Right time to tell a man you wear chastity belt

Megan

alina
So what new women need to understand is that when a friend or a girl at a clothing store or a female security guard or anyone sees your belt is the other person will do whatever you say.
If you jump and panic like you are in pain then they will panic and jump too.
If you relax and smile they will relax and smile too.
The best thing to do is just move like normal and keep doing what you were doing.
Don't go out of your way to expose yourself but if you have a best friend if anything you can joke with them they don't have one and that's to bad lol 😁

Jen

Megan 2 friends I wish knew but will it stay secret? - I worry - like I can trust them not to tell but trying on clothes and I'm refusing... so they tease me? I think I would. I don't trust the whole group don't want them all knowing.

alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

Gotta let him know sex is waiting till marriage - that's the thing to sort out first. I don't think dating works I'll need to be friends first - will need to trust him before any kind of intimacy

Angelina

alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

if you are officially in a relationship with him. tell him that you don't want to have sex as long as it's not a definite thing. if you are really sure, tell him about your situation in a quiet moment. you should agree beforehand that you will finish first and that he can ask questions and give his opinion afterwards. then there is no danger that he will leave without you having had a chance to tell him everything.

Joh

alina So it maybe requires more intimacy but it can be hard to built without sex (men also tend to quit you if you take too long to get more physically intimate with him).

If he can not wait he is not the right one.
And I agree with @Angelina . If you have the feeling that he loves you because of your personality and not just because you are pretty, that he will put up with almost anything for you, then you can explain the situation to him. If he doesn't get along with your idea until after the marriage, it doesn't fit either way.

Angelina

Joh If he can not wait he is not the right one.

you put it perfectly in one sentence 🙂

Christine Let him discover.

i strongly advise against the idea, then he might feel that she does not trust him enough to tell him herself and he would leave not because of the belt but because of lack of trust.

Renita

alina So it maybe requires more intimacy but it can be hard to built without sex

I understand your problem very well.

HHelen

alina men also tend to quit you if you take too long to get more physically intimate with him

Many young girls also think this way and agree to have sex to keep a man.

Renita I understand your problem very well.

And you started wearing a chastity belt.

Kaja

HHelen Most of girls want sex too (no only mens 😉)

Renita

HHelen And you started wearing a chastity belt.

Yes, it solves that problem, but raises one from the topic.

HHelen

alina I agree but I'm not one of them

Everybody says this.
You didn't have relationships yet, so you don't know.

Kaja Most of girls want sex too

That's obvious. A chastity belt is supposed to prevent wanted sex.

Renita but raises one from the topic

You keep the belt a secret from him.

Christine

alina My question is, what will be the right time to tell him my situation?

Let him discover.

Christine

Angelina and he would leave not because of the belt but because of lack of trust.

Men's logic. Coz that was him who tried to move forward with sex.

carg

@alina I guess you have a double difficulty with dating: not only the belt, but her job might also be hard to accept for a boyfriend, especially in such a conservative environment.
By the way, is it a side job, or do you do it 'full time'?
I think you might want to think about if you would give up the job if he asks. That might get rid of the belt as well. I don't like bringing this up again, since I don't want to persuade you to give it up, but it might be better to have thought about how you would react before it is asked. (Perhaps it is hard to say no at that moment when you are really in love.)

Joh

alina We have some conversations (ok I must admit this guy exists, we are already chatting) and he already showed me girls who do sex work he likes.

Why does he show girls who do sex work?
Is he interested in you or in your work?

alina he's from a big city compared to mine

This is an opportunity and a risk. If you move to another city you will depended on him. You do not know someone and nobody is near you to help is something goes wrong.

James

alina I agree, I think if we meet it's need to be first in my city.

Sorry if you said it already, but what would you do if he wants to keep you belted?

Laura

James but what would you do if he wants to keep you belted?

It's not his choice, but her parents'

Joh

alina I explained, we were not talking about sex work but sharing girls we consider beautiful,

OK. Still, it's strange to me that he's showing you girls.
If I would do it to a girl when we chat it would be most likely she would end the conversation.

The question is still valid. Is hi interested in you because of you or because you are pretty and fit in what he has in mind?

Angelina

Joh OK. Still, it's strange to me that he's showing you girls.

this is really very strange. why does a man who wants a woman show her photos of other women he finds pretty?

I would not like that

alina it's just internet photos not real people 😆

behind people from the internet there are also real people

Laura It's not his choice, but her parents'

When she moves in with him, her parents have nothing more to say.

Joh It's really surprising to me how easily you would give up your freedom to someone.

But she also gains freedom, namely freedom from her parents, or rather, from her parents' methods of education.

Max9

Laura so, in the religion of beling women ut would be on him as well as soon as they are married, isn't it?
So, if you want to meet a women to marry whom you want to wear a belt then.... when is it the time for him to tell her?

And for us boys: When would you like to be told (and how) that we wear a chastity belt... if you were not in that szene?

Joh

alina If I am really interested and more intimate with him in the future then yes I would keep it.

It's really surprising to me how easily you would give up your freedom to someone.
Maybe I live in the wrong area?!

Renita

HHelen You keep the belt a secret from him

Yes, I do. And I think, that a girl should keep it in secret as long as possible.

Laura

Angelina When she moves in with him, her parents have nothing more to say.

They promised a belt until marriage 😂

HHelen

Angelina her parents have nothing more to say.

She shouldn't live with a guy without marriage.

Joh

Laura They promised a belt until marriage

If she moves in she can pick the lock or use a hacksaw. Problem solved.

Angelina

Laura They promised a belt until marriage 😂

that's true, but how should this be implemented in practice? i'll give you an example. i would move with my girlfriend into a flat 500 kilometres away from my father. i don't see any way that belt-wearing would still work.

Renita Yes, I do. And I think, that a girl should keep it in secret as long as possible.

but only as long as there is no danger of him discovering it by accident. then he could have the feeling that you were not honest and that the relationship is not important to you.

Christine Men's logic. Coz that was him who tried to move forward with sex.

this is not men's logic. at a certain point, both partners in a relationship usually want to have sex, and at the latest (really at the latest) at this point the woman should say it honestly.