Sasha Ah, I was under the impression that the choice had been made for you and you just came to accept it. But re-reading your older post, it seems the shock that a careless sexual attitude almost changed your life for the worse by burdening you with responsibilities you were not ready for was enough to get you on board with all this, and you have never felt the desire to back out of the agreement. That would sound as voluntary to me as a parental keyholding deal could get indeed.
As for deserving it, I get that you were a lot more available than you would have preferred to be iin hindsight. But did you ever want to have someone whether he wanted to or not? Because those are the dangerous people I had in mind that might deserve some physical restrictions. Not the sluts, but the aggressors.