Hi Susan, sorry again for my previous rudeness, it won't happen again.
Susan It was obvious Jane's mom was pissed at her and there was tension at the table.
She said there is no way she could do this but she was afraid her mother was going to make her anyway
Jane cannot be forced into chastity. That would be totally wrong and would make the situation worse. I hope her mother listens to what your aunt told her on this. If it's going this way she may need support standing up for herself. I've no doubt you could help and many here would too.
She told me that she had had sex with lots of guys, she didn't say how many but it was "lots".
Jane seems remorseful about all of the crap she did.
This is where it gets complicated. Jane has to stand up for her right to make a decision on this issue, while acknowledging that her own judgement is part of the problem.
Remorse and regret are easy, the difficult bit is taking the often painful steps requied to avoid them.
Here Jane is actually kinda lucky. She can entirely solve this huge issue, avoid any further bad feeling and personal remorse and fix her future... with just one choice... a belt. But what a choice to have to make! You and I both know how difficult this is!
I was wearing the My-Steel belt under my jeans. I took them off and showed her.
Wow, well done. That's a very kind thing to do for her.
She was pretty emotional so I just said it will be hard at first, but it is not impossible.
Very true.
no touching policy and that is the hardest part
Also true. But blocking this is really important. All the detrimental habits and behaviours that feed into the overall problem must be broken and not appeased in any way.
You've both done so well with this meeting. I hope Jane finds the strength to listen to what people have said to her, take charge of herself and replace her reductive and empty behaviour with a rich full life of experience, productivity and true love.
Can I ask, has Jane's situation and clear remorse helped you to better understand your aunt's motivation?
