alina
So what new women need to understand is that when a friend or a girl at a clothing store or a female security guard or anyone sees your belt is the other person will do whatever you say.
If you jump and panic like you are in pain then they will panic and jump too.
If you relax and smile they will relax and smile too.
The best thing to do is just move like normal and keep doing what you were doing.
Don't go out of your way to expose yourself but if you have a best friend if anything you can joke with them they don't have one and that's to bad lol 😁

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      Megan 2 friends I wish knew but will it stay secret? - I worry - like I can trust them not to tell but trying on clothes and I'm refusing... so they tease me? I think I would. I don't trust the whole group don't want them all knowing.

      alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

      Gotta let him know sex is waiting till marriage - that's the thing to sort out first. I don't think dating works I'll need to be friends first - will need to trust him before any kind of intimacy

          alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

          if you are officially in a relationship with him. tell him that you don't want to have sex as long as it's not a definite thing. if you are really sure, tell him about your situation in a quiet moment. you should agree beforehand that you will finish first and that he can ask questions and give his opinion afterwards. then there is no danger that he will leave without you having had a chance to tell him everything.

            alina So it maybe requires more intimacy but it can be hard to built without sex (men also tend to quit you if you take too long to get more physically intimate with him).

            If he can not wait he is not the right one.
            And I agree with @Angelina . If you have the feeling that he loves you because of your personality and not just because you are pretty, that he will put up with almost anything for you, then you can explain the situation to him. If he doesn't get along with your idea until after the marriage, it doesn't fit either way.

                alina So it maybe requires more intimacy but it can be hard to built without sex

                I understand your problem very well.

                    alina men also tend to quit you if you take too long to get more physically intimate with him

                    Many young girls also think this way and agree to have sex to keep a man.

                    Renita I understand your problem very well.

                    And you started wearing a chastity belt.

                          HHelen And you started wearing a chastity belt.

                          Yes, it solves that problem, but raises one from the topic.

                              alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

                              Let him discover.

                                  Joh If he can not wait he is not the right one.

                                  you put it perfectly in one sentence 🙂

                                  Christine Let him discover.

                                  i strongly advise against the idea, then he might feel that she does not trust him enough to tell him herself and he would leave not because of the belt but because of lack of trust.

                                        @alina I guess you have a double difficulty with dating: not only the belt, but her job might also be hard to accept for a boyfriend, especially in such a conservative environment.
                                        By the way, is it a side job, or do you do it 'full time'?
                                        I think you might want to think about if you would give up the job if he asks. That might get rid of the belt as well. I don't like bringing this up again, since I don't want to persuade you to give it up, but it might be better to have thought about how you would react before it is asked. (Perhaps it is hard to say no at that moment when you are really in love.)

                                        alina We have some conversations (ok I must admit this guy exists, we are already chatting) and he already showed me girls who do sex work he likes.

                                        Why does he show girls who do sex work?
                                        Is he interested in you or in your work?

                                        alina he's from a big city compared to mine

                                        This is an opportunity and a risk. If you move to another city you will depended on him. You do not know someone and nobody is near you to help is something goes wrong.

                                            alina I agree, I think if we meet it's need to be first in my city.

                                            Sorry if you said it already, but what would you do if he wants to keep you belted?

                                                alina I explained, we were not talking about sex work but sharing girls we consider beautiful,

                                                OK. Still, it's strange to me that he's showing you girls.
                                                If I would do it to a girl when we chat it would be most likely she would end the conversation.

                                                The question is still valid. Is hi interested in you because of you or because you are pretty and fit in what he has in mind?

                                                    James but what would you do if he wants to keep you belted?

                                                    It's not his choice, but her parents'

                                                        alina If I am really interested and more intimate with him in the future then yes I would keep it.

                                                        It's really surprising to me how easily you would give up your freedom to someone.
                                                        Maybe I live in the wrong area?!

                                                            alina I agree but I'm not one of them

                                                            Everybody says this.
                                                            You didn't have relationships yet, so you don't know.

                                                            Kaja Most of girls want sex too

                                                            That's obvious. A chastity belt is supposed to prevent wanted sex.

                                                            Renita but raises one from the topic

                                                            You keep the belt a secret from him.

                                                                    Joh OK. Still, it's strange to me that he's showing you girls.

                                                                    this is really very strange. why does a man who wants a woman show her photos of other women he finds pretty?

                                                                    I would not like that

                                                                    alina it's just internet photos not real people 😆

                                                                    behind people from the internet there are also real people

                                                                    Laura It's not his choice, but her parents'

                                                                    When she moves in with him, her parents have nothing more to say.

                                                                    Joh It's really surprising to me how easily you would give up your freedom to someone.

                                                                    But she also gains freedom, namely freedom from her parents, or rather, from her parents' methods of education.

                                                                              Angelina When she moves in with him, her parents have nothing more to say.

                                                                              They promised a belt until marriage 😂

                                                                                  Laura They promised a belt until marriage

                                                                                  If she moves in she can pick the lock or use a hacksaw. Problem solved.