MissBlossom I don't mean to criticize you specifically. It happens to all of us from time to time. This was just a really good example of how easy it is to stumble even when you have the best of intentions.
Yes, I do get lazy with pronouns at times. Feel free to substitute "they" for "he" if you prefer. With members, I was talking about forum participants (and particiskirts too, if you don't mind a stupid joke) and not about penises. As for young women... they are just the most prominent example of vulnerable people you typically find in online communities and the ones most frequently preyed on.
It is a sad fact that the difference between statistics and unfair discrimination is marked by an extremely blurry line. When we pick the most common example too often, we run the risk of reinforcing stereotypes, when we deliberately choose less common examples, we open ourselves up to criticism of not taking into account the big picture.
As far as the matter of feminism versus misandry is considered - I believe both #notallmen and #yesallwomen have a point. Women are statistically more likely to be victims of sexual harrassment. Men are statistically more likely to be perpetrators, despite the vast majority of men meaning no harm. But as a male myself, I think it is unfair to try and oppose misandric or seemingly misandric positions in feminist circles by just asking women to be less careful around men. They have a lot to lose by making themselves seem vulnerable around us.
If you really want to make the point that not all men are predators, don't post about it on Twitter, but be the change you want to see in the world. Make a conscious effort to not be that sort of man, and, if possible, try to take a stand against other men who see nothing wrong with exploiting a woman's vulnerability. This has nothing to do with double standards, I would expect the same behavior of a woman in a position of power.
Or did I completely misunderstand what you were trying to say here? I see no inconsistency in those two messages of mine.
