Getting a job, so you can be free from chastity

HHelen Be on the same social level or better.

you might want to elaborate on what you mean by "social level". That phrase can mean a lot of things to different people.

pestulens you might want to elaborate on what you mean by "social level"

Level of income and spending.

HHelen

That is economic level, not social.
Education and manners are main legs of social level.
Someone can have a lot of money, but socially be a zero.

Ines a professor can have a very high status without being very rich.

But, @Ines in USA economic and social status are much more interwined than in Europe.

HHelen Be on the same social level or better.

Difficult if she's unable to get an education (which you don't value), socialise like a normal person, or be involved in any sporting activities.

Given you propensity for 3 word answers, I hazard a guess that socialisation is not your strong point. Your actions are hindering your child's development and she will end up with exactly the same hang ups as you.

Sin Difficult if she's unable to get an education (which you don't value),

I mean, she seems to value it as an asset that can be turned into money and/or status, just not as an element of personal growth.

youdontknowme I mean, she seems to value it as an asset that can be turned into money and/or status

Than she should invest in scocial competence of her daughter. She need it to improve her economical status. Is she not able to behave as expected in different classes and not be able able to make scocial contacts she will fail.

Joh

Education, while important, is not the only thing that matters: resistance to stress, social skills, confidence, resilience, problem solving are very important too.

Milord You sum it Up quit well

HHelen I would like to know what kind of person she should develop into so that she can get her training paid for.

At least no worse than me.

so the maximum is to put a chastity belt on your own daughter?

No seriously, you've written a lot of posts here about your daughter wearing a belt because you pay for her studies, but despite the many posts, we don't really know what kind of person your daughter is, I'm somehow missing the emotional connection in your answers to your daughter.

Maybe your daughter could write here herself, she's been wearing the belt for a few years and would certainly have a lot to say

Angelina despite the many posts, we don't really know what kind of person your daughter is, I'm somehow missing the emotional connection in your answers to your daughter.

Keep it underground

Like Fritzl

Sin Keep it underground

Like Fritzl

I wouldn't make that comparison, I hope you're not serious

@HHelen I come back to our earlier comment. We have heard from you some views that you believe are your daughter's. We would be very happy if your daughter would join the forum and share her views, experiences and goals with us. I think it will also be enriching for her to hear from others what it is like for her.

Angelina

No, more like r/raisedbynarcissist subreddit

Milord No, more like r/raisedbynarcissist subreddit

that's more like it, even if I unfortunately don't have Helen's daughter's perspective, I just find comparisons with people like Fritzl inappropriate