but normally everything is clear. My input is only needed to understand the situation.

Angelina

Sara2001 At least I am not part of decisions.

so you are still part of the discussion and allowed to talk, only you are not involved in the decision, did I understand that right?

Sara2001

Angelina so you are still part of the discussion and allowed to talk, only you are not involved in the decision, did I understand that right?

Not always. I am often asked my point of view if it is about punishments or breaking rules, then they always want to hear my version of the incident. In other situations like asking permission for something I am asked 2/3 of the situations about why I have asked before they decide. If it is about rules or tasks they normally explain the decision to me after it is made but if I have very good arguments then, they can rethink their decision, but this almost never happen, because they know the situation very well. Sometimes we talk about a topic prior to a rule, but then I normally don't know that they think about a rule regarding this aspect. In any situation I am normally only a part time participant of the discussion, they talk before I join and after I left. So no, I am not always part of the discussion.

Angelina

Sara2001

and again I have to change my mind a lot so that I do not think "what nonsense".

it's a bit bizarre, it sounds to me a bit like it's a trial and you are a witness who gives her testimony but in the end you are the one who gets convicted

Sara2001

Angelina and again I have to change my mind a lot so that I do not think "what nonsense".

I think it sounds stranger then it is. This is not that important or not a very important part of our day to day life. It's just in the background.

Angelina

Sara2001 It's just in the background.

hmm for me it would already be an important part, but probably because I have other priorities

Vanessa In this case,yes,it would not be a good idea to suggest him to watch you more often,as he could do it easily,sometimes.

yes, that is exactly what I mean

Sara2001 Absolutely no input. It is strictly forbidden to ever try

very hard, especially because it is "only" an try

Amira

well, you can wear any kind of dresses and skirts, for sleeping there are special sleeping dresses

but i have a question, because i have not quite understood under which conditions you should wear the thigh bands ? can you write it again briefly

Sara2001

Vanessa Do you think your boyfriend would try to lessen the punishment,or would agree to make it hard,even if meaning you would be less often allowed to spend time with him?

As long as it is not for to long, he would prefer the punishment that helps me to not do it again, so I think he would choose the harder one, too.

Vanessa And for cheating your devices(or trying more than only fighting it),I doubt they would allow you much input...

Absolutely no input. It is strictly forbidden to ever try.

Vanessa Not too frustrating to not be allowed to discuss too?And don't you think you would succeed to have permission more often if allowed to take part of all the discussion?

I think if I would be allowed to participate in the discussions it could be hard to stay calm and this would only lead to more and more severe punishments. I think it would be a big risk, but of course it can be very frustrating. At least I have the right to ask the in a calm and respectful way to explain there decision to me until I understand why they think it is the best decision. This helps a lot.

Vanessa

Sara2001 As long as it is not for to long, he would prefer the punishment that helps me to not do it again, so I think he would choose the harder one, too.

So it seems he would consider the effectiveness of it more than the impact it would have on him.

Sara2001 Absolutely no input. It is strictly forbidden to ever try.

Especially for such offense?

Sara2001 I think if I would be allowed to participate in the discussions it could be hard to stay calm and this would only lead to more and more severe punishments. I think it would be a big risk, but of course it can be very frustrating. At least I have the right to ask the in a calm and respectful way to explain there decision to me until I understand why they think it is the best decision. This helps a lot.

Sure,if it could lead to punishments,it would not be helpful.

Good you can ask until you understand their decision,but I guess it can't be used to make them change their mind,right?

Sara2001 Nothing

Not sure many wearers would be allowed to sleep naked(even with the devices on)...

Ines

She still have to wear it a lot,especially as she only worn these as punishment before.

Amira

I find it pretty hard;good you can manage it not too bad,however.

Amira

I've a question for my fellow thigh-band-users:

what do you wear at home or in bed? I find it most annoying that the choice of clothes for my legs is very much limited with them.

Sara2001

Amira what do you wear at home or in bed? I find it most annoying that the choice of clothes for my legs is very much limited with them.

Nothing or a nightgown when it is the colder time of the year.

Angelina hmm for me it would already be an important part, but probably because I have other priorities

Yes, I think you would become crazy if you have no saying in decisions. 🙂

Angelina very hard, especially because it is "only" an try

A try to cheat my belt means that I don't respect my father, that I do things without permission while I am aware of it and it counts as dishonesty, for hiding relevant information. Because it is related to my sexuality, the already very severe punishment would be notably harder. Cheating my equipment is a very, very big no, no.

Amira

Angelina under which conditions you should wear the thigh bands ? can you write it again briefly

sure 🙂 basically when I'm alone in my room after dinner in the evening and when I'm completely alone at home.

Angelina

Amira

thanks, and at night when you sleep?

Sara2001 Nothing

and I always thought I was a special case, I join with you 😉

Sara2001 Yes, I think you would become crazy if you have no saying in decisions. 🙂

that's right, I always discuss calmly and with respect, but I must be able to say something 😂

Sara2001 A try to cheat my belt means that I don't respect my father,

i understand the logic, even if my father sees it differently. he does not mean that i have no respect for him, but there are other reasons (very complicated to explain)

Ines

Amira
I think it is very reasonable wearing.
Bands should not be weared more of that time.

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