Getting a job, so you can be free from chastity

youdontknowme and your relationship with your wife does involve a lot of love, does it not?

Of course, but money allowed us to have a wonderful wedding

Angelina because education is an investment in the future

Agreed. And you have to protect your investements.

HHelen

Again… all about money. May I highlight that I never ever read you writing something nice about your daughter? Where nice means “considered a human being”.

I really hope that in real life you are the opposite, otherwise as soon as she doesn’t need your money anymore your “investment” will probably dump you.

HHelen She is your daughter. She is a girl, a female, a person. She is a human!
No she is not your investicion, she is not an object!

HHelen Agreed. And you have to protect your investements.

You avoided my question and so I ask my question again.

Good education is the basis for being able to live independently and sensibly later on. Because the conclusion from your statement is that only if she follows your opinion and instructions will her education be financed.
If you are convinced that education is a privilege and she has to follow your ideas to get it, what kind of person should your daughter develop into in order to get it?

HHelen Agreed. And you have to protect your investements.

but your daughter is not an investment, she is a human being with feelings. if we have children, it is our job as parents to make sure that our children get the best education possible

Joh You avoided my question and so I ask my question again.

Sometime it's hard to understand you.

Joh If you are convinced that education is a privilege and she has to follow your ideas to get it, what kind of person should your daughter develop into in order to get it?

So, you are asking how I see her after the graduation or what?

Angelina but your daughter is not an investment, she is a human being with feelings.

Daughter is a human, her education is an asset.

HHelen So, you are asking how I see her after the graduation or what?

I would like to know what kind of person she should develop into so that she can get her training paid for.
Obviously not into a self-reliant person.

Joh I would like to know what kind of person she should develop into so that she can get her training paid for.

At least no worse than me.

HHelen At least no worse than me.

Could you elaborate it please.

HHelen Be on the same social level or better.

How will she develop to the same or better level if she only follows order from you?

Joh if she only follows order from you?

She is not.

HHelen Be on the same social level or better.

you might want to elaborate on what you mean by "social level". That phrase can mean a lot of things to different people.

pestulens you might want to elaborate on what you mean by "social level"

Level of income and spending.

HHelen

That is economic level, not social.
Education and manners are main legs of social level.
Someone can have a lot of money, but socially be a zero.

Ines a professor can have a very high status without being very rich.

But, @Ines in USA economic and social status are much more interwined than in Europe.

HHelen Be on the same social level or better.

Difficult if she's unable to get an education (which you don't value), socialise like a normal person, or be involved in any sporting activities.

Given you propensity for 3 word answers, I hazard a guess that socialisation is not your strong point. Your actions are hindering your child's development and she will end up with exactly the same hang ups as you.

Sin Difficult if she's unable to get an education (which you don't value),

I mean, she seems to value it as an asset that can be turned into money and/or status, just not as an element of personal growth.