I cast my vote for … both!
Seriously, I think I would have to choose finances.
Regarding the chastity belt, I really cannot get to 24/7. Wearing a belt to bed is a bright line I have not been able to cross.
Perhaps if I were not required to wear the belt 24/7, my decision would be different.
saras My dad does both lol
of course that can happen. i'm more interested in the theoretical question of what you would choose if you could?
Laura Former
you mean "the first" so 24/7 belt but keep control of finances right?
interesting, i don't know exactly, both would make me feel incapacitated. i refrain from answering my own question 
Some might reasonably question or disagree with the premise that the best way to teach money-management skills to your son or daughter is to make sure they don’t have any actual money to manage. Oh wait, I’m the one who started this thread. D-oh!
audioguy58 What would be “theoretically ideal”
Theoretically Ideal would mean:
1) The parent has both the legal right and the technological means to impound 100% of the child’s income stream. “Legal right”, in this context, means only that a signed contract exists between the two parties. I’m not suggesting that any new laws need to be passed.
2) Some small portion of the child’s income stream would be sent to the family’s General Fund, to pay for things like the mortgage payment, utilities, and groceries. Assuming that the family’s finances are not under stress or duress, this might be 5-8% of the child’s income. If the family is in some kind of bad financial straits, this amount could go much higher.
3) The bulk of the child’s income would be placed in a savings/brokerage account, to be given to them when they eventually move out.
4) Child would receive a fixed allowance via a restricted debit card, with very fine-grained limitations of what the card can an can’t be used for.
Angelina as a big supporter of cash
Cash is definitely the enemy here. If Junior is employed as a waiter, bartender, pizza delivery driver etc. , that would mean they are bringing home a large part of their income in cash every night, and that would tend to make an agreement of the type I have outlined above unenforceable.
Renita Cryptocurrency is an answer.
I was trying to imagine that we were living in a slightly better world. What if there were nothing but digital currency, “smart” debit/credit cards, and Apple Pay?
audioguy58 the best way to teach money-management skills to your son or daughter is to make sure they don’t have any actual money to manage.
I disagree. The best way to teach them is to teach them and not by patronising.
You can't carry the dog to the hunt.
If they can't learn it they will not survive.
I suspect many people fail with money-management because they didn't received a proper teaching.
the best way to teach money-management skills to your son or daughter is to make sure they don’t have any actual money to manage.
Let's try some examples of this logic.
"the best ay to teach to read to your son or daughter is to make sure they don't have any actual text to read"
"the best ay to teach to cook to your son or daughter is to make sure they don't have any actual cooking to do"
"the best ay to teach to use a phone to your son or daughter is to make sure they don't have any actual phone to use"
You see the point?
Not be patronizing. That is how to teach something. Do not take the learning process away from someone, do not do it because you fear that someone will make a mistake.
audioguy58 Cash is definitely the enemy here. If Junior is employed as a waiter, bartender, pizza delivery driver etc. , that would mean they are bringing home a large part of their income in cash every night, and that would tend to make an agreement of the type I have outlined above unenforceable.
within the family, this agreement can also be enforced if it is agreed, it is not about children and parents having secrets from each other, but third parties can also look into bank accounts and this should generally be prevented.
a question about your ideas, are we only talking about minors here or also (or even mainly) adult children who live with their parents? i personally don't think much of the idea but i'll give an example of how i learned to deal with it properly. since my early teens i've been cooking at home and i'm also responsible for buying food. my father always gives me a budget with which i can then buy what's necessary and what i'd like to cook. this way i learn to buy as efficiently as possible within this fixed budget.
audioguy58 What if there were nothing but digital currency, “smart” debit/credit cards, and Apple Pay?
Anonymous or not? Like a gift card, for example.
audioguy58 Some might reasonably question or disagree with the premise that the best way to teach money-management skills to your son or daughter is to make sure they don’t have any actual money to manage.
I was trying to make a joke there. Obviously some of you didn’t get it.
Additionally, I was trying to make light of the fact that, since I was the one who started or restarted this thread, I was in effect arguing with myself.
Joke or not, this entire discussion runs on its self negation...
audioguy58 I was in effect arguing with myself.
this is not a good idea in a forum with other users, you are welcome to write your position and we will (maybe) react to it. if you want to argue with yourself then please do it at home in front of the mirror and not in an international forum, that confused.
Angelina if you want to argue with yourself then please do it at home in front of the mirror
That seemed rather harsh. I thought we touched on some important issues with this thread.
I am not so sure.
I mean, this is a place of discussion but you say that you are arguijng with yourself and if people points it out you say that you are being ironic and that people do not get you.
It's confusing and bizzarre.
audioguy58 That seemed rather harsh.
yes, i apologise, the choice of words was wrong. but i stand by my statement as regards content.
the problem is that there are people here who are not native english speakers and who rely on posts being clearly worded, so unfortunately this leads to confusion.
