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BD1791

Bryan Does this mean no more wearing your belt overnight? :-)

😂... I have not been wearing the belt overnight but not because of the access stuff. It's because I have really been struggling to sleep with it on and I need sleep to function. His goal is that it be on all of the time except for when we are intimate. We are hoping that the new belt will be more comfortable but I'm beginning to think I just need to adjust. I'm not really sure if I can though. Daytime I have no issues but at night I struggle.

Ines

BD1791 to sleep with it on and I need sleep to function.

Yes, any belt is more valuable than a good rest.

BD1791 His goal is that it be on all of the time except for when we are intimate.

It is expected coming of a partner. 😊

BD1791 Daytime I have no issues but at night I struggle.

As everyone of us BD, my biggest crises were at night, always arises a bad itch, or you think, or you feel desire, or you feel bad feeling powerless inside your belt.
I recognize myself in your posts. My begginer myself, I mean.

Angelina

BD1791 He's pretty supportive but I don't know if it will get better. Part off my thinks I have lived too much life without it to adjust to this lifestyle now.

yes, i understand the thoughts, in the end it is a question that you and your partner have to clarify. how important is the chastity belt? what are all the pros and cons? then you can develop a regime. But that takes time and experience, which you are currently doing

BD1791

yes, it's always hardest at night, i think almost every girl can confirm that. maybe the belt isn't necessary at night, when it's lying next to you in bed it doesn't actually need a "control tool"

BD1791

Ines As everyone of us BD, my biggest crises were at night, always arises a bad itch, or you think, or you feel desire, or you feel bad feeling powerless inside your belt.

Sometimes that happens to me but mostly it's my inability to get comfortable. I like to curl up on my side but the belt won't let me curl. I actually haven't tried to sleep with it on in a while. It's possible he's given up on me wearing at night. We'll need to talk about it but I've been really overwhelmed at work so we haven't had much time.

Andrew

Angelina yes, it's always hardest at night, i think almost every girl can confirm that

I've seen a lot of this type of comments on the forum and I admit that they surprise me a bit, because my experience with wearing a chastity belt is different (of course, I'm a man, so there may be differences). The belt (cheap, Chinese) has always been the most comfortable for me at night, when my physical activity was limited to turning from side to side in bed. However, I was unable to wear it during the day, especially outside the home - it rubbed my thighs, it was also visible under my pants (unless I was wearing loose cargo pants). The various chastity cages, on the other hand, were comfortable during the day, while sleeping in them was difficult, because the morning erection was torturous in them (the belt did not allow for erections).

BD1791

Angelina how important is the chastity belt? what are all the pros and cons? then you can develop a regime.

I think it's pretty important to him and because of that it's important to me. I like him controlling it and me too a certain extent but I don't want to be miserable forever either. I think we may ultimately find that it's a day thing when I'm not with him but not something I can do at night. I don't know. It's more stressful than I anticipated.

Ines

Andrew

Female body curves are a big difference, specially hips.
About bruises in the inner thighs, I am only uncomfortable if I cross the legs, for me is not possible do it in a nice way, and is uncomfortable.

It will depends on Lordosis too, the curvature of the back.

Angelina

Andrew

probably your problem was the cheap belt. a branded belt that is made to measure should not cause such problems neither at night nor during the day. there is no guarantee, but with branded belts the risk is lower. besides, i was talking more about the mental problems than the physical ones. at night nothing distracts us, so from my point of view it is harder

Cb85

Andrew mornings suck. But emptying my bladder really helps.

Angelina

BD1791

does he live now with you? then i would say a belt is not necessary at night when you share a bed, i think he can certainly understand that when he considers what a great gift you give him during the day. 🙂
Any News about the Neosteel belt and the Thighbands?

Sin

BD1791 I don't want to be miserable forever either. I think we may ultimately find that it's a day thing when I'm not with him but not something I can do at night.

Entirely valid... It's easy to develop unrealistic expectations after reading too many stories on the internet. You do you, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

BD1791

Angelina does he live now with you?

He's in the process of moving in with me. He's mostly here all of the time but he won't officially live with me until February.

Angelina Any News about the Neosteel belt and the Thighbands?

No. He was keeping in close contact with me but it's kind of dropped off. I emailed him the other day and haven't received a response back. Hopefully I hear something soon.

Sin It's easy to develop unrealistic expectations after reading too many stories on the internet. You do you, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

That's good to know. I'm not sure how unrealistic they are though. People on here seem to do ok at night. Are they just always uncomfortable?

Sin

BD1791 People on here seem to do ok at night.

That's exactly what I'm talking about!

I started off using mine at night rather than during the day, but in any case, it takes a very long time to work up to the point where you can wear it all the time. A few weeks of training then 24/7 wear is shall we say... something of an anomally in the chastity community. 😉

Angelina

BD1791 He's in the process of moving in with me. He's mostly here all of the time but he won't officially live with me until February

ok, that's only a few more days, i think the "night problem" will solve itself then. 🙂

BD1791 People on here seem to do ok at night. Are they just always uncomfortable?

well, of course chastity belts are always disturbing at night. it's a learning process, at some point you'll know how to lie best. after all, we can't stop sleeping just because of the belt. 😂

Bryan

BD1791 I hope your move (or I suppose your boyfriend's move :-) went well. Any news on your Neosteel order and adjusting to your current belt?

Owl

Had a long forum break. Currently skimming about things that happened in the meantime. Maybe your (BD) situation already changed. The following could however still be relevant both for you or others waiting for Neosteel:

BD1791 I emailed him the other day and haven't received a response back. Hopefully I hear something soon.

Compare the most recent post from other thread: https://unwedchastity.org/d/738-neosteel-general-discussions/96

Mike_Orca

Sin I started off using mine at night rather than during the day, but in any case, it takes a very long time to work up to the point where you can wear it all the time.

In my experience, it depends a lot on how well the belt fits. My first custom made My-steel CB was wearable only a few hours and I doubt that this would have changed very much over time. After two major modifications it was OK for nearly 23/7.

When I ordered a second My-steel CB with all my previous experience, I was told to start slow again. In fact, the second belt was wearable 24/7 with the exception of sports from day one. No problems at night and a degree of discomfort that could be handled over the days. I guess if I had started with belt 2, few weeks of training might have been enough. Thus, I do not consider it completely implausible, but only in exceptional cases anything close to 24/7 will be possible after few weeks.

Ines

Sin A few weeks of training then 24/7 wear is shall we say... something of an anomally in the chastity community. 😉

In some weeks is possible, but you are not totally used to the belt. I had months of training, as I wrote here, and I have some issues for years, but I saw my cousine training, and yes... with some weeks you can use it 24 hours... but you are not used at all.

Angelina

Cb85 mornings suck.

because of the "male phenomenon" ? (in germany we call it "Morgenlatte") 😂

Cb85

Sleeping was a huge challenge. Eventually I had to change how I slept and that was a huge adjustment. My Chinese cage worked pretty good but not nearly as comfortable as the custom one. I’d never recommend getting custom till you get experience with the cheap ones.

Eventually with sleeping I just had to suck it up and wear it till it forced me to adjust to sleeping with it on.

Every morning and evening after bathing I apply lotion and that helps.

Girls could try sleeping with a pillow between their legs. It helps my wife sleep, she has hip pain.

Bryan

Angelina If I am mapping that translation correctly, it sounds like it may be unintentionally awkward ordering a morning coffee in German?

youdontknowme

Bryan In this case, "Latte" means a slat of wood, so it is a fairly literal translation of morning wood. But yes, plenty of jokes about Caffè Latte have been made in German.

Angelina

Bryan

as @youdontknowme already wrote you can make many jokes about a coffee latte. but i was rather referring to the phenomenon of men having unintended erections in the morning due to "wet dreams" 😂

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