Introductions

Angelina

Vanessa Without the chastity belt?No chance! 😉

if i would get the keys now, i wouldn't be able to wait 20 days 😉 but as soon as i had some fun, i think it's quite possible to give it up for a certain time 😉

Amira I'm sure my willpower would last for at least 20 minutes!

because now you wear the belt you would do it immediately when you are free, i am talking about the time after the "pressure" is released 😉

Andyhhh

Angelina if i would get the keys now, i wouldn't be able to wait 20 days 😉 but as soon as i had some fun, i think it's quite possible to give it up for a certain time 😉

I think 20 days is a quite healthy frequency for 'having fun'. In that case, I don't think you need a chastity belt at all 😂 But it seems your father don't think so, feel pitiable for you 🙁

Vanessa

Amira

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Angelina if i would get the keys now, i wouldn't be able to wait 20 days 😉 but as soon as i had some fun, i think it's quite possible to give it up for a certain time 😉

Probably,but not 20 days,in my case!😉

Andyhhh

The average for women seems to be every other day,for men,it seems to be once a day.

Angelina but for my father 0 orgasm until marriage the only right number 🙁

My parents think similar,now!🙁

Sara2001 Yes, my life changed drastically during the last year 🙂

Mainly due to your relationship,I think.

Sara2001 I think it makes a giant difference to being forced in a 0 orgasm situation or to willingly give up control about your orgasms, even if the result is the same.

I think so,too.

Angelina

Does it mean,that,even if you still don't like your chastity devices,you understand more why you have to wear these,in your father's opinion?Does it helps you fight less against these?Or hate these a bit less?

Angelina

Andyhhh

thanks, i think i would do it a little bit more often than every 20 days, but once i could stand it

but for my father 0 orgasm until marriage the only right number 🙁

Andyhhh

Sara2001 I don't think sex before marriage is a big sin or something like that. I would definitely marry someone who had sex with every girl he could get before marriage, but I think if to people love each other and have a healthy and stable relationship, sex is a good thing in this relationship, even if it only lasts for a while without marriage.

Hello Sara, I meant no harm to reply such an early post (maybe it disturbs you). You know, I‘m new here, I just trying to get to know to each of you. I can't agree with you more for your opinion! That's right, I think everybody should enjoy the delight from sex and not to feel sin. I don't know if your mind has changed after such a long time. And I also understand your family environment, and feel sorry for you. Being in chastity belt and unable to masturbate maybe means you can foucus more on studying or something like that. You can think of it as a good thing anyway.
There are so many posts in the past year, I can't read them all. Your story and your opinion attract me. Hope you had a good time 😀

Angelina

Andyhhh

interesting thanks to you i also read the post again 😉

@Sara2001

I have this feeling that less than a year ago you were a completely different person. 😂

Sara2001

Angelina I have this feeling that less than a year ago you were a completely different person. 😂

Yes, my life changed drastically during the last year 🙂 My opinion is still more or less the same, it is just more detailed.

It became very clear for me that I am a very strong supporter of consensual nonconsens. I think if someone (like me), decides to give power to another person as a free decision, that is more then fine, but my opinion about anything that is forced hasn't changed, even if I see that forced wearing leads to behaviour that is more pleasing for the one who forces us.

I think it makes a giant difference to being forced in a 0 orgasm situation or to willingly give up control about your orgasms, even if the result is the same.

Angelina

Sara2001 but my opinion about anything that is forced hasn't changed, even if I see that forced wearing leads to behaviour that is more pleasing for the one who forces us

so in something it is with me too, i have to admit that in the last months my attitude has also changed a little bit. i am still against forced wearing a chastity belt, but my father and i have both taken a step in the right direction. he understands why i don't like it, why i fight against it and that it is not meant against him but against the belt (even if he does not want to change the basic situation). but i have also looked at what he wants to achieve and his motivation is not bad even if i think the measures are exaggerated. we understand better what the other person wants to say by the behaviour 🙂

whereas it is of course different for you, because your friend takes a different role than in most other relationships

What matters is that you're still happy 🙂

Angelina

Vanessa Does it mean,that,even if you still don't like your chastity devices,you understand more why you have to wear these,in your father's opinion?Does it helps you fight less against these?Or hate these a bit less?

i still fight a lot, even if it is not as much as in the beginning and i still hate the devices 🙁

but the relationship with my father has improved because we understand each other much better 🙂

Vanessa

Angelina

Your reactions and feelings are logical,and the side effect of improving your relationship with your father is nice!🙂

Epicurus

Welcome!🙂

Without a keyholder,it is not true chastity,I think.

Epicurus an online keyholder

Don't you think it is a bit risked,to ask for someone you don't know much?

Epicurus Also haha yes the best keyholders are people in person like girlfriends/boyfriends/wives/husbands

I agree.

Epicurus

Hello everyone. I am a 19 year old guy from the UK, with more knowledge of male chastity and male chastity cages than the average person, but I not so much knowledge about female chastity belts. I enjoy chastity not because I want to preserve my purity or anything like that, but I self-lock and keep chaste for quite long periods of time because I am more interested in the BDSM aspect of chastity. I do not have a keyholder yet. I look forward to many interesting conversations to be had on this forum 😊.

Angelina

Epicurus

then once officially welcome to the forum,

but you have to remember that we are not really a bdsm forum, we write a lot about the original purpose of the belt

PS: without a key holder it is not chastity (just my opinion)

Epicurus

Angelina

It's good to be welcome, this forum feels like a nice little community.

I know, I realise this is not a BDSM forum. At least it's not about consensual BDSM.

Although I have always been interested in finding out more about chastity, my personal chastity journey is only beginning. Once I am adjusted to the cage and can wear it 24/7 indefinitely without having to unlock for breaks, I will get an online keyholder (it's easier than you think if you know where to look). Good to know that you don't consider self locking real chastity 😁😉 just joking.

Angelina

Epicurus , I will get an online keyholder (it's easier than you think if you know where to look). Good to know that you don't consider self locking real chastity 😁😉 just joking.

ok I don't understand the system of online keyholder (and I don't want to understand it because it goes too much in the direction of bdsm 🙂 )

I thought you were holding the keys yourself, so I had to point that out 😉

Epicurus

Angelina

Yes I have been keeping myself locked intermittently for the last 2 months, I'm still adjusting to my new cage so little chafing is still common.
I won't go into details but it's the exact system as you have except the online keyholder tells you the safe combination at the end so you get the key. Simple

Angelina

Epicurus

probably works with locked boxes or time locks and the online key holder knows the combination correctly ?

well i think you would like it more if the keyholder is a person from your inner circle that you can trust 100% 😉

Epicurus

Angelina

Yes. If you do actually want to understand how it works: you get a combination safe (more digits = better), once you have agreed to a lock-up with a keyholder you lock the chastity device, put keys in safe, set random combination to safe, put the combination into a special app for keyholding (there's one in particular), lock the safe and be at the mercy of the keyholder who can choose to release the safe combination through the app. However, you're supposed to keep a spare of the chastity cage keys for emergencies as well as an emergency unlock key to the combination safe (good safes have this option).

Also haha yes the best keyholders are people in person like girlfriends/boyfriends/wives/husbands however the app I mentioned has a very active community that ensures keyholders must perform their duties adequately. There are also multiple ways to get the combination from the app in an emergency so that no harm can occur to the lockee.

Whilst I 100% agree the fetish of chastity works much better in person but some people (like me!) lock up themselves because they enjoy the feelings that you get from staying denied.

Angelina

Epicurus

it's not for me, but I understand the system now 🙂

Vanessa your relationship with your father is nice!

the relationship with my father was actually always good, 2019 was rather the exception, but now it is much better again 🙂

Epicurus

Vanessa

Hello Vanessa, we haven't spoken yet. What makes it "true chastity" when you have a keyholder? I have a fairly good idea I know what you mean but I'm still curious as to what you think.

Epicurus

Vanessa Don't you think it is a bit risked,to ask for someone you don't know much?

Oh and by the way I kind of mentioned this in my comment but basically I would this through an app with a very large and active community of both lockees and keyholders. These keyholders have held keys for hundreds if not thousands of people and they have public chats where anyone can interact with them. They do this because they get off on this as well.
As well as that you're supposed to have a spare chastity key on yourself for emergencies when you're outside of your home, however the spare may be in a sealed envelope or something so the keyholder knows you've used it.
So no, I don't think it's any more risky than self-locking 😊.

BikelockFugitive

Angelina There is an interesting social experiment, in which two persons, one who lost everything and one who just won the lottery were asked how they think their life is, they obviously said "terrible" and "great".
Once this experiment was conducted one year later however, both gave the answer: "My life is okay".

Meaning: Your relationship maybe hasn't gotten any better (it's still pretty fucked up ngl), but you have gotten used to it and accepted it.

Vanessa

Angelina the relationship with my father was actually always good, 2019 was rather the exception, but now it is much better again 🙂

Good it's good again,even if it was a bit more complicated for some time(understandable)!🙂

Epicurus

In the case of a voluntary wearer,like you are,because you can't decide yourself when you take it off,even if you want it a lot(except with a safeword),and you accept to not have any control of it anymore,and give this control to someone you trust instead.

Epicurus

I don't trust much the fact they apparently have been keyholders for a lot of people before,but the emergency system is good enough to not make it too risked.

Angelina

BikelockFugitive

hahaha now the social scientist in you comes out right? 😃

it's an interesting comparison, only with the difference that my father was not as lucky as the lottery winner. there was also the danger for him that i would break off the relationship with him if he locked me in the belt

well i can't complain so much at the moment. i have a happy relationship and also the relationship with my father has become better and i already enjoy a certain luxury at home

I hate my equipment, but there are plenty of people worse off than me.

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