Thighbands with padlock

sun

Owl
Basically,that's correct.She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

Joh

sun Than do it.

Angelina

sun She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

so as long as she doesn't contradict you are welcome to do it.

Owl

sun
My opinion: If you can wholeheartedly say that making past decisions for both of you were generally OK for both of you, as well, then take that position of her seriously. Speaking from experience.

Saintprudence

Angelina as a person with a lot of submissive tendencies, I can confirm that when someone like me asks you to make the decisions, they really mean it. It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

Angelina

Saintprudence It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

that would at least explain why there are so few open discussions about it. probably she thinks "now finally decide and take responsibility".

Ines

Jen
What you have written seems very recognizable to me, and I myself had written similar things about my experiences.
I accept that they are not something especially comfortable, but I have even gone for ice cream with them.
To be at home or to sleep, no girl needs more movement than thighbands allow.
Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

Saintprudence

Ines Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

As much as I currently evangelize the belt and have come to understand the anti-masturbation POV, I can still very much understand why those unfortunate enough to be thighbanded at night would resent their situation. It feels like you are a bit less of a person to be denied freedom of movement others possess simply to minimize the chance of self-pleasure. There are keyholders who consider the comfort of their charge to be a sacrifice they are willing to make!

Jen

Ines Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

Thighbands were easier than I thought - yeah I could cope at home at night. But the feeling of control is just something else - like the belt is just about blocking access - but the bands are controlling how you move.

Maija

Ines I accept that they are not something especially comfortable, but I have even gone for ice cream with them.
To be at home or to sleep, no girl needs more movement than thighbands allow.

Very true

Ines

Saintprudence

It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.
I understand why I wear them sometimes and it really doesn't seem like anything terrible to me either.
It is just like I ask to open my belt for a shower if I need to, and I do not think it is a crime either.
On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.

Saintprudence

Ines It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.

From many perspectives, the belt itself is abusive, so I’m not surprised at this response from anyone who didn’t discover the belt themselves. Even a convinced wearer at some point didn’t want it.

Ines On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.

True. If I had been invited to wear a belt in college, I would have reluctantly accepted, but thighbands would have caused great resentment and frustration.

Saintprudence

Jen Yeah. The belt is surprisingly easy to live with in everyday life. Bands send the clear message at all times that your feelings are not as important as stopping even a minuscule chance at forbidden sensations.

Angelina

Jen Thighbands were easier than I thought - yeah

hmm.. I'm not sure if the thighbands you made really have anything to do with original thighbands 😂

Jen

Saintprudence Bands send the clear message at all times that your feelings are not as important as stopping even a minuscule chance at forbidden sensations.

Depends what your feelings are though - like ignore daytime, but nightime I think bands are more about the feeling of control than the inconvenience or even stopping sensations. And if you wear the belt for safety anyway does the extra control feel like extra safety?

Trying it changed my thoughts

Jen

Angelina the bands on my legs could bend - so if I pulled harder it stretched and I got a bit more separation. But other than that I think it was all the same - I even used the d-rings on my belt.

Angelina

Jen

probably it was because you could handle it better because you could take them off whenever you wanted

Ines

Saintprudence Any chastity equipment feels different when you know you can take it off at any time.

Totally agree, it's voluntary use makes a difference. That is why another use seems so abhorrent to me.

Jen I even used the d-rings on my belt.

I didn't remember your belt having D-RINGS. It seems strange to me that you ordered one with them.

Saintprudence

Angelina agreed. Any chastity equipment feels different when you know you can take it off at any time.

Though I teased Jen about asking for thighbands at night, that would actually be a bad idea because it would end up inevitably being locked into her nightly routine.

Angelina

Saintprudence Though I teased Jen about asking for thighbands at night, that would actually be a bad idea because it would end up inevitably being locked into her nightly routine.

well, the question is of course how @Jen herself sees her situation. if she wants to stay chaste she has to see how hard she fights and whether thighbands would make sense. it's always quite an investment, so she should think about it carefully.

Jen Yeah it was parents. Pru has it right

I wonder if your parents have thought about thighbands? otherwise the rings wouldn't make sense. 🤔

Maija

And wonderful to have you back, @Ines !❤️😊

Saintprudence

Ines I didn't remember your belt having D-RINGS. It seems strange to me that you ordered one with them.

I seem to recall that they were added without her knowledge to the order and she was quite upset to find out at first. The design of her belt wasn’t really her choice.

Jen

Ines

Saintprudence

Yeah it was parents. Pru has it right

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