Ines I didn't remember your belt having D-RINGS. It seems strange to me that you ordered one with them.

I seem to recall that they were added without her knowledge to the order and she was quite upset to find out at first. The design of her belt wasn’t really her choice.

  • Jen replied to this.

    Abby82 I'm not worried- we've got things worked out now. 😁

      Jen I'm not worried- we've got things worked out now.

      She doesn't have to worry...until her husband is stricter than her parents! 🤣

      • Joh replied to this.

        Saintprudence Though I teased Jen about asking for thighbands at night, that would actually be a bad idea because it would end up inevitably being locked into her nightly routine.

        well, the question is of course how @Jen herself sees her situation. if she wants to stay chaste she has to see how hard she fights and whether thighbands would make sense. it's always quite an investment, so she should think about it carefully.

        Jen Yeah it was parents. Pru has it right

        I wonder if your parents have thought about thighbands? otherwise the rings wouldn't make sense. 🤔

        • Owl replied to this.

          Angelina otherwise the rings wouldn't make sense.

          Although I'd add that in comparison to the price of a high-quality custom-made belt, the surcharge of D-rings, O-Rings, or whatever connection adapters used for the respective model, is quasi negligible. (AFAIK, even with the 3 Rings/Adapters recommended by certain popular manufacturers, it's still less then 100 € surcharge. Compared to an order of magnitude more for the belt itself...)

          Of course I'm aware of the "not so nice" social aspect of altering her order without her OK first. I dislike moves behind someones back. Particularly for a topic that for so many is so strongly associated with bonding, reliability, trust and care.

          Just in the matter itself, it was economically smart to add them out-of-the-box, because it allows options. (And No, uninformed partners, parents, etc. reading this, options should not mean arbitrarily adding accessories to someone else's belt for no reasons. But I might come to that some other time.) I see the risk for handling keyholding unwisely.

          And as a short interjection: Angelina, I'm sorry to read, how your personal introduction to the topic had been handled; much has been written about that already. Though I am amazed how constructively and positively you've handled it.

          Yet speaking of risk, avoiding the topic of accessories is risky as well. You know better than I the reports of users that didn't start with accessories but at some point of point actually benefited from them or simply wanted to try.

          Actually, there is some really prominent user of this forum who has always been wondering how it was with bands, but couldn't even privately experiment since her Tollyboy hasn't been delivered with D-Rings. I wouldn't say whom I was talking about, now. ;-)

          So, even if buyers believe to be sure they wouldn't need rings in the foreseeable future, I'd always recommend adding them to the cart. If possible, take those that nicely fold in, when not in use; then forget about them unless further accessories are already agreed on. (Again, be fair to whoever is involved!)

          Adding them after the initial order would either require paying way more money later (incl. doubled shipping), or significant DIY tinkering (don't know if adding rings on your own might even waiver warranty?), plus extra waiting time in which you have to somehow compensate for the missing custom belt. Stupid ideas in this context are the bigger risk, IMO.

            Raquel until her husband is stricter than her parents! 🤣

            As far as I see it @Jen has no intention to continue wear the belt after marriage.

              Joh As far as I see it @Jen has no intention to continue wear the belt after marriage.

              Is It true, @Jen ? Have you even thought about It? When Inwas 20 years old, I didn't even think about marriage.

              • Jen replied to this.

                Owl Of course I'm aware of the "not so nice" social aspect of altering her order without her OK first.

                the problem is not that the rings have been ordered, the problem is what it says. it says maybe the belt is not secure enough to stop you from doing something forbidden and we will add additional devices if necessary.

                Owl And as a short interjection: Angelina, I'm sorry to read, how your personal introduction to the topic had been handled; much has been written about that already. Though I am amazed how constructively and positively you've handled it.

                I have learned that some things cannot be changed and I concentrate on the things that I can do positively despite my situation. 🙂

                Rafael thinking about the time is scary - like it might be 5 years or more. But yeah I want a husband, family, kids.

                No I'm not gonna be belted married, like maybe for play but not lifestyle. Husband kinda replaces the belt actually - right now I force myself to be completely non sexual when I'm not belted. So when locked I can relax and feel sexy. So yeah when married, when I'm with my guy I can be sexy and I'll control myself when we're apart.

                  Jen No I'm not gonna be belted married, like maybe for play but not lifestyle. Husband kinda replaces the belt actually - right now I force myself to be completely non sexual when I'm not belted. So when locked I can relax and feel sexy. So yeah when married, when I'm with my guy I can be sexy and I'll control myself when we're apart.

                  This is great. You have a clear view what you want. Now you need only to find the right guy.

                  Jen

                  you wrote that the husband replaces the belt. do you think your dream man could convince you to wear a belt in marriage? if so, how?