My Mom's chastity belt

Andrew

Sasha When I read your post, I missed a fragment that it was your mother's proposal, hence I took it as a sign of jealousy ... 😉

Sasha

Andrew It’s ok, I understand how you could have seen it that way. And I may not be entirely clear because it’s overall a topic I’m struggling with
But as I said I’m allowed to date again, with restrictions. And mom feels enough time has passed that she feels right looking for her next companion. So, we talked about it and that topic came up by her.

Laura

Sasha but sees sex before marriage to be wrong

Then what does "intimate relationship" mean for her?

Sasha

Laura A relationship where there is deep love, affection and an understanding of each other. Essentially the point where marriage would be considered.
Perhaps close or deep would have been a better word choice then intimate.
Her dates thus far have been casual, friendly outings just to be around others.

pestulens

Sasha Question that seems relevant: Is your mom considering asking you to act as her keyholder, or just soliciting your opinion? Those are very different situations that would require very different considerations.

Sasha

pestulens Where we are in the conversation is that if I think it’s a good idea, I’d secure her belt for the date and unlock it after. So more keeping the key safe for a bit then a key holder, though no less serious obviously

Angelina

Sasha

yes, asking about the keys would have been my first question, it's going through my head here, what happens to the keys?
and a second one, why would she need the belt? can she not control her sexual desire during a date? does she think she would make a thoughtless mistake? these two points must certainly be clarified

Sasha

Angelina So we have discussed this further and come to this point.
If I agree it’s a good idea, I will secure the belt before her date and hold the keys until she returns home. Same rules for my bands and bra.
Her reasoning is that she is considering it because firstly it’s a symbol that she is serious about no sex before marriage. Like it’s not happening serious. But she also understands that she hasn’t been with anyone in 8 years and things can escalate quickly between people, so would serve as a fail safe in maintaining her values.
I’m hesitant because I believe she really is capable of upholding that, but I can also see her reasoning behind the idea

Angelina

Sasha But she also understands that she hasn’t been with anyone in 8 years and things can escalate quickly between people, so would serve as a fail safe in maintaining her values.

that may sound a bit harsh, but if she's waited 8 years, i think she'll survive a few dates until she gets into a serious relationship, right? I mean, if that's really the reason, then it would have happened long ago, after 8 years no new sexual needs arise

Laura

Sasha and things can escalate quickly between people

Maybe that's why she avoided dating and a chastity belt for real really solves the problem

Renita

Sasha I will secure the belt before her date and hold the keys until she returns home

You are not a reliable keyholder.

Sasha

Angelina You may be right, her explanation on that was that up till now she’s avoided dating. Since she didn’t feel enough time had passed. So the “dates” she had were just doing dinner with a friend, or seeing a movie, just to be around someone socially.
So I don’t know. But I can’t really see a reason to say no, I mean she’s not asking for 24/7 like I am or anything like that

Christine

Angelina but if she's waited 8 years, i think she'll survive a few dates until she gets into a serious relationship, right?

But the belt is not supposed to go off after first few dates.

Sasha Her preferred option is a hip style belt worn only for a date.

Sorry for being late, but if she agrees to wear a belt, she should wear it all the time, unless she under your supervision. Btw, why hip style?

Angelina

Sasha

there are thousands of women who manage not to have sex on the first date and i think especially someone like your mother will manage it with her history.

Sasha

Laura You mean 24/7 like us?

Laura

Sasha For dates only

Sasha

Laura Sorry misunderstood, but the more I think on it, I’m beginning to think you’re right

Laura

Sasha Let me clarify. Your mom avoided serious date because she know that things could go faster than she planned(you know what I mean). If she worn a chastity belt, she wouldn't have such risk at all

Sasha

Renita Not really sure about that. I understand her concerns and goals. And we’ve already discussed what would be expected and how I’d manage it if I agree with her.
So can’t see why I wouldn’t be.
Or are you suggesting I’d enforce it beyond her goals and desires based on my situation?
Could understand the concern, most women would hate being in my position and enjoy the possibility to get a little revenge. But I’m honestly very satisfied with my situation, and it was all negotiated and discussed with me before hand, so there’s no bad feelings or anything on my part.

MissBlossom

Sasha Not really sure about that.

Based on her other posts, I think @Renita thinks that if you only make her wear the belt on dates she will be tempted to try and sneak out for a date without you knowing. (Maybe Renita would feel a similar temptation sometimes under the same rules?)

It might be worth discussing this possibility with your mom ahead of time, and whether she should reopen the conversation with you if she starts feeling such temptations.

Renita

Sasha So can’t see why I wouldn’t be.

Because mutual keyholding.

MissBlossom that if you only make her wear the belt on dates she will be tempted to try and sneak out for a date without you knowing

And not wear when she thinks it will be a obstacle.

MissBlossom Maybe Renita would feel a similar temptation sometimes under the same rules?

But I knew, that such approach would never work in my case.

Sasha One option that mom has floated was wearing it 24/7, but allowed breaks as she needs them.

Yes, I'm for 24/7.

Sasha

MissBlossom This has actually come up, part of the reason I haven’t decided yet is we are discussing these various possibilities.
One option that mom has floated was wearing it 24/7, but allowed breaks as she needs them.
Nothing about this has been taken lightly by either of us naturally.
Though I suppose those may be part of her concerns.

Joh

Renita
From what @Sasha has reported so far, they are both aware of their responsibilities and talk openly about all possibilities. They will surely find solutions that cover everything. I don't see anything being hidden here and if there really is a temptation to be proactive it will be addressed.

Jonas

Renita Because mutual keyholding.

Agree imperfect, but better than nothing?

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