HHelen Then why didn't you talk to him yourself?
I didn't want to, I was scared 🙁.
Sara2001 What does this mean? I am under my boyfriend discipline, too.. For me this includes strict rules in almost any are of my life and severe and painful punishments if I don't follow these rules.
There is basically 2 set of rules. The first is regarding my relationship to Kaushal and becoming a good wife to my future husband. It's basically about following the rules set for me, always showing respect to him and improving my obedience. The rules are obviously more detailed than that and if you are interested I can share a little more. These rules were more or less in place since we have been together, but since a few weeks ago he and my father get along a lot better and now he basically has his permission to discipline me as he sees fit. There is a few non physical variants, mostly standing around in a corner, or being sent to his room to write lines, but if he decides to discipline me physically it means a spanking my bottom. Until now he has always used his hand, but I know that his family often uses switches from the garden. I have seen his sister getting disciplined with a switch, it looks really scary and I guess it is supposed to hurt a lot worse.
The other set of rules is about when I stay with his family. It contains some rules about being respactable when talking to any member of his family. In our language there is a more formal way to adress people and us women are supposed to use that form whenever adressing a man in his house. It is a really small thing, but in the beginning, when you are not used to it was really hard. There is also some rules about other things like interupting and talking when 2 men have a conversation. A lot of details unfortunantely I have to get used to. 🙁
When I stay at his place my mother in law is in overall charge of the household. So every morning she will delligate chores to me and Kaushals sisters. I work part time in child care and normally return home for lunch. So I have help out with chores during the afternoon, while Kaushal is still work. Earlier in our relationship I did not contribute as I was more considered a guest at their home. This of course put more stress on the other women and I do prefer to pull my own wieght 🙂. Kaushal also pointed out, that this will prepare me for running my own household, even though I have pointed out that I have been doing housework since I was a small girl. The standard however in his house is however set pretty high. His mother normally inspects our work before dinner and after dinner is cleaned up there will normally be a daily report given to one of the males, in my case it was thankfully always Kaushal for now. She will list our behaviour and our work (including her own) and will ask for her daughters, me and herself to be disciplined for any misbehaviour.
Vanessa He has punished you in front of his family?
Yes, in the evening discipline is administered in front of all women. Since for now I am only to be disciplined by him, he normally administers the discipline for his sisters and his mother as well. But I have attended those disciplining sessions before when his father administered it (as an observer). Since I have not been disciplined as strictly when I was younger I normally get a lighter punishment for my mistakes then the other women.
Sara2001 This is extremely important. Strict, fair and (very important) consistent.
I think I would sometimes rather go without the strict, but for now he has all of them down incl. the consistency, and I guess thats just normal, as he has known nothing else in his family. But for me this is not always easy, because discipline will (if at all possible) be administered immidiately. So last week when we were sitting together in the evening Kaushal informed the others about our planes for the weekend and I interjected, since I had my head set on doing something else. He had none of it, but I didn't step down either, so he excused us both
and took me to another room to recieve my discipline. Everyone knew what was going on, but it was still so ashamed to have to excuse myself to get my bottom spanked, because I couldn't behave myself. When we came back, I didn't really talk for the rest of the evening, as I would rather have vanished in a hole, but because of my bottom I was constantly painfully aware of the situation and just shifted around constantly.
Sara2001 I have a lot of experience with strict rules,. maybe we can share some experiences and help eachother.
I would very much like that. We know a few other households with strict rules, including a few younger couples, but they are all from around here, maybe you have some different insights. What rules do you have and how hard is it for you to follow them?
