Am i normal?

Sasha

toad For me chastity was the tool to curb my awful behavior. Not really a submissive thing for me

Steve

She is very open about talking about her sex life with her friends, so she wants me to be open about my chastity with em. Of the three points its my biggest concern. While she assured me they will keep it as a secret, i am still bothered.
Yes, i guess i would be a sub, but thats something i can probably manage. I know her long enough to trust her fully.
She will keep me locked for the forseeable future, as she thinks getting in a relationship with her shouldn't be an immediate reason to unlock me.

youdontknowme

Steve She is very open about talking about her sex life with her friends, so she wants me to be open about my chastity with em. Of the three points its my biggest concern. While she assured me they will keep it as a secret, i am still bothered.

I mean, there are multiple reasons to talk about that. If she intends it to be a humiliation challenge, by all means refuse unless you are into that. Do not let yourself get blackmailed into doing stuff you would rather not do.

But on the other hand, that does not seem like the way you describe your friend / potential girlfriend otherwise. I think she wants people to know about the arrangement you two have, so you have someone to confide in and someone can hold her accountable. And she does not want to tell otehrs behind your back. In that case, confiding your arrangement in people that are closer to her than to you might just be a way to shine a light onto this special relationship.

Steve

toad
Before my chastity i masturbated... A lot.
It was one hell of a distraction and very addictive.
I don't bother if she takes the lead, as long as she makes sure that i am happy too.
I will be released when and if she sees it fit. A relationship with her on itself isn't enough to be unlocked in her opinion.

Steve

Joh
Of course we need to talk a bit more on details.
I might answer some of your questions now tho.

Until she thinks otherwise, i won't have "normal" sex at all. I will stay locked and won't get an orgasm or other ways of stimulations down there. She want me to pleasure her with other means (like wearing a strap-on or oral)

If i want to do something or i don't want to, i'll have to ask for her permission and she then considers the matter.

If our relationship doesn't work out, she will still be my keyholder (that was a hugh relief for me)

Everyone pays for his/her own lifestyle. We both own houses so thats also no problem.

Steve

Andrew
She will unlock me, when she sees it fit. She wants children in general, but we will have to work that topic out. I don't expect to be unlocked very often just to have "fun" tho

Steve

youdontknowme
She isn't the kind of woman that would humiliate her partner... Or anyone else... Without them being into that kind of thing
I think she wants to help me being more open about my chastity with others.
We go to a party this weekend with em, so i guess thats when she wants me to bring that topic up with her friends.

Steve

toad

She means it as "being able to talk about it with people", which i have problems to do.
I have no problems being sub in a relationship as long as my partner loves me and makes me happy.
Still i would like to have sex with her on some occasions of she really is the right one for me. Guess time will tell.

Steve

Angelina
I really want to try. Pretty sure i can feel comfortable in a FLR.

The thing about her friends is, that she is very open with them about her sexual activities. So after a few days or weeks in a relationship we will have to bring up the matter. She thinks its best to tell them from the start, that we won't have sex the normal way for a while. Maybe it helps me being more open about this topic.

Angelina

Steve She thinks its best to tell them from the start, that we won't have sex the normal way for a while. Maybe it helps me being more open about this topic.

the question is, do you have to say that you are wearing a chastity belt, or is it enough to say that you will wait to have sex?

toad

I know that this isin't a kink site, but i think that's where you are going. For me one of the most difficult things is living our life in a vanilla world. "The big secret' is a hinderence between these two worlds. I see her as wanting to remove the hard line between the two worlds so you can be more open with each other and the life you seek. For the ladies on here, keeping their belt secret is a big thing. Most are not in a relationship and the thought of discovery is horrifying. By neccessity they live in a secret world and secrets are always work to bare. Big difference.

Avery

toad For the ladies on here, keeping their belt secret is a big thing. Most are not in a relationship and the thought of discovery is horrifying. By neccessity they live in a secret world and secrets are always work to bare. Big difference.

It's not their choice, really. Most of the ladies here are forced into the belt. To make that fact public would risk the chance that their keyholders would be revealed as abusers (mothers, fathers, aunts) and the women don't want that (possible destruction of the family). I do not think women who make the chastity choice themselves are all that secret. I make no bones about not coming across.

Anniegreen

Avery for me it even makes me feel powerful ( over myself) because i can control my urges and also the urge ( when it happens) to ask to take the belt off

Avery

Anniegreen for me it even makes me feel powerful (over myself) because i can control my urges and also the urge (when it happens) to ask to take the belt off

Correct, methinks. That was a man who said it would make a female feel submissive.

Steve

Angelina
I guess it will be the whole truth. I am still nervous about it, but if she is supportive it may work.

Angelina

Steve I guess it will be the whole truth. I am still nervous about it, but if she is supportive it may work.

i hope it will work, did she say why she is asking for the "complete truth"?

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