Owl yes, it's a courthouse in the US. I'm a public defender so my office is not in the courthouse. That means that I go through the courthouse metal detector sometimes multiple times a day. My computer sets it off already but sometimes I don't have my computer with me. They all know me so I don't get searched but what if it's a new person? Idk...
Chastity Devices and Daily Security Checks w/ Metal Detectors
On the subject of rumours, I must tell you that I understand you perfectly.
My sister, when she decided to openly comment to her group of friends that she was wearing a chastity belt, it is true that there was a split and she lost contact with some of them.
So far the bad part, which had a lot of weight on me for years. Analyzing with the perspective of a few years, I must say that the rumor was self-contained, and did not spread beyond the circle of friends.
I think that normally the girls who wear a belt are discreet and I am sure that there are many more girls with it than we think, the number of manufacturers, growing, is a good indication.
I sincerely believe that you, as a lawyer, would have little to fear from what you told the police, the woman to whom you explained your situation, on the one hand, the information should be secret, surely you would have the resources to complicate her life if she wanted to. be indiscreet
On the other hand, if you show disinterest and normalcy, she will be surprised but it will not seem like anything extraordinary either.
And lastly, you are a lawyer and she is a security guard, the rumour, I think, will always remain at a much lower level than yours. And in the end, at best, it would remain in a "a friend told me to be a lawyer..."
Owl Am I right that this is about USA courthouses?
And other federal buildings.
Some of the offices I visit for work also use metal detectors. Starting next week I will also be wearing a chastity belt.
Ines ultimately I think you are right but the legal community is small and I think rumors about something like a belt would spread fast. I worry that it could affect my career path is I decided I react to be a judge which I have been considering. Again I think the issue is unlikely to happen since they are used to us setting them off but... It's still in the back of my head.
Milou-dH if you are comfortable sharing, are you on the US? How do you feel about having to go through the metal detectors with the belt on. Please keep us updated and I'll do the same.
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No in europe. Im not wearing now. But starting to wear next week.
I have to ask mom to remove the belt before I go to places with metal detectors. Fortunately I need to rarely.
Milou-dH I'm pretty new and as others will tell you, have been stalling a little because of how nervous I got when the belt actually arrived but I'm back on track now. Do you have a plan to slowly increase wearing? I'm not able to wear 24/7 yet. I'm doing pretty good (I think) but I'm not all the way there.
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Are you working at places that are rather religiously conservative (or more bible oriented, if you like it), or rather socially liberal? I'm asking because I'd assume you could get a maybe unexpected sort of understanding in the former sort of places.
Be that as it may, since you probably can't design the places, anyway, how about starting to take the PR into your own hands and at an occasion of your choosing - instead of anxiously waiting until you are forced to answer questions in a moment beyond your control.
For instance, choose a guard you know and feel comfortable enough with. Look for a time when it's rather relaxed at the checkpoint and a suitable place for talking (maybe there is some office nearby or at least a discrete corner where you can talk without more people listening).
Personally I'd not wear your equipment for that talk yet. IMO it could backfire when you have to admit that you have been "smuggling" in that stuff beyond the checkpoint, already. They are the authority concerning the buildings security; and saying that you effectively fooled them by hiding metal items for days wouldn't seem a great place to start, But that's up to you to decide...
Then I'd open that for several reasons you plan to wear protective metal underwear in the near future.
You just wanted them to know in advance, because you expect to show-up at the scanner and you wanted to simplify and speed up the procedure. You might also mention that you anticipate it might provoke questions and it was easier to you to answer them now instead of when everyone is waiting in the line. (Which is probably true.)
See how they react. Maybe they has questions, maybe not. It might be a completely dull affair. Or - if there is genuine interest and you deem them worthy - you might get into a bit more details. In this case you might add that many people name the stuff you are going to wear chastity devices, but that they fulfill more than one purposes for you (e.g. you could mention the use case of anti-sexual assault protection - which is both true and rather simple to understand).
In any case, keep in mind: You made a perfectly legal, well-though choice in an important life topic. You are fine. Your partner is on board. It's not a bigger than life issue, and on the same page, you neither have to be ashamed - nor have to hide it more than usual rules of decency demand for any other underwear. You considered it rather private, you just had to explain because the scanner would bring it up eventually, anyway.
And if anyone actually comes up with the "chastity can only be medieval or fetish" pigeonhole thinking - which unfortunately is still portrayed in too many media - you could say that it's different for you. Besides that these media representations are ill-informed and sometimes just click-bait. You don't have to argue, unless you consider it important to set things right.
Of course it's all up to you how much you open up. Yet I think in your respectable position you have a very strong base to actively shape what will be said in the future. At least that is what I'd do. And let's face it, sooner or later you will have to answer these questions. Why not getting control of the playfield in advance?
You can go on with this as long as you like. Don't wear there yet, just talk. One after the other. Get experience with these talks. Talk to more of the security personnel. Different shifts, different places. If you get along with someone pretty well, you can announce that you wanted to tell some of their colleagues as well, before you actually wear, so that replacements or different shifts know, too. Or maybe your favorite guard even does this for you.
Don't force yourself into a fixed time and place where the likelihood that you wear your devices and are confronted with completely uninformed guards is too high. You can choose the time for this. Your plan, your underwear, your life. Only start entering the courthouse with your metal stuff when you are pretty sure at least someone at the checkpoint is on board. If you are called out at the security checkpoint, address that person and refer to your prior talk. That way there is less basis for rumor, and much more informed understanding instead.
And, who knows, maybe there is one or the other, who eventually (secretly or openly) finds you the coolest and most decent attorney they've met so far ...