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Chelsea

Hello everyone,
since I´m pretty new here I´d like to introduce myself.
My name is Chelsea and I´m a 20 years old transgender girl from germany.
I´ve had some pretty bad masturbation problems in the past
and could´nt really solve this problem eversince. I thought about chastity as a solution and I also got a chastity device but I could´nt endure more than a few days.
Due to a really bad relationship with my parents I can´t really talk to them about it, therefore I´m looking for here help or maybe some advice.

Wish everyone of you a nice and sunny weekend 😄

BikelockFugitive

Chelsea You could also just take therapy, find out what's missing in your life and get a permanent solution. You know the experiment with the rats and cocain water? That.
Btw, I always wanted to know: Bist du er / sie oder etwas anderes, quasi neutrum? Und wie spricht man mit dir und über dich? Always confused me.

Vanessa

Chelsea

Welcome!

Why do you want to stop masturbating?Do you feel you do it it too much,or do you feel guilty about doing it?

Angelina first of all you should find a suitable key holder, otherwise I would advise against the belt

I agree.

Angelina to make us all understand please write in english

Right.It is a bit frustrating when we can't understand a single word in a talk...

Laura

🤣

Chelsea

Thank you!

Yes,it makes sense.

Angelina theoretically I could also write in French, I have a translator 😂

I hope it works better than Google trad!😉 I've results with almost no sense,when translating texts,sometimes.

Chelsea She would´nt mind it but since we live like 200km away from each other its not really an option I guess ?

It could make the use of a chastity belt harder,yes.

Chelsea

BikelockFugitive Hmm yip I see, Ill consider that.
Uhm das kommt immer darauf an - bei mir sind die Pronomen sie/ihre aber bei zB Transkerlen dann er.
Transfemale die weiblichen Pronomen und Transmale die männlichen c:

Angelina

Chelsea

hi first welcome to the forum 🙂

um i still didn't understand if you are a woman in a man's body or a man in a woman's body sorry

first of all you should find a suitable key holder, otherwise I would advise against the belt

PS: ich bin auch aus deutschland, aber damit uns alle verstehen bitte schreibe auf englisch
PS: I am also from germany, but to make us all understand please write in english

Laura

Angelina but to make us all understand please write in english

Otherwise me and @Vanessa will start writing French 😂

BikelockFugitive

Angelina Laura Oh no frenches :c
https://youtu.be/CaNeh5UXDEU?t=39

Sorry 'bout that (and sorry about the Video : ^)), needed to write in german because I wanted to know the german pronouns. Won't happen again! (maybe)

Chelsea

Angelina Hello thank you for your warm welcoming 🙂 Uhm maybe I made it a bit unclear but Im a girl in a males body that´s why I want to be called she/her as well. If that makes sense to you but hesitate to ask 😄

Chelsea

Angelina first of all you should find a suitable key holder, otherwise I would advise against the belt

Yes I agree, I already talked about this with a very good friend of mine. She would´nt mind it but since we live like 200km away from each other its not really an option I guess ?

Angelina ok, then you are also seen by me as a woman 🙂

Thank you, that´s so kind! 🙂

Chelsea

Laura Alrighty I see, I´m sorry!

Angelina

Laura Otherwise me and @Vanessa will start writing French 😂

theoretically I could also write in French, I have a translator 😂

Chelsea

ok, then you are also seen by me as a woman 🙂

but mostly we say you (that's gender neutral anyway)

Saintprudence

Chelsea Welcome to our world, Chelsea, and know that there are those here who understand you. Particularly so in my case, as a trans woman who accepts the belt as a masturbation deterrent. What advice or support can we offer?

Chelsea

Saintprudence hey, thank you! it´s so nice to meet other transpeople 😄 Uhm I´d assume the only real question is how do you deal with your sexuell desire because that´s a real problem for me. uhm also how am I suppose to address you btw ?

Angelina

Chelsea its not really an option I guess ?

So she knows you want to wear a belt?

if she is able to cover the 200 km in an emergency fast, it is ok, otherwise very difficult

Saintprudence

Chelsea Ha, I forget my username sometimes! I was raised heavily religious so it seemed amusing to me 🙂. Just call me Prudence, she/her.

Sexual desire is a tricky one. When I was your age, I still identified as male, and quite honesty chastity would have been good for me. Instead I just suffered incredible guilt after self-pleasuring. I’m a lot older now, and I’ve been kept belted for a few years by my wife to prevent that guilt. But since I’m married, I do get guilt-free pleasure on occasion (just not as much as I’d like, haha.)

Of course, the advantage of mechanically enforced chastity is that you don’t have much choice but to cope with unfulfilled desire. You could be in a tight spot for a while because chastity only really works with a firm keyholder you can trust and is nearby.

Saintprudence

Chelsea by the way, is your self-pleasure problem so severe that it interferes with your ability to live a normal life? Or do you have some religious background like me that makes it problematic to do at all? Because honestly, I wouldn’t urge someone into the purgatory of long-term belting unless they had a very good reason. You already said it was hard to wear a device for a few days, and I promise a few years is tough as well!

Chelsea

Saintprudence Alrighty, Hi Prodence :3 .
I definitely get your point. It´s just way too much in generell and I could do other stuff instead also I kinda feel guilty about it but hm.
I don´t have a strong backround myself, even tho my mom is very religion I´m not.

Chelsea

Angelina yes she does. She is totally fine with that but the distance is a problem indeed.

Chelsea

Vanessa Welcome!

Thank you so much! 😄

Vanessa Why do you want to stop masturbating?Do you feel you do it it too much,or do you feel guilty about doing it?

Uhm the main reason is because I just do it way too much during a day and I get distracted from work I should do
and a generell problem addiction kind of. I´m not sure when it´s actually an addiction but it´s definitely going in a not very helpful/useful or idk how to phrase this but not a very positive way

Angelina

Vanessa Right.It is a bit frustrating when we can't understand a single word in a talk...

you can use a translator, that's what I would do if you wrote french

Vanessa I hope it works better than Google trad!😉 I've results with almost no sense,when translating texts,sometimes.

i use deepl, is a bit better than google translator but sometimes it makes errors too 😂

Chelsea yes she does. She is totally fine with that but the distance is a problem indeed.

then talk to each other and try to find a solution

Saintprudence

Chelsea I should add that although I sound like I’m questioning it, I respect and applaud your decision to join the sorority of locked women. Can you tell me why it was impossible to wear for more than a few days last time?

Saintprudence

Chelsea A chastity device feels to me like a bit of overkill. However, it would certainly be a secure solution to your problem. I just hope you’re willing and ready to live with the sacrifice of self-access in order to achieve it.

Here’s a possible solution to your long-distance keyholder: Utilize a device that can be locked with numbered plastic locks. Present your key holder with regular evidence that the lock hasn’t been tampered with. On cleaning days, take a time stamped photo just before breaking the lock and right after a new one so they can verify that you have not been released very long.

Alternate method that requires them to visit every so often: They keep you locked with metal locks and you have an emergency key in a sealed envelope that is marked in such a way they can tell you haven’t opened it. They come by every so often to unlock you for cleaning and verify the envelope is unopened.

Vanessa

Chelsea

If you feel negative about it and feel it takes you too much time,preventing you to do other things(more important ones,or ones you like),a chastity belt may be a solution.But it is hard.

Angelina you can use a translator, that's what I would do if you wrote french

I tried,but one of the sentences have no sense,even after translating it!😉

Angelina i use deepl, is a bit better than google translator but sometimes it makes errors too 😂

I may give it a try.

Lea

So they should understand it is effective enough to prevent you to dress very sexy,and discard the dress code.

Erik

Welcome!

Amira

Yes!🙂

Amira

It is a common feeling.Many of us think more about sex while locked in it.

Probably your urges grow stronger when you're close to your release because you expect to feel this pleasure again soon and "can't wait"!

Staying belted longer would probably be hard.And take care they don't think about it as a way to make you accept more easily to wear it permanently until you get married....

So,more than 3 weeks since your last orgasm,now?How do you feel?

Amira I got released every second friday for having time for myself.

The same frequency than @catherine98,except it was every other Sunday,for her.

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